Tuesday, 30 September 2008
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Are You Dating Me Or Your iPhone?
Now that technology allows us to be in contact with the world at all times, some new rules have to be written when it comes to using iPhones and such on dates. In my opinion, the most polite thing to do is turn your cell phone off for the few hours you're on the date. That way there is nothing that can disrupt you and your potential boyfriend/girlfriend. If anything, just keep it on vibrate or silent so that "Girls Just Wanna Have Fun" can't ruin a good conversation.
I heard this story from my friend about a girl who constantly checked her text messages on her iPhone during the date. Her doing this made him feel like he was competing with her phone for her attention. He told me he was a third wheel on his own date. Like some third-grade bully on the playground, he wanted to ask her, "If you love your phone so much, why don't you just marry it?!" It's safe to say that he didn't run to make a second date with iPhone Girl.
This compels me to ask: are we so addicted to our lives that we can't give a date our undivided attention? Have you been in a similar situation?
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Comments (24)
Um.. maybe she did it to turn that person down ?
Anyways, I also feel that it is unfair for the other person to be on the phone 24/7 when s/he is on a date with you. Not unfair. Downright rude. If I were you, I'd do exactly what s/he does with the phone. Maybe it'll show them how rude and annyoing that is :) heh heh heh..
I have never been in this position before,
I dont even own a cell/i-phone and even if I did get own one I would not get even have it on slient during a date, it would remained in my pocket and that where it would stayed.
If I was dating my protential girlfriend I would not be pleased if she prefer to text her mates during the date or keep on checking her cell phone.
I wouldn't use my phone if i was on a date. At the very most, if I got a call or a msg, I'd just check to see who it's from, but I wouldn't answer it.
If you're on a date, why aren't you giving your date your full attention? I mean, unless you're trying to ditch them >.>
Yeah, when my boyfriend constantly uses his sidekick, when we're hanging out! I hated that, but I'm learning to get use to it. Ugh.
No, I'd like to treat others the way I'd like to be treated. I'll give them all my attention so long as they do the same.
I never paid attention on a girl-checking-her-messages while dating, so it could mean that I was lucky enough on involuntarily avoiding such phone-girls.
Anyway, I would feel very upset if that would happen to me. I pretend attention as I give attention on dating.
But, I got a self-question: Maybe it's me that is really BORING?
mah
Hahaha that's unfortunate for the guy.
No one calls me and very rarely do I get a text, I'm glad I don't have that. It's not only rude on dates but when you're out with a friend that you haven't sen in a while and all they keep doing is checking their sidekick. Might as well stayed home and IMed them.
My ex boyfriend was like that, too. He was always checking his Sidekick and he never really paid much attention to me. Glad it's over, to be quite honest. :\
i know this bugs the hell out of me with my boyfriend. he's much older than me, so i expected he'd have the common knowledge and courtesy to either turn it off or put it on vibrate.. and if on vibrate NOT check it. as soon as i leave the room and come back, he's on his phone. ugh. i hateit when people are like that... and it's becoming quite a large percentage of people who are.
that sucks on a date, especially a first date.
i don't mind so much with my fiance or friends. sometimes it even becomes part of the conversation: "i wonder what the score of the chargers game is...WAIT! lemme check my iphone!" or looking up something random on wiki (a la "i wonder how [insert random thing here] came about...").
i guess it depends on the context of your phone usage. i would be pissed if i was trying to have a serious conversation with someone and they just weren't all there. but if we're just chillin, no harm in that.
I set my phone on vibrate during dates. If it's a text I ignore it. If it's a call, I let it go to voicemail and check it in the bathroom. If there's no voicemail then it must not be important!
I understand once or twice if he checks his phone, I'll question three and draw the line at 4+.Luckily for me, i tend to have dates in places with bad reception;-p
It bugs me so much when people are always on their phones. Not just on dates, but when you're with your friends as well.
If it's an urgent phone call, they should take the call in another room and come back quickly. If it's not an emergency, they should just ignore the call.
i'm not constantly being texted, and usually it can wait if i'm in the middle of something important... but if it's a phone call, i'm pretty paranoid, so i feel obligated to answer most of the time.
but on a first date, yea i think you should be able to put aside your phone... unless the person knows you well and you have some kind of explanation, it's really rude.
i'm not sure how to approach this since neither i nor my boyfriend have major phone addictions... though i do tend to text HIM a lot when i'm with my friends, sometimes. :x
Eh, well if they're not interested enough in the conversation to keep their hands off their phones... It irritates me just when I'm talking to someone and they pull out their phone to check on messages. It's like: Helloo? Am I not here or something? If it rings or otherwise goes off, it's one thing... but if you have it on silent or vibrate, and you pull it out to see if you have any new calls or messages, that's just rude.. I don't mind waiting a minute or two on the other person to get off the phone, but any longer than that and it's just irritating.
I WILL DATE NONE OF THEM I AM NOT IN A GOOD MOOD
This is getting to be one of my pet peeves. If you're spending time with a person, you need to be with them, not your phone. I understand if you want to just take a quick minute to reply to a text or take an important call. However, you shouldn't spend all your time looking at your phone. Very rarely does something on the phone need immediate attention.
If you're at dinner with a friend, then it's OK to text if both are OK with it. It can go either way. But if you're on a date, then that's a definite no. You might as well have the other friend on the date with you and your date.
People do depend so much of their lives on technology these days. We should have like a 3 hour blackout and see how people survive with that. No electricity or anything. LOL
I don't think she's into her phone as much as she is into other people.
I have absolutely been in a situation where a girl seemed more interested in her phone calls / text messages than our date, so I dropped her like a bad habit.
When I'm on a date, my phone is on silent or off completely...not even vibrate. If I can't have the decency to give that person my undivided attention, I shouldn't be on a date with them in the first place. A little common sense goes a LONG way...
I do believe it's disrespectful, whether on a date or with friends to constantly text message or even take a long cell phone call while with that party. I try not to do it and expect the same from those out with me.
That couple of hours aren't too much to ask for you to put it away, is it?
You have a good point.