...what if he doesn't have sisters? a better indication of how a guy will treat a woman is how he treats his mother. she's the first woman he's ever loved. sibling relationships come in a close second, i suppose, but to me his relationship with his mother is way more important. i even wrote a blog about this :)

if that's really true then I'm screwed, because I hardly talk to my sister at all. we do our own things and we don't really that interact that much. me and mum is better but still, it's never going to be as close as you and your sister is.

@CATe_in_a_hat@xanga - I think that's very correct. Dad does play an important role in their daughters life (so is their sons life). My gf dad always spoils her (from my point of view) and I don't think that's a good thing, because when I don't spoil her, she gets upset. I also thinks that my gf dad and her is not that close, and therefore lack the sense of security, and when she wants that from me, that means lots and lots of time need to be spend with her or beside her, which is something that's stresses me a lot. Sigh...

I don't have siblings... Or what about guys who only have brothers?

Although the guy that I am in love with has a very close relationship with his sister, so I guess that's a good sign?

On the more freudian side, he was saying that he often ends up with girls that are like his sister. But it makes sense that if you get along well with your sister, you will look for people with similar traits because you know you will be compatible.

@complexdesires - So true. In fact, that's what I've grown up hearing.

Personally, I have 3 siblings: a sister & twin brothers. My sister & I used to be tight as we grew up together but over the years, especially during college, we grew a bit more distant. Nevertheless, we can reconnect & still manage to finish each other's sentences. That's how close we are. I think we also drifted apart because we had boyfriends come into our lives around the same time & the whole boyfriend bubble happened. That & we don't see eye-to-eye on several pretty important issues. But we're getting better except I don't think we'll ever be as close as we were before. As for my brothers & I, we're about 13 years apart, which is a pretty big difference so our relationship is a lot different compared to the relationship with my sister. Now that I think of it, the way I treat my boyfriend is a mix of how I treat my siblings. I nurture him like I do with my brothers & tease him & advise him like I do with my sister. However, my relationship with my boyfriend has changed drastically in the past 6 months [for the better] & upon reflection, it's because my relationship with my sister has also gotten better. So yea, there is some truth in what your girl said.

As for how my boyfriend treats me, he's got several female figures in his life: mom, grandma, & 2 older sisters. I'd say the way he treats me is a mix between his relationship with his grandma & the younger sister.. which is a good thing 'cause he's very endearing & thoughtful. :)

PS. Seems like the girl is quite into you to have revealed that much!

I think it's true in a lot of situations. My ex treated me well until I was in a bad situation. I didn't really see how he interacted with his sisters, and I definitely never saw either of his sisters in a bad situation, so I don't know how true it was in his situation.

I've always heard that it's the way a man treats his mother, not sister. But I guess that works, too.

I am a middle child first of all, of two sisters.  I keep them at an arms length, and it hasn't always been like that.  I used to be best friends with my older sister until she kept getting in legal trouble and staying best friends with my ex-wife which led to all kinds of problems.  My younger sister will only speak to me if she needs advice, which isn't all that often, but I know she does look up to me and doesn't shrug off what I tell her she should do in instances.  I would have to ask my wife but I don't think I treat her anyway that I treat my sisters, I give my wife a lot of attention and input where I think I should.  My attention is with her when she has suggestions or plans for our future.  We are a team and nothing is done between us without either of us coming to a conclusion together.  So all in all I'm not sure, maybe before all the bad stuff happened between my older sister and I, I do think my wife isn't just my wife she is also my best friend...  so maybe :)

i agree to a certain extent. i think if you get along with your sister, a person of the opposite sex, you know a little more than most people on how to deal with women.

however, me and my sister are really good friends, but we're also extremely alike. we're also family so we can be blunt and joke with each other in a way that a man normally can't be with a women. (aka, 'yeah you look fat')

but i agree, being friends with your sister can help a guy understand women better

NO WAY!

My brother is a stupid spoiled brat.  My boyfriend is amazing.  I treat them each accordingly.

Maybe it's the case for you or your friend.  It's definitely not the case for me or many other people I know.

I do think it's more true for men than for women, though.

i was told that the way i treat my future wife will be the same way i treat my mother.  however, i think that's only true because i realized that my girlfriend is sorta similar to my mother.....so i'm lost.

Hmm. I never thought about that. I think it's different for everyone. For me, I don't think I treat my boyfriend the same as I treat my brother and sister. I'm nicer to the boyfriend. LOL!

By the way, I wish I had an older brother like you.
:D

is it just me or am i the only one who deliniates the difference between sibblings and gf/bf? relationships should have a bit more spice and conflict. With siblings it's just...different.