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Jigg has started writing an online comic with his friend Jodie Truong (he contributes to the writing, and Jodie does all the illustrations). The comic is about a young couple named "Jill and Jack".
Jigg and Jodie agreed to let us reprint their comics here! The first one they published cracked me up.
sourceHaha, I love that! "Well, you want to see me every day and you don't want to see my friends."
So true, so true... well, not in every relationship. But I see a lot of relationships like this one, where the couple spends all their time with each other... and their mutual friends all fall by the wayside.
How about you: do you find time for your friends when you're dating someone? Or do you disappear from the face of the Earth for the duration of the relationship?
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i try to see my friends when im seeing someone, but i suppose i do not see them as much.
i have a friend who only talks to me when he is single [shrug]
they all come back eventually.
I find time to spend with my friends. They're just as important as my SO.
I always find time with my friends and try to plan lots of time with mutual friends, together, at my place. I also have girls nights the same days he has boys nights. But, so many of friends do and to me it comes off codependent and weak.
i'm kinda like that, but i never really had a lot of close friends anyway. she still hangs out with her friends once in a while, but we all go to different colleges and we haven't really made any friends there so it's not much of an issue.
Well, if my friends could find time to hang out with me, then yes.
My past few relationships have been sorta long distance, as in we went to different colleges so that we could only see each other during the weekend. That factor inadvertently helped me out with the juggling act; hang out with friends on weekdays, girlfriend on weekend, and every once in a while combine the two. Worked out very well!
i dont have to many friends.
Well I've only ever had one really close friend and she moved before either of us started dating, and once she moved I never tried to get into any of the cliques. So I just didn't really have any friends. So I didn't have any to loose when I am in relationships. If anything I usually end up becoming friends with his friends, so we just all hang out.
Friends are just as important (if not more so) as SOs. The fact that you're talking about the "duration of the relationship" shows me that anyone engaging in that sort of behaviour clearly isn't thinking long term with this one.
And I love how her face in the last frame is smiling, but he looks rather saddened.
I kinda have to spend time with only my friends... my boyfriend is six hours away. He's in the military, and he stays busy most of the time. So yeah, if I get a phone call from him/text of course i'm going to turn most of my attention to him.
I don't really have a lot of close friends, but I still find time for a drink with my school mates. It's the same thing with my boyfriend too.
I usually end up in relationships where my bf and i share the same group of friends then we all hang out in a big group. lol its alot of fun and i don't mind sometimes sharing my alone time with all of them.Â
I always try to make time for my friends. I do hangout with them less, but I don't disappear.
My boyfriend and I have different friends, but we each hang out with them. Occasionally we'll bring the other one along when one of us hangs out with friends, and it works out fine.
Well, in my previous relationship I became distant from all my friends...well most of them. My friends had a problems with that, and lets just say that things aren't the same anymore... :(
@BranmacFeabhail@xanga - that reminds me of me. I came back to my friends when I became single. And they complained about it and it became a big issue...I don't think they see me as a friend anymore because of what I did. :(
I actually find time for both - cause I love my friends + my BF EQUALLY****
Last night I spend time with my best friend, while my BF went partying
i don't believe in soulmates, so i do believe that SOs come and go depending the type of person that you are. but the bond between me and my boys, that shit last a lifetime and if any chick as me to ditch them because of her, to the curb she goes.
my last ex was awesome, she agreed that we both need time for ourselves and she "allocated" time for me to kick it with my boys while she has her girls night out and stuff like that.
I hate people who forgo their friendships for their dating relationship. That's a sure way to possibly lose everyone around you, when your friends feel betrayed and don't want to hang out with you and your SO dumps you or what have you. I think it's ridiculous. Personally I'm not one of those friends who'll run back after you've ditched me, and I'd never be one of those people either.
@Appleninjaa@xanga - I love your picture. lol
I have a friend who spends her free time either with him, or missing him. the two times i met up with her ended with her leaving after our meeting to meet her guy. it's kinda sad really, but i wish her all the best.
My boyfriend is much more important than my friends, period.
But I try not to ignore them, even when he's around.
I think it's a difficult balance for most people, especially when the SO and friends don't mix, at all... I do spend a little less time with my friends than I used to, but for the most part, I keep it balanced, since I spend time with my boyfriend when we're at school, and all my friends (who are still in HS) are at school... and on weekends, I can usually find a happy medium, since he doesn't mind hanging out with them.
the hardest part, i think, is that while you love your friends, if you really love your SO, you miss them a lot, all the time... and me and my boyfriend always miss each other when we're not together. :(
When I'm in the beginning stages of a relationship I find myself spending more time with the guy I'm dating than with my friends. But I keep myself in check and make sure I spend time with them, and also that he has a chance to go out with his friends or whatever else he needs to do.
If I ended up spending all of my time with someone, I would get tired of them pretty quickly.
I HATE when people abandon their friends when they're in relationships. I try really hard not to do that.