Friday, 10 October 2008
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Friday Fun: Can You Seek Out Love or Does It Find You?
One typical cliché about finding love is that it shows up when you least expect it - you can't actively seek it out.
Is this consistent with what you've found? Can you will yourself to find romance?
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well, sometimes i agree, sometimes i don't. when i try too hard, i realize it fails, when i don't try and try to kick it away, it comes knocking on my door so hard..hehe go figure what i mean.
Life sometimes has its surprises and u don't know what it brings sometimes.
:)
If its yours, no matter how hard u try or don't try to keep it, it is yours, when it isn't, it aint gonna be urs even if u cage it to be with you.
I hope it's true. I'm going to STOP looking and become UNavailable from now on! I'll just sit home with my Xbox and my Halo and wait for the girl of my dreams to show up! (preferably wearing something skimpy) LOL! :b
Love can be found anywhere, though seeking it never works for me.
I met my matches at either school, work, or through friends. Even though those are pretty typical ways to meet people, it still seemed to catch me off guard.
Considering I met my husband randomly in a cafe, I say love just happens sometimes.
Im still waiting.
I think for me the most important thing is to accept the end of a bad relationship [and obviously relationship has to be bad for it to end]
and accept that you are okay by yourself
before love can find you
afterall, how can someone love you if you don't love yourself?
the love i have now was totally out of the blue.
i was still kind of mourning my ex, when i agreed to hang out w/ my current SO for the first time in about 2 years, and it was like BANG, immediate attraction :D
The best relationships I've had have been where they just kind of "happened" - I wasn't really looking for anyone. I think they happen that way because you're more your true self, rather than the "self" you put out in public in hopes of "finding" someone.
I think it's true. I'd known Michael for three years before we ever even got together. We were aquaintances, only seeing each other at school events that both are schools were attending & we in turn decided to jump on the band wagon, or if we just happened to randomly bump into each other while we were out & about during the day.
We were both at a camp for my college, there were about 30 people there. We began talking & I took him home one night because his car broke down. I was completely taken by surprise as to just how much I liked him & he liked me! We've been dating for two months now & are extremely happy. :]
I wrote about this once. I believe it's a combination of the two.
Love finds you at the most unsual time. I never try looking for love because I know I will come home with nothing and honestly, how can you meet Mr. Right in a day? I remember when I met my ex. I was having a bad day.
It found me. Hoping it's still there waiting for me.
This is extremely consistant with what I've found. My last several relationships have cropped up right after I've said to myself "I just want to be single!"
My current boyfriend and I started dating right after I made plans with an ex to have a fling for the summer. I knew it was stupid, but I was going to do it anyway. I'm sure glad my boyfriend showed up when he did.
i believe that loves find you when you least expect it. When you're not seeking for it. It's strange when i wanted love but couldn't find love. when i got tired of finding and it just happen in strange situations.
i really never believed the phrase "once you stop looking, it will come to you"
until it did.
I'm not saying this person is my soulmate or that I am 100% sure I will be with him forever; you can never be sure about that.
I'm just saying the greatest person i've ever been with so far came along when i didn't think about it.
My ex boyfriend used me. He played the role and got in my pants. And he would spread personal things about me to his friend Lance. He pretty much told him everything and embarrased me by making me a fool and turning me inside out.
I got drunk one night and called Lance to ask him exactly why Jacobo (the evil ex) was doing this to me.
Lance and I ended up talking for seven and a half hours straight. That's just how it started.
I have never felt more loved nor more comfortable with someone. I've never felt so truly accepted and appreciated. He pulls my thoughts right out of my head. I swear to god I love this boy so much.
I sooner it comes to me when I least expect it to happen.
I actually think that when you look for it that you find trouble and heartache. I believe in actively waiting on it to find you. Be patient, know what you want, be yourself, seek ye first the kingdon of God and all these things will be added unto you...
i think youre pretty on the dot for this one , ive been dating guys since i was 16 and , ive never been able to say i love you to anyone until this guy who went out on dates with me for a year , i had no idea he liked me told me he did before i left to study abroad and waited for my answer, id idnt have a sure ansewr for him either when i came back but he just hung out with me with the knowledge of him liking me and things just developed and i started liking him and before i knew it , i was in love with him and now i'm crazy about him
Love just finds you. I found my current boyfriend at Target even though I had an interest in someone else. It turns out that the mutual interest with the other guy just fell through and I ended up with the better end of the deal :)
i believe that love finds you, because if you go out looking for love, you'll look right past all the bad things in someone just to have "love"