Friday, 17 October 2008
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What If Your Ex Came Back? Would You Ditch Your SO?
This question was submitted by j_speaks.
Given that you and your ex had past history, lots of mutual friends, etc...
If you were currently happy in your current relationship, and then, your ex came back, would you ditch your current SO and get back to with your ex? If yes, why would you want to, especially when you're content in what you have?
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Comments (133)
Why did you break up in the first place?
Think about the reason, and think hard.
Then see if you can live with it.
no way in hell i would get back with any of my ex's
my current boyfriend beats them in every way!
No because we wouldn't work.
We tried it. Twice. -_-
Xo
For serious?
Negative.Hell to the no!
The past is THE past. So the answer would be no. Besides, I'm a firm believer that as you move forward in life, everything always get better. So I'm pretty certain that my current SO (if I had one) would definitely be a better bf to me than my ex. And if this SO becomes an ex, my next SO would be better... so forth.
@JessxMaxine@xanga - well said!
No. He was mean to me when I was in a bad situation, and I don't want to give him the chance to do it again.
Oh HELL no. No NONONO. No. I wouldn't leave my man for anyone or anything.
I personally wouldn't do it 'cuz my ex is a player, and the boyfriend I have now is a million times better than my ex. However, I think you're referring to extenuating circumstances when someone might go back to their ex and leave their SO.
One instance could be that your bf/gf at the time had to go study abroad so you were forced apart. If they come back and the flame is rekindled, then it is a legitimate reason to leave your current SO for your once then "ex". That's if that person thinks that the "ex" is better than his/her current boyfriend overall, and if that person has more feelings for that "ex". But, if said "ex" had cheated or mistreated his/her SO, his/her SO should NOT take him/her back.
theres a reason to why we broke up right? I wouldnt go back to my ex. Im jus saying its not easy tho LOL
really depends who I love more.
sometimes you choose to be with someone new because you could no longer be with the person you love most.
theres probably a reason why you would still love them more than your current boyfriend right?
sure the past is the past but we all make mistakes.
it takes great guts for a man to admit his mistakes and do something to fix it (I have yet to find a man like that...) since most guys have an entire issue with pride.
if you love someone, you would give the world to be with them again.
feelings you have for someone aren't logical.
so why should decisions based on feelings be logical as well?
as long as it makes you happier... or it makes the person you love happier, then its all good.
I would take an ex back even if he cheated on me if he comes back....
of course thats only if I still love him.
Even though I'd probably be aware that I'd let him hurt me again,
and he'd probably cheat,
it would hurt less than regretting later on about not giving him a chance,
and it turns out that he's really changed.
No. He's an ex for a reason. Why would I bother getting into another relationship if I still had feelings for my ex? That's just unfair to my current boyfriend. Not that I would anyway. My boyfriend is so good to me.. I can't imagine my life with anyone else but him. He's just amazing. :)
I would do everything in my power not to. If I was drawn to someone who was proven not to be any good to me and gave up someone who WAS good to me, there is something wrong with me.
Definitely, what if your ex was the love of your life and the relationship only ended because of some unacceptable reason you realize later on in life. Everyone make mistakes and some choose to forgive and forget while others decide to have grudges. the choice varies because of the reason why did you decide to let go at the first time around?
Not that I wouldn't be tempted because it only happened about three months ago and I am currently single. But it ended really really badly, and now I know what a nice guy is like from dating other fellas.
Everybody is right. Exes are exes for a reason. I wouldn't want to redo that whole thing. People don't really change and I know it.
I would never do that - if I am with someone new, it would only be because I no longer want to be with my ex. Something obviously went wrong in the past so there is no reason to be with them a second or third time, just for it to fail again, right?
Why throw away what you have for something that has proven to not work?
My ex came back yesterday and posed me with this question...I actually wrote about it.
I walked away from him, even though I'm not sure where my SO and I are going, I'm happy with where we are...and that was never a solid thing with the ex...no matter the fact that he is the only man I've ever loved.
The key word there is loved, in the past.
they always do that it's like they have this radar of knowing when you're happy, then they go out and hunt you down to give you all these mixed feelings...
in the end it never works out and you're better off without them.
Hell no I remenber to well the beatings I suffered at the hands of my ex-husband to well. Aside from that I am crazy in love with my SO and very satisfied in my current relationship. I don't get knocked around anymore.
I am a strong believer that my ex is my soulmate, and seeing how I'm currently not with anyone, if she came back to me, I'd probably take her back. But that's only because I'm not with anyone right now. If I was with someone who i truly loved and cherished, then no way, she's an ex for a reason.
God this is soooo "The Notebook"
I was just watching that today.
Idk if I would. Never been in a situation like that. Can't imagine ever being in a situation like that.
No way. Even though he broke up with me, there's no way I would get back together with him. We're not right for each other even though we were together for 2 1/2 years.
Hm, let's see:
-Nearly three years of an amazing, supportive relationship.
-The only person with whom I have shared anything more than a kiss, sexually
-A man with whom I'm practically living, even though we each have our own places
-A man who loves me and does everything he can to make me happy
OR
-A guy I dated for about a week... five years ago
I'll take my current bf, I think. But when/if we break up, I think I will always feel that temptation to get back together with him.