Miss CheetahThis weekend I went out to celebrate my homeboy's birthday at this hot Caribbean club in Long Island. It was a great scene - the music was on point and there were plenty of cute guys around to dance with.
The b-day boy happened to dance the night away with a girl he met through a friend of a friend. He was "in love". Not really in love for real, but you could tell he was really into her. My night was completely the opposite. I couldn't dance with one guy without another one asking to dance with me afterwards. I danced the whole night, which never happens!
My other guy friend asked, "So you a guy magnet, huh?" I just laughed. It was funny because my club experiences have never been like that at all. Most of the time, I went out with my girls. I was in my comfort zone, so I never took the opportunity to actually meet other people I just stayed in my little clique.
Going to this party by myself gave me the courage to trying something different. It was like I was another person.. I met new people and possibly found some future potential. Who knew it was that easy?
Have you ever gone out to a club or a party by yourself? How'd it go?
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yay i'm the first! i've got to say that i've never done that. i mean i usually go with girls to make sure i have a buddy to go to the bathroom with and stuff like that just to make sure i'm safe b/c u hear plenty of horror stories about what happens to girls who are alone in clubs...but i guess if you're with some guy friends who know to look out for you and actually will it's ok. sounds like a good idea...maybe i'll try it out sometime! = )
Probably, it is because you didn't have your protective filter (shield / ****-blockers) of lady friends and you seemed to be available. All the guys woulda come up to you. Also, you are probably quite attractive
Best thing ever...
Shows you what you're made of...
I hate cliquey people...
My best girl friend talked me into coming out with her a few weeks after my long term relationship ended badly. It was to have some fun, you know? But I'm not big on drinking, I didn't know anybody there, and my friend was so busy mingling all night that we didn't hang out much. I got to talking to random people mostly. One guy wouldn't leave me alone, but he was just trying to make friends. I later found out he was talking to me so much in order to torture his friend I talked to earlier that found me really interesting.
Safe to say, I walked away with the phone number on my arm of the guy who thought I was interesting, and we've still got something going after a month+. It wasn't as hard meeting people and doing a follow up as I thought!
for sure i did..
since i was so young that i always concern other old guys are comin arounf a ask my age -3- crazy
thur i also know more new fds eventually we bacome real fds.. ha coool
I went with a friend once and literally from the moment we walked in the door, there were people asking us to dance! Like, uh... whoa there, let me at least look around for a few minutes! I think/know lots of guys are intimidated/don't-want-to-bother with the whole "girl clique" circle dance that most girls do when they go out. There's a whole science to it! CaKaLusa (on Xanga) wrote a hilariously accurate post about it not too long ago, describing the girl clique and why it's hard to "infiltrate" it if you're a guy, lol. I still prefer going out w/ my friends... I don't have to worry about as many creepers:)
NO.. i think that's really dangerous.. i don't really go clubbing anymore but in the past when i did, i used to go with "friends" only.. there are few times that i drive myself b/c i'm running really late and/or was out already but even then i call and have one of my friends there meet me at the door to walk me in.. u can get lost in clubs and it can be really scary.. nowadays i usually just go to lounges to hangout..
I had to go dancing (salsa) myself because my friends sucked and didn't want to try it, or were too chicken to. So I just went and surprisingly, there were many girls who were willing to and even asked me to dance with them. Screw my friends =D.
I actually tend to do better when I'm with people I know. If I'm by myself I feel like a loser (even though no one else would think I was) and I get really shy. If I have one or two friends, I feel better. But honestly, I don't like dancing with guys at clubs most of the time. Too many of them suck at dancing and are just looking for an excuse to rub up on you. Gross. I'd rather go out with my girlfriends and just dance in a circle. Plus "grinding" is pretty limiting creatively. Unless I meet a guy who really knows how to dance and can do other things besides try to grind with me, I'm not really into meeting guys at clubs.
Situations are so different when you do it by yourself and when you have a group or a few friends with you. You're not as social with the others when your friends are with you. That's a certain. So when it's just you, you meet so many new people because it kind of pushes you to make new friends and start conversations. If it were at a club or party where I don't know anyone, I'd probably bring one friend just in case.
I prefer going with friends or at least people I know. I went once to a club my frosh year of college because a friend of mine asked to meet up with me & wanted to see me go clubbing 'cause he didn't think I was the type. I ended up going to the club with a couple of his girl friends 'cause he was from another school & was gonna be late. It was weird for me since I didn't know them but a good experience 'cause even though I didn't know the girls, they took care of me & pulled me away from the creeps that appeared behind me! haha. It's always better to go with friends or people you know.. There's an awful lot of creeps out there.. you never know what could happen! Plus, going with guy friends is best as they can serve as "cockblocks." :P
Uh..that's a little dangerous for anybody.
And what--no "blockers" like what MOJOJONO_X2 said?
I've never gone to a club or party... now that I'm in college I'm getting pressured to go out and do all that, but with people I'd rather not do it with. Being there in general is me out of my comfort zone honestly. I wanted to go out for Halloween but people have been pestering me about going out so much that I'm thinking about giving up on doing anything for Halloween or my birthday six days before it.
I have but its in my mind risky, because whenever someone that I didnt want began obsessively following me I didnt have my friends to back me up. I actually had to sneak out and he followed me to my car
Sorry, but Girl Scouts did a number on me. Buddy system ftw!
I do EVERYTHING alone. Girls in a clique are intimidating, and guys in a pack seem threatening, so why bother being a part of either? Life is so much more interesting when lived as an individual.
Its not like you were actually alone, you were with other friends then your usual group, i traveled three hours away from my hometown this weekend and went out with one good friend and we met so many new people which were really nice and friendly.
we ended up having a really great weekend.
i reccomend it to anyone.
its a good learning experince and a great op to meet new people.
xx
I always go with my girls. We stick together.
But I have this one friend...When it's only the two of us at a club, and a guy wants to dance with her, she ditches me! What the H! I'd never do that to my girlfriend, especially if it was only the 2 of us. It's just not right.
Well No. But glad you managed to come back safe as well as have a good time
HAHA THATS SO COOL! i'm actually shy to go alone but i dun really like going in a clique to a club as well. i like dancing with strangers but it only happens when i'm alone(RARELY) or with one or two girlfriends.
No, I have never been clubbing by myself or with my friends (he knows I am not interested in this type of thing)
I am too shy to go to place that this on my own, you never know what might happen,
I'll go by myself if I'm really close to the host of the party - otherwise I always take a backup. But when I go out with my friends we always end up meeting tons of random people anyway. So whether in new surrounds or old - I am always open to meeting new people.
Does it count if you go to a party with people that you work with by yourself? It was mostly my husband's friends so I didn't really know anybody. I talked to a few new people.
never have by myself. Im not all that into clubbing and partying anyways. But if i do go I would only go if I were taking someone with me. I am shy as it is in unfamiliar places. I need someone to bring me out of my comfort zone.
I think going alone would be half the fun. Having to venture out on your own and not have a real "comfort zone" there. Obviously there's a balance there, but going alone opens up a whole new experience that's totally worth it, at least in my opinion.