Most times I can realize them on my own, such as: I'm too clingy, andI have a bad temper.My fiance has pointed out that I can be too sarcastic, too touchy, and I occasionally make him look bad in front of our friends. I don't mean to do these things, but I do, so I try to work on not doing them.

I think it's good when people can talk about whta bugs them about a person to that person without fear.

When people point out your flaws, that's when you know it's gotten bad (or that they dislike you!). I tend to notice my flaws too much--that is, I am very self-deprecating when I reason why relationships have ended. I tend to fault myself, and my flaws, for them. 

I think recognizing flaws will, realistically, lead many people out of relationships, as a lot of relationships are co-dependent.  When someone removes the crushing insecurity and doubt that drove them into it, they won't need the relationship anymore.

Not that this is necessarily the picture for most relationships - but it's an oversimplification to suggest that becoming a better you is automatically good for the relationship.

I am a really bad judge of myself. I think that's because I have some self-esteem issues, so I'm over-judgemental (thinking I suck in pretty much every aspect isn't going to help me fix a relationship, I'm thinkin'.)

But whoa, how did you get her to be honest about your flaws? The only answers I get are along the lines of, "OMG you're just amazing in every way who wouldn't want you" and that doesn't help, either.

What do I do?!? LOL... kinda *~*

I notice my flaws on my own but sometimes I have friends who love me so much that they'd help point them out for me too. My boyfriend & I both point out each other's flaws when we feel the other doesn't realize certain things are flaws. This is all part of our plan to be better people for ourselves & for each other.

I'm a pretty flawed person, to be honest. Some of my flaws are similar to yours: too blunt, too stubborn, too emotional at times, have an incredible memory which allows me to remember all the bad things & hold it against people, ill-tempered, impatient, control freak.. the list is endless. It has affected my relationship in the past but thankfully, I have a very loving & understanding boyfriend who is willing to stand by my side as I work on my flaws. While that is still my current list of flaws, a lot of them are on the brink of extinction. I just like to keep them to remind me not to be who I was before. It is difficult at times to deal with my flaws along with my boyfriend's flaws, which are quite similar [too stubborn, words can be hurtful, ill-tempered, too lax], but we're committed to making it work & it's been pretty great so far. :) [I will spare you the details of fights we've had. We totally butt heads with each other 'cause we're equally stubborn.]

i dont find them as flaws but it is who you are.  The best thing to do is keep those so called flaws and re-think about  those flaws and approach them differently.  Make it a positive vs a negative. 

1. How blunt are you? How bout being suggestive vs flat out blurting something out.  Instead of , "That's so effing ugly", Say, "I think something else may compliment you better. Have you tried that light blue one?"

2. Caring/too nice- I suggest that you not over do your caring and being too nice. Caring too much can be smothering.  Keep things simple and at its limit. You want someone to welcome your care/generosity not someone who dreads it and feels like , "oh no, not another bouquet of flowers, oh no, not him to come to my rescue, please leave me alone!"

3. Stubborn-listen and heed what others say.  Whoever you are with, ask them for their opinion and even though the truth hurts, learn from it.  Take a step back and don't be stubborn.  Give it a try to let things go & not be difficult. When you are less stubborn, your direction in life changes and you can actually move on and not let things get to you....

4. hold grudges- everyone comes to a point in their life when you remember things and it makes you mad or brings back bad memories. You either let it go or you keep it in.  Forgiveness is the hardest thing one can ever do but you know what? Letting those past thing go & forgiving makes you the better person.  No matter what it is, it's the person that did something bad that lives w/it, not you.  Take those past experiences and learn from them.  Ask yourself how you would deal w/them in a positive way and what you can do in the future to avoid these conflicts.  Remember, it's on them that they're the ones that screwed you over or did something bad, not you.  Once you let that go, it's one less thing to deal with and one less person to have to think about it.  When you see that person, know that you are the better person and that you have moved on to better things.  You know you dont "need" those negativity around you b/c it only makes you upset, mad & frustrated.

Trust me, when you can do all that, you become better, stronger & self confident.  Your self esteem takes you to a new level and people will "feel" and sense it....You'll be amazed at who will come your way and what female would love to be around you....

@eternal_dreaming@xanga - o..  i think he meant being too caring/too nice to his gf & in the relationship.. 

@Princess_Jewelia@xanga - To some girls, it can definitely be misinterpreted as a date. I know the flirt perceived the movie as a date & took it to mean he was interested in her & ultimately caused her to reveal her feelings to him two months into our relationship. [& all he did was go see the movie with her. He didn't take her out to eat or anything..] I don't quite get girls sometimes..

I think "being too nice" can be perceived as flaws with both the girlfriend & with regards to others outside the relationship. With the girlfriend, being too nice would make the boyfriend like a doormat. With regards to others outside the relationship, he could be too nice to others & give the girl an air that she's not as special as he says she is.. I guess that's just how I view it.

I know my flaws, but the hardest part is changing them. :)

I do have flaws and I almost always notice them myself (I do a lot of introspection), but I would like a different perspective other than my own.  As for it affecting my relationships, it always does because that is part of my personality.  I could name them all but that will take time and right now I don't that much time to do this lol.

I honestly don't know what relationship ending flaws are. My last boyfriend told me one of the reasons he was leaving me was because I was sad over the fact that the week before, my 2 month old kitten got lost.

I think that most of the times, I'm able to recognize my own flaws. I'm glad that I do because I know that I can be wrong. Once I get to know what they are, I'm able to try to fix things. However, it's really hard to change when you've been like that your whole life. Mine have nothing to do with being a cheater or anything. But, I've been a loner, and though I'm ok with talking to people and just having fun, I really do like going with the flow and enjoy being a loner. I guess at times, it's hard to open up, but I do realize that a healthy relationship needs good communication.

My flaws:
1) I have a hard time telling/showing people how I feel.
2) I'm not into conventional romance, but I still expect something romantic from time to time.
3) I am not very affectionate (especially in public).
4) I nag.
5) I don't know how to argue.
6) I'm blunt.
7) I'm selfish.

My ex's flaws:
1) He was too nice.  He doesn't say