This is a guest blog submitted by xSafety_x_Pinned_x_Heartx.My boyfriend and I celebrated our 14-month anniversary last week. This is the longest relationship I've been in, and I love my boyfriend. What makes this relationship unique is that after all that time, I still have not kissed my boyfriend.
This little random fact usually gets the same reaction no matter who I mention it to - "What!?" with various questions strung along, usually a form of "how is that possible?" I find this way of thinking bizarre. I've outlived all of my friends' relationships that have come up during my own relationship without kissing my boyfriend - I do not see it as necessary. Don't get me wrong, I would love to kiss him, and I look forward to the first moment.
What do you think of my "impossible" act? Is kissing necessary in a relationship? Have you/could you do the same thing, or does this really deserve the amazed reactions I've been getting?
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wow, how is that possible? what do you do instead? just hold hands? i wouldn't be able to resist!
i think it's kind of necessary, but then again, a lot of what we deem as "necessary" really isn't at all.
Apparently you proved us all wrong. :P
Do you plan on planting one on him anytime soon though?
i'm with those people who are like, "woah! O:" it is a little bizarre that you guys haven't kissed in those 14 months.
kissing is a way to show affection, you know?
it's like being in a marriage that has no sex. somewhat bizarre, right?
i think it's not necessarily necessary, but i would want to show my significant other that i do care.
do you guys hug and cuddle? i don't know. every relationship is different i guess.
but i congratulate you with your 14 month anniversary. (:
and if you are that concerned about all our amazed looks and what?!s you could talk to your s.o.
(:
oh, wow. you've got a lot of willpower. i wouldn't have been able to resist, especially after so long!
I know a couple of people who have waited until their wedding for their first kiss. It doesn't make much sense to me - I mean, I would hate my first kiss to be in front of 150 people and accidently bonk noses or something. XD
But to each their own and congrats on having superb self control... I see my boyfriend in 25 days after 4 months of being apart, heaven knows I'll be kissing him every second he's not talking.
Wow, well, good for you.
I don't I have that much will power not to.
@italktotrees@xanga - awwww that's so cute! i'm excited for you two to see each other again, too. i know that makes me creepy but i can just imagine it. hahaha so cute!
@PenaltyLife@xanga -
Yep I am so excited. :) He's been at basic training since August... heard his voice 5 times and have gotten 13 letters. I'm ready for the real thing. :D
What are you waiting for?
I think it's necessary at some point, but you both need to agree and be comfortable. I don't find it very unusual that you haven't kissed. Go with the flow and do what's comfortable for you.
My high school boyfriend and I had one of those really chaste relationships. We didn't kiss for months. And then we finally did, and it was anti-climactic. And then we eventually stopped hanging out.
But now, 10+ years after that first relationship, I couldn't imagine not kissing a guy for so long. If he doesn't try to kiss me after the 3rd date, I'm thinking he's not that into me. And when I'm really into a guy, I just want to tear off his clothes and have my way with him.
for most people, i think its necessary, but hey if kissing doesn't work for you...i mean it would...just that you're waiting for the right moment =]
some people are unique...like you and your bf.
would you rather have a unique kissing moment or a classical one?
congrats with 14 months.
thats amazing with no kissing.
its not a bad thing. but thats kool =]
:) Glad to know I'm not the only one! I'm saving my first kiss for engagement, but I've been going out with the same guy for over half a year, and have been pretty much in love with him for about 2 years now...
Congrats! That takes a lot of willpower!Â
@theycallmecrazy7@xanga - wow, your amazing. lol
Lol my bf and I didn't kiss until like eight months after we got together so I can kind of relate. =x
While I'm tempted to say "to each their own," honestly, physical intimacy is an important part of a relationship. If you don't have that, you're basically just friends under a different name. While I'm all for not rushing things and going at your own pace, it's important to know if you have physical chemistry or else you might just be wasting your time (and 14 months is a lot of time to have wasted).
i think that it is realy sweet that you twwo havn't kissed yet!
......totally odd. You sure he's not gay and using this as a relationship of convenience? Hey, don't get mad these days you just don't know but 14 months is highly unusual...
14 months?! okay... i just don't understand. not judging... but it seems so weird.
How old are you? 12? I am shocked. Aren't you attracted to him at all? Isn't he attracted to you physically? This is the strangest post I've ever read. I certainly wouldn't want to be with anyone who didn't want to kiss me the moment he met me.
that's awesome. it's a feat. congratulations.. and yes, i think that's the best way to do a relationship, especially when you treasure it.
save the best for the last.
it works with icecream (and most other things as well).
if i were to ever do the whole relationship thing over again, i'd do the same.
Wow.
well how old are y'all??
I want a follow-up to find out if you guys ever do kiss.