Mr.
Lion
On Halloween night, I met a wonderful girl through a friend of mine - they went to school together a few years back. The girl, Cathy,
is planning to finish her final year of college in the city. We had a
few drinks and seemed to be having a really good time.
We both realized
we had a lot in common; she loves my favorite foods, sport and had
similar experiences growing up. I haven't been able to chat with
someone like that in a long time. The one problem standing in my way
is she has a boyfriend.
He was there with her that night, attached
like a leech. The few times we got to talk, he just sat or stood next to
her looking around (he's never been to the city and lives 10 hours
away). They met 7 months ago when she was still back home, so I didn't
know what to make of it. I tried to be nice by getting him into the
conversation, but he mumbled most of the answers and looked like he just
wanted to leave.
When she was leaving (from her boyfriend's
persistent annoyance) she told me to email her for her phone number and
that we should get together and catch a basketball game. We both knew
there was something there. I want to call her, but I'd feel bad doing it because of
her boyfriend. I don't want to come between anyone, especially since
they know each other from back home and have been together for seven months.
What should I do?
a. Call her and go out to the game
b. Respect the man and not call her
c. Call her but just keep it casual and see where it goes
d. Forget the night even existed
Comments (132)
sigh, *shakes head* I don't know how many times my homeboys goes after the girl who is in a relationship.
THERE IS A REASON SHE IS IN A RELATIONSHIP ..BECAUSE SHE'S A GREAT GIRL -_- lol.
I would say choose C. This girl is in a long distant relationship? Go for it! hahahaha. But seriously, it is pretty wrong. She's in a relationship for a reason..and then she'll feel totally bad after she kinda dates you..
Eh, just hang out as friends. C wsup.
a, if she's that great she shouldn't sway... and her bf would respect it...
and it was meant to be... nothing will really stop you two... but i mean don't like flirt with her in front of her boy... and respect that she has a bf and don't like jump her...i mean otherwise you have every right...
c. is the best choice. Keep your options open but respect her relationship
@immaairheadxl@xanga - horrible girls can get into relationships as well
But yes, I gotta agree; I would choose C. Maybe eventually down the road it will be something more. She's seems like too good of a girl to just forget about
It shouldn't be up to you to decide that she should stay with her current boyfriend. That is her decision. But she needs to know there is a decision to be made! Tell her how you feel.
Ditto the others... I'd choose C.
GET AT THOSE.
@Roadlesstaken@xanga - hahah, like jealous. out of control. pyschotic ones? Sighs, guilty.
NOT!!!! haha, but yeah. I agree, if she'll leave him for you..*even if that sounds hellaaa bad* uhm, do it.
hmmm, id have to say c
but also, you should let her know that you dont want to do anyting to come between her and her boyfriend, in my experance, it is always smart to make sure that both parties know what is going on, hehe, keeps from any unfortante "accidents" from happening
I'm going to go against everyone else so far and say go with A. She obviously has interest in you and the mere fact she said to email for her number in front of her boyfriend would mean to me that she is available to date outside of their relationship (maybe they have an open relationship who knows). You might as well go for it and see where it goes.
i say C. she wanted you to call her so call her. don't let something great slip by because on an imperfection---her bf.
C. There's nothing wrong with going to a game as friends. I mean, if something does develop, she'll be the one to make the choice, not you. If she likes you that much, I'm sure her decision would be justified. I know that if she does, you might feel guilty a bit. I would too. But, it's her decision in the end.
B. how would you feel if you were that guy in the relationship and suddenly another guy comes along and tries to steal your gf?
if she sees the potential, she'll contact you
what goes around comes around. i say just forget it. if it's meant to be, she'll dump that guy and you'll have a shot then.
@immaairheadxl@xanga - "hahah, like jealous. out of control. pyschotic ones?"
omg, that perfectly described an ex I had who once threatened to burn down my female friend's house for talking to me X_X
I saaaaaay... C!
the answer is C! I'd say choose C because you MIGHT just find out that it was better off as friends than a "relationship". Just because you click well with someone doesn't necessarily mean you have to be IN a (romantic) relationship with them. I've come to realize that the more I get to know someone, the less inclined I am to want a relationship with them. It's also because we're so alike that it would be like dating myself. (I can do that just fine WITHOUT getting someone else involved) Who knows, get to know her.... but just know where to draw the line. And yea, with all that being said, I believe in Karma too. But being in a relationship is all about trust. I'd be wary if she were to "cheat" on her current bf to try to give YOU a shot. Ya know?! GOOD LUCK!
and I think u know why =]
@eyesochinky@xanga - Yeah I totally agree (but not about the karma.
) Choose option C. Just be friends. Don't try to steal someone's girlfriend. And look at the comment 2 above mine. 
C, just talk to her from time to time. Cause I mean if she leaves her man now and gets with you, what stops her from leaving you and going with another?
So definitely just chat, keep in touch every now and then and when she's available (hopefully soon rather than in like years) you can work your way in there.
I have a similar situation with this great girl from work @.@ She tells me her b/f doesn't even take her out and asks ME what things there are to do since she has nothing to do but study.....
definitely C. i mean she told you to call her in front of her boyfriend then go for i. i don't see why not. you feel bad because she has a boyfriend then just keep things casual when you get to know her better and see where things take the both of you to. after all it is her decision to make regarding the boyfriend situation. i'll say just go hang out with her as friends for now and see how it goes.
C
Choose C!
C..i mean she gave her number so i'm sure she might be attracted to you..however make sure you keep it just casual. Â and if she's flirting, don't flirt back, and make it clear..you don't want to be her guy on the side. Â it's a bad position to be in.
Respect the man? What man?
Boyfriend does not equal husband.
So A)