This is a guest blog submitted by willow_ann209. I see the commercials for eHarmony at least once a day, even when I only watch TV for an hour. I see the people that have found happiness through this dating service, and I wonder how it works. It's supposed to find you a match based on a compatibility test, right? But what if the people lied on the test...or what if you lie? Are you ruining your chances for love?
My real worry is how they use the tests to match you.
Do they try to find the person that answered the questions like you did? Wouldn't that get boring? It'd be like dating yourself, or the weird person that "just wants to make you happy," so they do everything you want and agree with everything you say. Where's the passion? Where's the heat?
I'm pretty sure my fiancé and I wouldn't have gotten matched if that's the case. We work pretty perfectly together, but we're definitely two very different people.
Now, it's either that or I'm supposed to believe they know how to get the right mix of same and different answers to make a real match. But how do they do that? Every person is different, so how would they know which answers could be different, and which should be the same? It seems far-fetched that they'd really find you a great match.
Do you believe in eHarmony, or do you believe in finding that perfect match yourself?
Comments (38)
I just cancelled my subscription with eharmony. They match you using 29 dimensions but they don't match you using height and race. I'm a 5 10' woman and they kept sending me 5 7' and below men. I called and complained and they said they don't consider height as a requirement. WOW..meaning, I can't choose who I want to date? And they only match you according to your race, even after clearly asking for all races. I hate eharmony and they have very very bad reviews.
I can't speak for people and their own personal experiences, but I can speak from mine. I personally think that if people go looking for love, that they'll just end up with nothing. In my experience, love came at the worst, unexpected time. But people have their own fate.
I think those services can benefit people that are looking and have little time or desire to go and look else where. But in my opinion alot of the people we meet can have profiles based on lies and are just out to have fun. Its a personal choice that many look into.And if you have the time and energy to explore then do so... just be prepared for some dissapointments. But I think its better we meet our match in person. Those dating sites are not always what they are cracked up to be.
I think eHarmony can work for some people, but it wouldn't work for me. Truthfully, I don't believe in finding someone online.
I'm automatically biased towards eharmony because they only match up heterosexual couples. Besides that, my sister tried it once and had trouble finding guys she found to be datable.
I don't know, there's something about online dating that I just don't like. I'd like to see a person in real life first I guess.
agreed on the geographical matching being inaccurate. they have 2 ways of making contact with your matches, either the fast-track direct approach or a 3-step program with escalating degrees of contact... obviously YMMV, and one could argue you get what you put into it, but one should never rely on any sort of matching as gospel. once a match is made, whatever preceding steps leading to it would have taken a backseat, and then it all boils down to communicating and relating to them to find your true compatibility
@supersteller@xanga - my school tried iFlirtz too. of course, the results were pretty cringeworthy, but at least we had something to laugh about for a while.
Eharmony is based on EQ some hokey imitation IQ rating method. Its run and owned by CHRISTIANS and the big question here is. Why? Why do die hard christians even date? And there is no technical requirement to be a christian, it leads to issues like. Why cant you just find someone at your church? Why are christians dating? I'm assuming these people are not having sex (yeah right) before marriage and are looking for lifetime people to marry THEN carry on sexual relations. Which of course is not what is going on and so all this leads to serious questions about what their motivations are. I know some people are rejected on eharmony because they dont fit their criterion. You dont have to be a hindu or indian to go on a indian website for finding an arranged marriage according to hindu astrology. But it helps! And you still have to be compatable according to astrology, ect. Most of those arranged marriages work but, love comes later on.
@cute_sushi@xanga - I am one person who met my husband on line and am now divorcing him! We met through yahoo. After 2 years of marriage and 3 together i have discovered that everything he told me about him self was a big fat lie. he conned me out of a lot of things. Soo be very careful!
do you really have to pay for these different dating sites that you join?
if so, your paying to find love, but why??
why not go the old fashion way?
at work, school, or w.e
(just my opinion/thought)
@freegirl - i agree!, you can never be sure when dealing with the net.
@angelicgrl4eva05@xanga - I need u into my life.
@ilovelove - what?... haha ha ha lol...