Miss Polar Bear
Okay, let's face it: we've all thought about getting revenge on that mean coworker, friend, and especially the boy or girl who broke your heart or did something just downright wrong to you. Whether revenge is immature, unnecessary or wrong, it usually feels good - even just thinking about it.
Now I've had my fair share of messed up heartaches: My "first love" decided to date a girl who could not speak English behind my back and gave me the reason "I just want to try new things," a boy I was briefly seeing met a girl at his cousin's funeral and left me for her, countless amount of men have tried to date me just to get to one of my best friends, and let's not forget the band boy I just recently wrote about who stood me up numerous times for the most ridiculous reasons. But even so, I have never really sought revenge. Did I think about it? Of course.
Alas, call me "too nice," but I can't give someone a taste of their own medicine.
Still being baffled over Mr. Band Boy and his elusive "I must have no idea a good thing is right in front of my eyes" ways (if you're new to this story, read: being stood up and then never spoken to again), my best friend pitched the idea to me that we could have a little fun with him and show him how it feels.
My gem of a friend even had the entire plan carefully thought out. She would start talking to him and act interested, wanting to hang out all the time, etc. Once he was hooked, she would make plans to actually hang out with him, involving something two people would need to do (lunch, a show, a movie, and so on) and then stand
him up. I never gave her the go-ahead, but being the stubborn (and apparently bored) friend she is, she's already started speaking to him and he's caught the bait.
As nice as it would be to see him witness what a jerk move he made and how it feels, I can't help but think that these things should just be forgotten about. The best revenge, to me, is not caring at all. For all I know, he could have been expecting me to beg him for a reason as to why I was dropped like a sack of potatoes, but I have made no such attempt; isn't that good enough? I texted her to stop her plan of action, and she thinks I am ridiculous.
But really, revenge is such time and effort if you really think about it (though it does make for a good story). If the person wronged you, the last thing I think you should do is give them anymore of your time. They don't even deserve the bad things, just to be forgotten.
What do you think? Have you ever gotten revenge against anyone?
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freaking awesome ways to get revenge, but no, I've never gotten revenge. I just felt too bad about burning his shoes, so I made my friend give them back to him for me. I just stop talking to them completely and try my best to forget them, etc.
You're right. Revenge IS sweet. But you're also right about not wasting time on that person whatsoever. However, sometimes they need to be taught a lesson and what better way to teach them but to give them a taste of their own medicine? HAHA Just dont let it get out of hand :o)
I say, the more bitter and resentful people get towards each other, the better - take out the revenge you wanted to on one ex girlfriend/boyfriend on your NEXT girlfriend/boyfriend. I'm not totally against, for example, leading on a girl who is remarkably similar to your ex just to fuck with her head. THAT'LL TEACH 'EM TO BE LIKE THAT!
In all seriousness, though, revenge is pointless because whoever hurt you obviously is not going to get hurt by anything you do to them; otherwise, they wouldn't have hurt you so deftly enough to warrant the yearnings for revenge. The fact that one WANTS revenge shows that you wish it felt as bad to them as it feels for you. That's never going to happen - if it was the case, they would have been a little less insensitive and thus less deserving of payback.
my first real boyfriend slept with 3 girls a week before our 1 year anniversary. my revenge? i bashed in the heads of his drumset, his prized possesion. call me immature or a bitch, but damn did it feel good lol.
now i'm in a 2 year relationship with one of his ex-bandmates and couldn't be happier!
I have never got revenge on anyone, my ex-work colleagues bought down the mean colleague by bringing her down a peg or two, she had a short fuse and the manner in we she laid into me.
Revenge? Tempting! But no. It's important (but so difficult) to exercise class while the other party can stoop to low levels by themselves.
"Living well is the best revenge."- George Herbert
sounds like you need to watch John Tucker Must Die.
thanks for the sub, i like reading your entries they're always interesting :]
I have....some Ive told them that I have. SOme, I never said anything..thats more recent though. So, I guess its for mere self satisfaction, self revenge?
I try not to take revenge on anyone anymore but you sho right, it does feel good! What a cruel world we llive in! All the things that are bad for us feels, feels/taste so good! Why oh why world?! lol
I did get revenge on someone, but it kind of backfired so I havent done it again
I used to be all about revenge. My motto was "don't get mad, get even." I think I watched too many soap operas as a child (thanks mom!). But then I grew up. And I realized that the best revenge is, like you said, not giving them the satisfaction of you being so angry you need to seek revenge. And also showing that you are the better, stronger person by not seeking revenge.
But it can be fun to think up elaborate revenge plots from time to time, even if you don't act on them
I've never tried to get revenge on anyone, but I'm just not that kinda person, I guess. Like, when I get angry it only lasts a few minutes, then I get really really sad. So I'm just like, it's not even worth it and I would probably crash halfway through my revenge and screw it all up
No, I've never gotten revenge on somebody, but I've thought about it plenty. It's impossible for me to rationalize taking revenge in most cases, and with my personality I could probably never follow through anyway.
Can't say I've ever gotten revenge on an ex, but I have done little things to my sweetie to make him see the error of his ways.
For example: There was a time in our relationship when he, without so much as a word, would disappear off to the bar for hours and hours on end. This, of course, would worry me, and when he came back lit up like the 4th of July, it would just piss me off.
After round after round of fights about it, I finally decided to give him a taste of his own medicine. The next time he did it, I just took off for a few hours. Didn't say goodbye, didn't let him know I was leaving, didn't say a word, actually. Just...went. I walked around downtown, went to church, hung out with the neighbors, you name it. Anything to not be at home, to not be somewhere where he could know where I was, how I was, or with whom I was.
When I finally did get home, guess what? He'd been worried sick. When he told me that, I responded with "And unlike you, when I came back, I was SOBER. NOW do you know how it feels? NOW do you understand the importance of common courtesy and at least letting me know when you're going to disappear for hours on end?"
Needless to say, he hasn't done it again. And, he's also gotten the drinking under control. So, you know, double bonus! Woohoo!
revenge is too petty. i know karma will come back and get him eventually. in the meantime, i'm too busy to bother concocting schemes for someone who's not worth the effort.
Maybe your friend actually likes band boy. Maybe she's not doing it for revenge
Haven't tried revenge yet. I'm a big believer in karma, so I like to think whoever wrong me will get what they deserve in the long run.
I don't think it's worth the time. Just recently someone was gonna message my ex friend to tell her off, i guess. But, i told her no. If she does do it, it's out of her own will. I want no part of it or no knowledge of it. I understand why she wants to..but that's more drama I really don't need. I can only imagine the uproar that would cause.
You're right - revenge is a long planned process. I just don't care that much to try and do it. I'd much rather just move on and forget about them. That's better in the long run, you dont have to waste anymore time on them then you needed to.
Not to mention, I'd rather that if we see each other in public at least be able to be tolerate of each other.. And seeking out revenge would just make things worse.
That kind of revenge is childish. Besides, it could backfire and she'll have feelings for him and he'll do the same thing to her that he did to you, or she'll just have feeling for him and they'll hit it off, or he won't even notice he is being stood up because he will be standing her up.
@kruton87@xanga - THATS WHAT I THINK
@Roadlesstaken@xanga - Maybe you need to be exacting your own karmic retribution.
Just a thought.
or maybe he did not really like you and he wanted you to leave him alone and that is how he got the point across. Or perhaps your friend really wants to date him? or he just is going to screw and run?
ur a horrible friend and both of you are too stuck on yourselves. even if u were dating an actual band guy of some talent he could do better than you and did.
move on get over it.
and ever think the common denominator is you? get over urself get a life and some therapy
Always thought about revenge..
But never pulled through..
Like you said: best to just ignore them
Planning a revenge and waiting for them to take the bait is really time consuming and tiresome
Best is to just let it go
"The best revenge is to live a happy life."
Which is what all my exes seem to do.
@LucyOwnsMySoul@xanga -
"Well I'm not one to sit and spin
'Cause living well's the best revenge"
I think you nailed it on the head.
(sorry for the double comment, is that bad xanga etiquette?)