Miss Penguin As a staunch Democrat, I was (obviously) elated by last night's election results. I was out with friends. We all hugged and were merry; It was a magical night. But for some reason, when I got home, I got really depressed. I don't remember how my thoughts went there, but I got really sad that I had no SO to share the moment with (the guy I'm seeing right now was in Ohio because he was there working for Obama). I'm normally fine being single or just dating casually, but every now and then something like this happens - I have a moment I want to share with someone special, and I don't, so that makes me sad. I remembered how my ex used to pick me up and hug me so tightly when good things would happen or when we'd be seeing each other for the first time in a while (we were long distance). I miss that. I wanted that last night when Obama was announced as the winner. Yeah, all my friends and I hugged last, but it wasn't like that.
I miss having someone to hold me, someone to hug
like that. Someone that you're so happy to see that you hold them so tightly. I like the guy I'm dating now. But we aren't there yet. Plus he's out of town. A lot. So we're still in the getting-to-know-you stage because we keep "going on hiatus" when he's out of town for weeks at a time. And I'm finding myself feeling very lonely physically (and not even in a sexual way). I just want someone to hug me. I want someone to really hug me like they never want to let me go. Not since my soulmate left has someone hugged me like that. It's been too long.
In your experience, what kinds of moments trigger feelings like these? How do you snap out of it?
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I was feeling the exact same thing last night. And no, I don't know how you snap out of it.
News Years is the biggest one for me. I just go around and hug everyone. Hahahaha.
wow... exact feeling for me... my gf is 70 miles away... =(
I know how you feel. =[
When I've had a rough day or even a great day and I just need someone to talk to, that triggers those feelings.
When I don't know what to do about something with my kids... When I'm not sure how I'm going to pay the bills or fix the leaky bathtub and I need to vent about it...
My kids' birthdays... My birthday... Christmas ...
I'm pathetic, right? Yeah.. there are quite a few things that trigger it.
weddings. f*ing weddings. but i usually snap out of it after the wedding's over.
the rest of the time, i'm fine.
New Years can do me in. I'm surprise Valentine's Day (aka Singles Awareness Day) hasn't been mentioned yet
I read somewhere that humans need so many instances a day of physical contact (not sexual, just a pat on the back or hand on the arm) to maintain a healthy state of mind.
I completely believe this. When I'm away from home (I go to school two hours away from home and my boyfriend), it gets really hard and I find myself incredibly lonely. But if I get a hug - from anybody, I feel so much better.
It's hard, but I find that if I spend more time with friends, it helps a lot.
I felt like that last night, too. I'm a military g/f, which is definitely hard. He's not going to always be there for important moments such as this... which really stinks.
I'm afraid it's a state-of-mind thing.
The upcoming holidays.
*cries*
I feel like that all the time. I go to school three hours away from my boyfriend. He's graduated school already and is looking for a job back home. I still have two and a half years left of school (one of which I will be spending in Rome) and I only see him on holidays and when I sneak home for a weekend without my parent's knowledge. It's hard...and I don't really ever snap out of it. I do a fair amount of crying myself to sleep and all that shit, but I never really get over it. I've become calloused I guess, but then again when I'm with him those hardened feelings go away...and then it makes it even harder for me to leave or let him go back home.
It's not even the sexual aspect of our relationship that I miss, it's the way he puts his arm around me when we go to sleep, it's the way he looks at me when I dress up for him, it's the way he kisses me when I'm upset, it's everything about him that I miss. I could care less about any differences we have...as long as he's with me, the world is a better place.
I get the worst around our anniversary. You know, anniversaries aren't meant to be spent alone...but usually neither of us can make the sacrifice to see each other on that day (or weekend or whatever). I usually send him a card or text or call him to let him know I'm thinking about him and remembered the milestone, but sometimes that just isn't enough...
I miss being held. I miss just a gentle touch on your hand. A single kiss on the cheek. A big ol' hug to let you know he cares. I miss the hands twisted together like a licorice. I miss it , too . It's ok..
go home, tuck yourself in with a dose of nyquil (or a passage from Leviticus, or Edith Wharton's Ethan Frome). when you wake up, it'll all be over.
well.. you *might* have some ancient Jewish dream or a sappy drama playin' in your dream from all those two or three lines you read before passing out.
We all feel that way
Just think positive
Kind your mind body and soul busy
Do stuff you enjoy
Have a Girl night out+share gossips
Watch a movie, give each other a manicure/ facial
Go shopping
I know precisely how you feel.
ahh this entry was so depressing. the only person who ever made me feel like that is also the person who hurt me the most. this just goes to show, you can't rely on anybody else but yourself for happiness.
I feel you.
wow, i felt the EXACT same way yesterday. i think we're just hardwired to want to share our happiness with someone who cares about whether we're happy, you know? the feeling is still sort of carrying over into today... if you find a way to fix it, let me know. :/
timing must be perfect, for both of you. you have things you need to do first and so does he. so until the timing is right, you two will still be separated. enjoy being single. drown yourself with interesting hobbies. flood yourself with close friends and family.
@Liera@xanga - very true, never let someone else validate who you are!!!!!
same, big moment in life,
just forget about it really, or just find friends to talk to.
@Liera I concur. I haven't felt that way in a while neither except for the last girl that just killed me.
I still remember the way she hugged me and the way I hugged her back everytime I would come back from college. Sigh....
The only way to get over it or even temporarily is just to keep yourself occupied, that's how I've been doing it for such a long time......
I guess I'm glad I'm not alone. I have enough friends who are also in LDRs or who are single, that I usually can find someone to hug, but it's never quite as good as having him there next to me.
On a side note, we were together for New Years this past year, and when it turned midnight, we kissed, his parents kissed, and his little brother sat there looking awkward, with the cat on his lap. I think he might have patted it on the head or something.
everything truggers it but the most is when i see other people happy bc i have a bf but he is never around
!!!!!