Thursday, 09 October 2008

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  • sorjai@xanga

    just ask her out to dinner. she'll get the idea :)
  • greenybaby12@xanga

    things you should NOT do:
    pull them aside and tell them- ok so if youre in a big group of your friends and your crush is there DO NOT pull her aside! this just makes both of you and the rest of the crowd really awkward
    tell them in front of friends-     once again it just makes it really awkward for everyone and its hard to react to
    tell them over IM- its really hard for a girl to think of something to say after that and it just shows that you might have insecurities, which nobody wants to convey. over text is a little different.

    what you SHOULD do:
    get her alone with no crowds of people- invite her to go some place with you, without your/her friends, or you could just talk to her alone at school in the hallways or at lunch or on the bus (if you still take the bus)
    slip it casually into the conversation- you might not want to go up to her randomly and tell her because then you are both caught of gaurd. instead just compliment her or imply that you like her. it takes a lot of balls to straight up tell her. just say something like "youre really cool"

    make the first step    - in some cases the girl likes the guy and the guy likes the girl. if you really want to get to know her ask her to go have dinner or to the movies or something. girls arent great on the whole asking out thing and (atleast for me) i like it better when the guy first asks me to go somewhere. it makes me feel more comfortable.

    if you really like the girl tell her somehow, because for the most part it will turn out in a positive way.
  • fearofthefallen@xanga

    Just tell her your into her and see how the cookie crumbles.
  • n0oPERFECTlife@xanga

    just straight up say it.
    theres nothing a girl likes more then that.
    dont let her find out from your friends, or worse hers.
  • kkong1028@xanga

    straight uppp.
  • mynameisblueskye@xanga

    "I know you might not be in the best moment to hear this, but I have a little bit of a crush on you. (List the reasons why you like her) Hopefully, you don't have anyone, and I'm qualified for a chance."
  • arenasa@xanga

    Go talk to her for a while, then ask her out after hanging out with her for a bit, or whenever you're comfortable enough to. :)
  • Frekiz0r@xanga

    Give her sweet little compliments first so you don't creep her out. :D then if she reacts positively ask her out or say something that'll let her know for sure that you like her~
  • gooshgoo@xanga

    JUST TELL HER. No tricks, no gimmicks, just pull her aside and tell her.  There's a lot of things about my relationship with my ex that I would change, but one thing I loved about him was that at the beginning, he was straight up with me about how he felt. He actually said (direct quote), "I LIKE YOU. I WANT TO DATE YOU." Luckily, I liked him back...but if she's a decent girl and doesn't feel the same, she'll respond pretty well and try to make it easy for you. If she's a bitch about it, you don't want her anyway.

    Or you could just kiss her and sweep her off her feet...that's what happened with the guy I'm currently with.    Though I'm not sure how that would turn out...the girl has to be in a certain, rare mood for that, and it depends on how you think she'll react...so yeah, go with my first piece of advice.  Unless you find her in that certain, rare mood...I can't describe it, but you'll know it when you see it.    Good luck!
  • RabidMonk4@xanga

    some of you people seem to underestimate the power that the word "no" really holds >.>

    I personally don't believe there is a way for you to tell her without setting yourself up to possibly look like a total idiot. You have a lot of options on here from the people who have posted, any that I have tried are already up here. I'm a pretty insecure person myself so when I find a girl that I like I always have this annoying fear of rejection that prevents me from doing anything. I have pushed it aside and took a risk but luckily it ended up well each time, I've told a girl directly that I liked her, I've written a letter, I've kissed a girl then asked her out >.>, Once I've even tried that drunk "Your hot, wanna f***" ...

    So it seems that you a pretty stricken by this girl... well then... There is no way that is more painless than another in all of them you set yourself up for a potential downfall... you just have to make the decision if this girl is worth the risk of possibly falling and having to pick yourself back up

    Personal suggestion? Ask her out to something simple, say a movie... that goes well ask her out to dinner do some casual flirting then bring it up when you two are finishing up...
  • frenchpearls@xanga

    Be yourself and ask her straight up in a situation/environment that is comfortable for both of you. There would be nothing worse that asking her in a big group of friends (who are always ready with slightly off-colour comments), so pick somewhere neutral definitely.
    Also, Don't pretend to be someone you aren't if you don't already know her, as you won't be able to keep up the businessman-who-fine-dines persona if you really are a musician who could think of nothing better than a picnic at a music festival. If she's the right person for you, she will grow to love you for who you are.

    If she says no- Be confident that there is definitely a girl out there for you.
    xx
  • Cliffycliffz@xanga

    Straight up or creatively :p...
  • TakingxOverxMe@xanga

    Give her a flower.  Just tell her.  In person.
  • kawasaki_saiyan@xanga

    personally, just be yourself.  if you end up acting like a total idiot, just let it be because you can't change what has already past (well, unless you have a time remote, haha).

    sometimes being a total idiot is an added bonus, it shows that you're fun to hang out with and to be around.  however, if it's the reason why you get rejected, don't let it get into your head.  she's either missing out or probably not your type.

    but yeah, girls like guys that have high confidence and aren't afraid to be themselves.  so have courage.
  • Riku__LightenedHeart@xanga

    well, you could tell her you want to talk to her alone sometime.. take her somewhere away from where a lot of people are. Then you can tell her 'You know, I kind of have feelings for you.' or something like that...
  • sexxihot@xanga

    @possums_rock@xanga - haha the girl will be appall to the guy.

  • sexxihot@xanga


    Bouquet of flowers is the best, dude! ;DD then tell her straight up what ya feel. talk straight right through her face be true. some guys are jus too afraid to say their tru feelings, turns out the girl is in the the melancholy mode:S

  • katethefish@xanga

    Take her out to coffee, take her to lunch, dinner, etc.  Keep on stepping it up, like taking walks together and talking, and if she keeps on going out with you she probably likes you. 
  • glimpseh2o@xanga

    I agree with a lot of comments here. I think you should be direct and just speak your heart out. Let's say if you did get a rejection...hey, at least you have the courage to tell her. That's always an admirable fact. 
  • mercurysunblast@xanga

    @screaming_thetruth@xanga - No way.  I hate when guys try to "ease" into telling me they like me.  Just tell me already!  I can never separate guys who just think I'm cool to hang out with and guys who want to date me.
    I just end up being super paranoid.  The best course of action is a quiet moment and then just saying, "Hey, in case you didn't know, I seriously like you."  The end.

    ~Spyked~
    ChiYokLown
  • possums_rock@xanga

    @sexxihot@xanga - Haha, well...I would take it and run personally, but I like the kind of guy who would say that.
  • venomxcupcake@xanga

    Just tell her. One guy friend of mine once said to me completely out of the blue: "I might as well just tell you this: I like you".


    Simple as that.


    Good luck.
  • e_e@xanga

    hmm my boyfriend didnt tell me at all until all of a sudden he grabbed my hand and said ' you know , i really care about you'

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