This is part of an ongoing series moderated by Kari, our resident relationship expert. Fellas, it's the little things that means a lot to us girls. The way you tuck a stray strand of hair behind our ear, the soft kisses on the back of our hand, the way you pull us close while we're walking on the sidewalk and you see a car coming. These little things make our hearts melt and lets us know that we mean a lot to you.
And ladies, your man really appreciates it when you're cool with it if he wants to have a guys' night out here and there. Relax...they'll probably sit around playing poker and talk of their crazy (albeit imagined sexual escapades) and grunt like gorillas.
Time apart in a relationship makes you closer.
The saying "absence makes the heart grow fonder" is quite fitting when it comes to time apart from your partner. Giving your guy some breathing room for him to do his thing will make him appreciate you a lot more. Just because you're now dating doesn't mean you have to be stuck at the hip with this person!
Over time and when years have passed, that passion and ardor that you once had for your partner will undoubtedly fade but know that romance and love is not about a Hallmark greeting card or a DeBeers commercial.
Remember what made you fall in love with your partner to begin with and appreciate your partner for who they are. Foster and envelop the person they are growing into and appreciate the fact that you have someone to share this adventure called life!
How do you keep the romance alive in your relationship?
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When we miss each other or feel like we're too far apart, we talk about all the weird things that we've liked about each other over the years. It can often devolve into talking dirty talk, but that's not a BAD thing!
When it comes down to, expressing your appreciation for the other person usually enhances the romance factor. That appreciation shows that you care--even LOVE them (go figure).
It's all about the little things that you do, and also a little spontaneity.
Feel like going to a movie? Just go!
Feel like kayaking? Just go!
Trying new things together, or taking a new slant on a common theme (dress up to cook at home, par example) are also ways of invigorating a relationship.
Finally, never stop doing those small things that you used to do at the start of the relationship.
For me and my girlfriend, I always try to end the day by massaging/lotion-ing her hands and her feet. She loves it, and it soothes the both of us. Like I said, it's the small things...
Meh I have limped through 3 relationships that have just shreded me. I don't feel like trying another soon or at least until I am back on my feet. I am in alot of pain right now and it will go on for some time.
I did everything I could but in return I got trapped in a cage and butchered at every turn. I don't really look at girls at this point because it just brings up too many memories. When I do, sometimes I find myself just glaring at them for just being there.
Meh... I'll feel better after a 6 month time out.
Romance keeps your relationship healthy, even after a long period of time has passed. I will write "love" notes to my husband that can be quite explicit, and when he reads them he will be thinking about them all night, he can't get the kids off to bed or the television turned off fast enough on those nights. We also make sure we make time for us to be alone every so often, we are going on a little getaway this weekend as a matter of fact. Recharges the romance.
The unexpected gift (little things like preparing a favorite meal, or washing the car), or the spur of the moment call: "I wish you were with me. You should see the (whatever) I just spotted. You'd love it!" Or the perfect funny card picked up for no reason.
It doesn't make any difference weather you're the giver or the recipient.
Yeah they really seem to enjoy sucking the life right out of us!
He calls me & leaves me voicemails saying he misses me & he's thinking of me when I least expect it. When we were in school, I'd leave his place or come back to my room & find a little note he left behind for me. We'd bring up random memories that we liked or share a secret memory of our times together. :) I also bake for him when he leasts expects it. He loves my cooking & the new things I experiment with. He eats them all~ :) He'd surprise me with gifts or a little outing. All of which were well thought out & reflects that he listened & remembered our conversations. :)
we're just really faithful and trusting with one another. its absolutely astounding. :D we've never had any problems ...yet. :P LOL
he loves cooking, so when i least expect it he will cook something i had mentioned during one of our convos....and i just absolutely love it! and i try to surprise him by visiting after my classes when he is still in bed!!!
as everyone and this post said...its the smalleeessttt things that make everything beautiful!!!
I can't and I don't know, though I wish I know how.
I say the secret to be good bf or gf is to never stop trying
if you do something nice for each other, it doesn't have to empty your pocket and clear your schedual, it goes a long way. One of my friends said she fell asleep at he bf's house one time and there was a botte of coins next to his bed, she got up hile later to find the message "I Love you" made out of pennies XD
In my case my guy came to my house to suprise me when I was going through some problems. He came with a box of raisen brand and another cereal that was high in iron ( I had an iron problem ) and some iron supplements.
It doesn't take much to keep the relationship alive, but it does take remembering to do something from time to time.
I actually asked myself that question a few days ago. Hehe. I guess I should read these comments. :D
it's about the tiffany commercials instead....j/k.
i try to find new and exciting things to do with my g/f to further develope our bond. since after an adventure, we have another thing in common that we can both share with others.
Relationships are supposed to have romance?
Damnit. >.<
wow... we like to have space and sit around playing poker and grunt like gorillas... That is some real depth right there (sarcasm).
My boyfriend & I have been dating for about 13 months, lol the 14 just like the girl above.
uhhh i'm young let's put it that way? But i have a mature mind and so does my boyfriend....who is actually at his mature age. Let's say 20? While i'm still growing up and getting by highschool. I guess you can also say that the age difference kept us alive, it made us feel unique and authentic. I bring out his innerchild and he brings out my grown up side i suppose? We keep our romance alive by music. Ima have to say music is one of our connections...Sending lyrics to each other from our favorite bands is definitely something sweet. Or when we recommend each other to download a song or listen to it.
Also seeing my friend's relationships fall apart. LOL. My friends are still growing up a long long long way but yea, when we see the guy dump them and we're still together for this long...it's like hope? HAHAHA WE DEPEND ON THE FAILURE OF OTHER RELATIONSHIPS TO MOTIVATE US TO MAKE THEM FEEL SHITTY THAT WE'RE STILL TOGETHER. just kidding...for the most part :P
at least i'm honest