Thursday, 09 October 2008

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  • rainyday_windowseat@xanga

    @screaming_thetruth@xanga - idk, a friend of mine constantly suggested we hang out alone, and even called the outings our "dates" but when i told him i liked him, he respectfully declined my offer for real dates. as for the question at hand, i wrote a letter. i got everything out the way i needed to and could sound as ridiculous as i wanted because it wasn't to his face. and the other benefit? if his feelings ever change, he can pull out that letter and consider me again.
  • AnonymousBlonde@xanga

    @RamblingAngels@xanga - Haha, that's actually really funny and terrible at the same time.  That's why I save that joke only for people who get it.
  • screaming_thetruth@xanga

    @rainyday_windowseat@xanga - i think letters are cute too. just for me, i don't like being confronted with things really suddenly... so anything that gives me time to think about my answer and rationalize helps. if someone surprised me with something serious and intense like declaring their love/like for me, i'd definitely have a little mental freak out and turn it into a huge joke and laugh or something... and feel bad later :/
  • XxNoLifeKing_AlucardxX@xanga

    If I were you, I'd start hanging out with her and go from there. She'll either get the hint, or you can tell her straight up. You won't seem to make it out of nowhere, since you'll have the background of having hung out together. But, if you're friends, I think you should try to be more comfortable telling her. Just explain to her where you're coming from and as always, I guess tell her that you don't want the friendship to be destroyed over this.
  • melvinthaler

    just do it!  you're a man, right?  man up and just tell her you like her.  the problem today is women are acting more like men and men are acting more like women (used to be).  i'm assuming you find her attractive or notice some nice quality about her.  just tell her already!  if she rejects you, par for the course. don't take it personally, pick yourself up and find someone else.

  • Dustin_wind@xanga

    @Moktral@xanga - I agree. It's a very smart and indirect way to get her attention, assuming she realizes it is her you're talking about.

  • MrsMok@xanga

    @Dustin_wind@xanga - I think she'll especially know if she likes you back and wants to assume that you guys have mutual feelings.

    It's a lot of assuming, but it worked for me at least once.
  • xwolfae@xanga

    ask her to do something just you two (if you're comfortable with that) and at the end of the day, if you have a kickass time, tell her you have to tell her something, and before she goes home, tell her you like her.

    i dunno, randomly pulling someone aside out of the blue and just saying it out is a little awkward.. doing it before she leaves will have her keep in mind that she just had a great time with you, and give her some time and space to think about what you told her.
  • ThatOneGirlValerie@xanga

    @kimchikid@xanga - as are all things in life that matter and make a difference for the better.
  • LittleFootK@xanga

    i would say straight up, just let her know. you never know unless you put the cards on the table my man
  • TheNotoriousGOD@xanga

    i don't know why, but it seems like the "ask her out" strategy isn't so popular on here.


    in my humble (though informed) opinion, you shouldn't explicitly tell her you like her.  girls think they like it, but they really don't.  it's boring and there's no chase involved for them.  if you ask her out on a date, you're subtly telling her you like her without saying it.  after all, why would you do it if you didn't like her, right?

  • Dustin_wind@xanga

    @Moktral@xanga - Ha well that's good for you. Sadly it has never been attempted by myself, but I agree it would make things easier if she liked you too. It's always good to know that lol 
  • MrsMok@xanga

    @TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - That might even work better. I personally think that word "like" is extremely ambiguous.

    I like bagels.I like basketball.I like my professors. But I don't want to date any of those. (And two are inanimate things, but I digress.)
    You can't just tell her you like her and leave it at that. I "like" plenty of my guy friends. It just means I think they're legit, but I don't want to be anything more than that.
  • MochaSprinkle@xanga

    @buddy71@xanga - I like your card approach. It makes it better for both parties because what if the girl doesn't return the guy's feelings? Besides, girls like things like that... tangible, storable, can-be-saved-to-reflect-upon goodies :)
  • deep_ocean_of_sorrow@xanga

    just be thoughtful.
    pay attention to what she says.
    if she ever mentions that she's in need of a ___, go get it for her and write a little note.or it could just be a sale/magazine clipping and a note that says: "lets so shopping together!"
    do little things that helps the other person. it doesn't have to be like, buying a house or a car or anything.
    thoughtfulness goes a long way. be creative about it, but don'tbe creepy.
    ask her out sometimes too! that would help, just keep everything not too tense, laugh, talk, whatever! have fun. :)
  • raiimy@xanga

    dude. just tell her. doesn't have to be romantic or suave, just be honest with her. and i know it takes a lot of balls to just come out and say it, but if she is any kind of a good person, she will appreciate the honesty. i don't really think there is a painless way to tell someone how u feel. just tell her how YOU feel, then ask her what she feels and then u can go from there. if the answer's not what u were hoping for well then hey at least u tried, and at least u'll know. and DON'T feel like an idiot for doing it because any person with that kind of courage couldn't possibly be an idiot. good luck!
  • hopelessromantic

    Drunken texting always works for me kidding kidding. That's not a good idea. Just come out and tell her when the moment seems right. No games. Nothing extravagant. Just good ol' fashioned communication. 
  • y_tc@xanga

    give her a card, send her a txt, or even write a email if you can do it face to face to her, but still, I think the face to face probably is the best way to do it, but good timing is needed I think.
  • cmdr_keen@xanga

    Just ask her. It's always a 1,000 times worse in your head than in reality.

    Girls and guys both will appreciate being straight-forward and honest with each other.

    Like previous posters have said, the worse that could happen is that she says "no".

    And since when has that little word caused the world to end?

    Go for it dude. It's better to know then to spend a lifetime wondering "what if... "?
  • cmdr_keen@xanga

    Oh, and although this might seem absolutely excruciating, face-to-face is always the best option.

    Followed by a phone call, followed by a hand-written letter.

    Texting and e-mailing are big no-nos in my book...
  • TigerWolfBaby@xanga

    Apparently mix tapes are the way to go for some people....
  • shillyshara@xanga

    How about, "Hey I think you're really cool and I'd love to get to know you better. Want to grab coffee/lunch/whatever sometime?"

    Direct is good. If she likes you as well, she'll say so.
  • wewong@xanga

    by not telling her, and feel like a total idiot.  u have nothing to lose, just tell her.
  • buddy71@xanga

    @MochaSprinkle@xanga - thank you. and i kind of knew that about women. it is one of the things i like about women and what i like to do for them.  in fact...i make my own cards now with blank card stock and my own photos.

  • buddy71@xanga

    @AnonymousBlonde@xanga - geee...you mean that line really works????    but i have the feeling that saying that i would get slapped more than getting anything else.

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