Dr. DatingishThis girl from my work contacted me through Facebook, then after talking to her for a while, she randomly IMed me.
I really don't know what to think about her.
The thing I'm worried about is this is the first girl that's talked to me in a flirty way that is older than me. She's 22!
I'm only 19, and I don't know what to do. I think she's kinda cute and she seems very likable, too, but really, I have no idea what to do here. Plus, she is the one that contacted me.
I guess my question is, what do I do? Have you ever had someone randomly talk to you like this? Do I need to talk to older women differently?
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She obviously likes you for who you are. You don't need to talk in a different manner or do anything to change yourself. If you think she is likable, then just play along... and good luck.
she is only 22, not 42. treat her like you would treat anybody else around your age. the girl being older than the guy is not that big of a deal. i have dated several people younger than me (well not that much younger but that isn't the point, 3 years isn't that much) and my husband is younger than me. it works out fine. do what you think is right. if you like her, go along. if not then it isn't very fair to lead her on, even if it isn't intentional.
I agree. the age thing isn't a big deal. if anything, she may be more interesting to talk to than other girls your age and younger.
When I was 18, I dated a 22 yr old. There was no reason to treat him any differently than any other guy I've dated. If I did then at some point it would mean I wasn't being myself with people. Just be yourself.
=] its really not that big of a difference
in three years you'll be 22. imagine how fast three years passes.
im nineteen and my boy friend is 23.
and he was 21 when we started dating and i was only 17,
i know it seems like whoah! because you learn alot in that time, and stuff but its really not.
if you like her go for her!! =]
if she's persuing you she must like you.
just be confident in yourself.
if she cared about your age she wouldnt have talked to you =]
Score man. Just be yourself. Women in their twenties ROCK. Take it easy and enjoy your dating life.
The only difference between an older woman and a younger woman is that a younger woman (ex 16-18) is more concerned about high school and its drama while an older woman (ex 20-25) is more concerned about college, work, and family.
If she's pursuing you, chances are she likes you/wants to get to know you better. What do you do? Enjoy it, just like you would with any other woman.
Oh, three years is nothing. If it doesn't bother you, don't worry about it.
If you like her go for it. Nothing wrong with dating older as a guy. My friend who is 21 is dating a girl thats 25.
I like older women, you should consider yourself lucky.
are you sure she is pursuing you? or is she just being friendly and wanting to have a friend in the office? Or maybe she was just flirting with you and that is the way she acts with all the people she knows.
I am a person that can flirt but doesn't mean I want anything from you.....just relax. Become friends and if you like her more or she likes you more be honest with each other.
22? that's not that old! .... both of you are still in that young adult range. It is not a problem.
3 years isn't that bad. You're both in similar stages in your life and chances are you two will connect pretty well. Not to mention if she goes through all the trouble to talk to you AND IM you, then she obviously digs you.
be flattered.. i only date younger guys! my last boyfriend was 6 yrs younger and the guy i am hanging w/now i 4 yrs younger.. its all about your connection and how u get along.. be yourself.. good luck!
ahahahahahaha....
ahem.
My mother is five years older than my father, and they're doing just great. As other people have said, be flattered. You are both around the same age group anyways: college ages, in the stages when you are both trying to form the paths you'll walk for the rest of your lives. Don't ignore her soley based on her age; wait till you've gotten to know her a bit more, and if you don't like what you see when you've gotten to know her, then that could be reasons to not persue anything with her. Remeber, love has no age.
i say you should take your chances with her :D
Funny how this question was posted on Datingish...
So you dont know what to do w/ the stranger that contacted you on FB, so you're going to ask a bunch of other strangers on Datingish for advice. heh.
Okay, so you're 19 and she's 22. I know they say girls mature at a faster rate than boys, not always true. Although she's only 3 yrs older, doesnt mean she's more mature than you are. But, I could also be wrong. She probably has a fun & outgoing personality (considering the method she chose to make contact w/ you), why not?! It never hurts to meet a new friend...
being a 23yr old girl i would say to just go with the flow. its great that she likes you!!! good luck!
She's 22, not 40. Just be yourself, and let things progress naturally.
I don't really consider 22 "older." She's of the same generation as you, so you just treat her the same! I was 22 and my boyfriend 20 when we first started dating. I had never dated a younger guy before, but I quickly got over that once I realized how silly it was. It's called a social stigma, and they can usually be ignored. It just feels awkward at first because you've been told something different all your life.
3 years isn't much of a difference. This reminds me of that South Park episode about Ike dating the school teacher and everyone goes, "Nice."
Wow. Since when was 22 considered "older"? That makes me feel old & I just hit that age.. :(
Three years isn't that big of a deal. If you like her, then continue talking to her. Just be who you are.. no need to be talk more maturely [not that I even know what that means] 'cause if you fake it, she's gonna find out & that won't win you any points. Even if you're unsure, you can definitely talk to her & see where you want to take things. No need to stress. I don't think she's put any pressure on you to ask her out or become her boyfriend. lol. Just take it as it comes. :)
i wish  i was 19 again, now I'm an old men 47 ,and wish I was there
oh, that's not a huge age gap... well, i suppose at the younger end of things, it is...a difference.
but hey, at least you're not 18 and she's 32. Â that still irks my blood ...
don't let it bother you too much... but if it does, just let her know and don't try to pursue it or concern yourself with her.
so would people call me silly for passing up on a hot younger guy with brains & personality who waited for almost 2 months?