Friday, 03 October 2008
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Seeing Your Ex For The First Time
Mr. Giraffe
I just got my copy of Forgetting Sarah Marshall in the mail (yes!) and it had me wondering. Seeing your ex around town right after a break-up is an interesting experience. It could either be difficult (painful memories and such) or it could be awkwardly funny (at the time or later when you share it with your friends).It was funny for me but it was hard for her. Really, that's only because I strive to make things awkward for myself and she strives to be dramatic. How was it when you first saw your ex after the break up?
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i'm like, eww, what was i thinking.
A bit awkward . . . since she shared with me what she was doing between the month we've been apart.
No biggie. Always left on good terms. But then again, I usually had the upper hand on our break ups (they usually had F'd it up).
Now guys I dated and it never got further than that, so ex-daters, it was always awkward. Never know exactly what to say and the whole "how are you" convo seems so, scripted or forced.
@wewong@xanga - haha. me too.
I've only had one ex & the first time I saw him after we broke up was traumatizing! I had mentioned this in a previous comment but the first time I saw him was at alumni day at my high school when I went back to visit during Thanksgiving break. It had only been a month since the break up & since I broke up with him, I was feeling a lot better than him. He was obviously still hung up about it as he stalked my xanga & my friends' xangas but I didn't know & was stupid enough to leave a comment for my friend saying I was gonna be at alumni day at a certain time. Needless to say, when I walked through the doors of the school, he was waiting for me. While I tried running away from him, he chased me down [& I ran up 2-3 flights!] & he pleaded for 5 minutes of my time, which I was stupid enough to give him. During that time, he proceeded to yell at me & throw stuff in my face before thrusting a bag back at me. Guess what was in that bag when I opened it up? All the gifts we've ever exchanged along with all the emails, letters, & IMs we've ever had.. YES, he printed it out. Again, WHAT was I thinking?! -________-"
Fortunately, that was the last time I ever saw him -- *knock on wood* -- 'cause now I'm back home & you never know who you'll run into on the street...
hmm im seeing mine this weekend to "catch up"
i'll letchu know how it goes lol
after 7 months of our breakup I still haven't seen her. neither on msn nor phone or other...
we just exchanged some sms (birthdays, curiosity..) and I really don't know how would I react. I think it would be quite bad and weird. Seeing a person you've been very close to and being forced to "stay behind the line".
good that my ex and I live 10'000 Km far away each other :)
i still love him...=/ but it was pleasant because we went through so much and had practically seen each other grow...from 16 years old to 19...high school to college =). The person was your best friend at one point in life, so even though there is awkwardness and tension, this person meant so much, its hard not to smile
I wound up running into my ex at my job last summer. It was super awkward. -_-
@wewong@xanga - hahahaha! That...and I totally ignored him.
@eternal_dreaming@xanga - so it wasn't only my retard x who did that? (giving back a mysterious bag full of gifts and letters and pictures.) omg..can someone say LOSERRRR??
The first time was REALLY REALLY awkward because his parents were there and I love his family, so I was talking to them but avoiding him and then his mom was like "you two have at least said hi to each other right?" and we both nodded awkwardly even though we hadn't said a word to each other. It was a little painful too because we had dated for three years though.
Actually it's always awkward running into exes. Most of them it's not painful though because we weren't as serious.
First time I saw my first ex was actually an enjoyable experience. We hadn't seen each other in two year and he came to visit me in my freshman dorm. Had an enjoyable two hours of hanging out, it wasn't awkward at all. I was nervous beyond belief though before he arrived!
My only other serious ex- I have yet to see him 7 years later. He lives in another state. Even though I'm married to my wonderful husband now, I don't think I'd handle it very well if I were to run into Reuben. Too many loose ends that never got tied up... it was a BAD breakup. I went into a depression for almost two months
@mz_d0rkabl3@xanga - "catch up" as in make out? haha.
I would describe our first encounter after the breakup as "dangerous". Anyone within a few feet of us could have been injured from the amount of death glares we gave each other. It ended on a really horrible fight, so that reaction was expected.
Good times.
I saw my ex 2+ months after our breakup. It was really hard on me, as he was such an asswipe about the whole thing. There's breaking up with someone, and then there's breaking their heart, stomping on it, urinating on it, and laughing at it.
It rattled me down to the bone and I felt anger, hatred, and hurt. I got over it soon after, but should I see him again, I'd probably punch him or something. Or tell him what a worthless sack of shit he is. Mmm, yeah.
I just recently ran into my ex for me its been 3 plus years since the break up and it was awkward and hard,,, here is my entry on it.
Read the Entry Here
I ended up saying "shit" instead of "hi" when I saw her randomly in a mall... LOL it's quite funny when I think back to it.
awkward and uncomfortable for the first one and have seen my other two just yet, and god knows if I ever will.
ex is just an ex
This is why I'm extremely thankful that I pretty much never date anyone in my city, no chance encounters!
Sometimes it might be initially a tad awkward the first time I see them for whatever reason, but I'm friends/on good terms with the majority, so it isn't usually that big of a deal.
Although the last ex is a particular case, and I am totally curious about how things would be if we ran into each other (though not likely, he moved to ny and his home area here is pretty far from mine). I have a feeling it would be majorly awkward.
The first long term boyfriend I had, we broke up 2 years ago. It was a BAD BREAK UP and he is my cousin's brother in law so I saw him and will see him in the future. It's awkward between us and I still hate him for what he's done, even after our break up. I still wish that his wee wee gets chopped off and/or legs get crippled for life. :P
yeah i'm evil like that.
Mostly awkward. I ran into an ex a few years ago after not having seen him in over a year. He brought his new gf to church with him, and I was not expecting to see him there. Definitely had a "what was I thinking moment"...of course nothing was more awkward than when he brought the girlfriend (now his wife) to my grandfather's funeral a couple months later!! He didn't even speak to me! We had a few more run-ins after that, but I stopped going to that church, and he and wifey moved away...haven't seen him in years.
@MelodicPuppy@xanga -
lol catching up as in talking about the break/breakup .. i think. no idea whats going on right now guess i'll just play by ear
I usually hate my exes after we break up (thats probably cause they've all cheated on me thus far)
I enjoy just being a total bitch to their new girlfriend and making her cry.
I know I know. Immature. But it makes me feel good. So why would I care? lol