This is a guest blog submitted by HiMyNameIs_Jaimie.When I'm out with my girlfriends and see couples (sickeningly) lovingly affectionate with each other, I get jealous. Big time.
Overall, most couples fail to realize how blessed they are, being able to drive or take a train to see their significant other within the day, being able to call in the same time zone, being able to spend time together. Like watching movies in the cinema or on the couch, eating at a fancy restaurant or ordering in, riding shotgun wherever he wants to go-- just being with each other. Breathing with each other. Hugging tightly, holding his hand, leaning over and kissing him WHENEVER YOU FEEL LIKE IT. People don't realize that long-distance couples would do anything to instantly bridge the thousands of miles that separate them.
So on the rare occasions when I do get to visit, trust that I cherish every second with my man.
Waking up with him at my side makes me smile and giggle with happiness; I can't believe he is
right there with me. We make up for lost time, wishing we can somehow stop time, just for us. I love him, I love going everywhere together throughout the day and at night wearing ourselves out with love before falling asleep all snuggly.
If you see us anywhere, you might assume we're any young couple who's madly in love; we might even sicken you with our PDA. I usually disapprove, but to me (of course) LDR couples are an exception. You simply don't understand how long I've been waiting to have this time with my boyfriend -- going on "normal" outings that are very, extremely special to me.
My point? If you're part of those "regular couples," realize how blessed you are to have your significant other within such easy reach. The time to appreciate him is now, and every day -- you shouldn't have to experience separation to fully treasure each other's company.
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oh yeah, definitely. there was a gap between my fiance leaving for pharmacy school across the country and when i followed. it was only a week (!) but it was the longest week of my life. i was so used to seeing him every day that that week was just horrible.
i appreciate him anyway (and let him know/show it), but that week was just a kick in the pants.
i've been in two LDRs before, and i honestly don't know how we did it.
I try to cherish what we have, and show him how much I love him. I know sometimes I don't(when we fight, and I yell and then sulk for an hour).We've never really been in a LDR, there's only been month-long gaps when we have to visit family and the other can't get out of work or anything. Those visits get very long, very fast.
The lady I've been talking to has many things going out. She's also going to another school. I'm debating if I'm going to go to an even further school. I have many things going on, and I just wish that it would somehow change. Just have a bit of time together and actually make progress.
thank you for posting this. I tell ppl a million times, but for some reason ppl just take the little things for granted. it's nothing short of annoying
Everything you wrote is so true.
LDR's suck...but you definitely appreciate your significant other so much more when you are with them. You just can't believe that you're actually holding them and kissing them and WITH them. But the sad part is knowing that after the short weekend visit ends you have to go back to your lives apart from one another.=[
amen.
II totally agree with everything in this post,
I'm in a LDR myself and cant wait till i can just get home
and hold her in my arms.Thats all i want.
I get really jealous of normal couples too. but its worth it.
just came across this post and couldnt agree more. i completely understand this.... my bf is 9000 miles away from me :( and we are both doing a course which lasts 5 yrs..
but yea.. all the best to u and him :)
x
I suppose I'm not in a true LDR (it's only 150 miles), but the distance feels long enough. Getting to spend time with him when I only get to see him a few days out of every 4-6 weeks is a special thing indeed.
ah yes.. i was in the same position that you are in now..
make up and never fight...
it'll hurt so much when they're gone. =/
i know where you're coming from. :] stay strong.
Well said. When my boyfriend & I were still at school, I'd spend every moment with him & I think I took it for granted. Now that we're doing long distance -- 900 miles, it stinks & I regret having taken it for granted. At the moment, we're only 2 months into the long distance & it's not too bad but it's still tough knowing when I'll see him next. I hope I don't have to wait 6 months to see him 'cause that'll just be a total bummer. :( I can't visit at the moment as I'm fresh out of college & broke with loans to pay back.. So whatever cash I can get/have at the moment goes to paying off those loans. :( He can't visit for similar reasons: he owes his sister money & he's working for his family business, long hours & only one day a week off. :( He has to wait for a not-so-busy weekend/time to take off & come see me.. But I can wait. He's worth the wait. :)
no, you just gotta realize that if you're bitching about long distance, do something about it, or find someone closer. being close geographically to your SO has its bad side too.
My partner's career is such that we are frequently, often with short notice, thrust from being a normal, married couple to LDR with little choice or control over the situation. Worse still, he could be seriously injured or killed at pretty much any time while he is working. Because of this, we are often guilty of PDAs (although not excessive), and try to take advantage of the time we are together, because we never know when we'll be seperated again, or for how long. Currently, he is across the Atlantic from me, has been for close to a month - he comes home Thursday and I am counting down the minutes.
I think you're right...people in "regular" relationships do take it for granted that their SO is right there whenever they want to see them. I was in a LDR for 10 months, and that was probably the longest yet most exciting 10 months of my life. Waiting to see each other...the excitement of the trips across country to finally be together.
The thing is, now that I am in a "regular" relationship...I try to take it all in and not take for granted that he is right there. It actually took some getting used to after all of the hard work from the previous relationship!
It's human nature to take people for granted. LD or SD, they all have their flaws.
You are completely right. I'm in an LDR and it's so difficult. Every time we get to see each other I just want time to stop so I never have to say goodbye again. I think being in an LDR helps you to appreciate your significant other a lot more than those regular couples.
L D R 'S Make for better 'ahem' as well as strong long term commitments(in my opinion).The Japanese have an old saying for the wives....." a good husband is healthy and uesually far away". who knows?
Yeah, people take each other for granted way too much and should cherish their significant other way more.
@wewong@xanga - LDRs have their bad sides too. I doubt the author of this entry meant to glorify LDRs as the ones who don't take anything for granted.
Needless to say, the people in those relationships choose to be a part of them, just as anyone who is within easy reach of one another chooses to be in theirs, for a reason. They love each other and want to make it work.
I don't complain, but I completely understand how the author feels. I only get to see my boyfriend for a few days a year, and I also cherish every moment with him. When we aren't close together, naturally we're going to long for each other's warmth, but we also accept that for the time being we'll have to wait.
It just takes maturity and among other things patience. We know that distance isn't about to separate us forever.
I don't think I feel jealous of couples who are able to be together HERE and NOW. I'm happy for them that they don't have to suffer in a LDR. At the same time, I realize that my (our) decision to be 1000 miles away, was because we knew we couldn't suffer being apart. Sounds silly, but you know what I mean.
This past weekend I got my first visit with him in two months and it really was perfect in every sense. It didn't matter that there would have been "snags" for any other couple in our position--seeing him makes it so much easier to be away from him for another two months.
That whole giddy, new couple thing... SO TRUE! SO SO SO TRUE! In our case (at least) distance does make the heart so much fonder.
I understand this--well, on the friendship level, at least.
It kind of annoys me when people are like, "OMGZZZ, I have not seen him in a whole day!"
Well, my closest friends all live in the city next to mine, which isn't really a big deal, but can prove very difficult during the school year.
Sometimes, I go a whole month without seeing them, but when we do get together, it's that much more amazing! :)
Long distance relationships have a tendency to suck (at least in my experience they have).
I totally agree!! Distance does make your heart grow fonder for the other person.
My boyfriend and I are having a LDR. We have an 8-hour difference because he's out of the country. :[
I agree with that; when my ex and I were going out, I'd get frustrated because we seldom got to see each other even though we lived in the same state and time zone with not a lot of distance to breach...>_< It'd always aggravate me a bit to see those happy couples who saw each other every day; I always felt like they had no idea how good they had it!
But you're doing the right thing and treasuring the time you spend with your man. Good luck to you both!
LDR's are really a test of edurance, patience, trust, and love.
If you began in a LDR, it's easier to accept the conditions because both people enter with known expectations and limitations.
However, if you are together first and move to a LDR it is quite difficult to adjust because everything was so convenient before.
I never really considered that at all. Around here...alot of people are unwilling to have anything to do with each other if they live more than half an hour away. Which is sickening...but thank you for pointing this all out...I'll definitely appreciate my boyfriend and treasure the time I have with him MUCH more!