Mr. Lion"Would you like to have coffee sometime?"
Those words have been used to get dates since I've known the
meaning of dating. Of course, for young kids, it's more like getting
pizza or movies, but that cup of coffee has a significant importance in
the world of dating. Recently I've noticed that people are leaving that
cup of coffee behind for an alcoholic drink. Could it be because I'm
surrounding myself with older business-like people?
A
few weeks ago, I overheard two guys in the gym arguing whether or not
asking a women to get a cup of coffee is still "the" way to ask out a
girl.
One guy said "Let's get a cup of coffee" is no longer used to
ask women out on dates. Instead, people go out for drinks because it
helps loosen them up and to converse more easily. The other suggested that
asking for coffee is saying you're not trying to get her drunk and
that you're willing to listen to what she has to say.
I didn't
know who to side with, because both do make valid arguments. I've
noticed that I talk to women more easily while having a beer. The tension
isn't there, so it's easy to just open up and talk about things.
But at the same time, I tend to remember a lot more about a person when
I'm sitting with them enjoying a nice cup of coffee. Plus, if you want to get
to know someone, it's best to take that cup of coffee and possibly sit
somewhere quiet where you can enjoy each other's company.
Lately, I've been favoring the drink over a cup of coffee. But that could be
because I'm much more comfortable now in a bar setting than I was
before - guess I'm growing up.
Which drink is the better one on a date, coffee or an alcoholic beverage?
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Comments (106)
Coffee. But then again, I'm a college kid. You could be right - it's all about age and maturity level.
coffee. It is best to sit and get to know someone over coffee.
If you are drinking alcohol it can impair judgement.
Since I dont drink no alcoholic beverages or coffee/tea to get a female/women to date me or she asked me out on a date.
I dont know what I would choose to drink to help me more easily and more relax to talk to females/women to get to know her better.
It all depends where are as well, I would probably want to go somewhere quiet the first time, where we may have a snack and a drink of our choice (whether this is coffee,tea, hot chocolate, mineral water, a soda etc)
Coffee.
Drink
. Although I'm not a big drinker, I just like the atmosphere of a nice bar / lounge where you have to lean in just a little to hear the other person 
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Uhhhh....I was under the impression that coffee was a drink.
@IAmPositiveILostAnElectron@xanga - samantics...if you're going out to Starbucks, you wouldn't call it "going out for a drink", right?
It's in the maturity level of those individuals who have opt to go on dates. For me, coffee is a great way to get to know someone precisely because you get to sit down and allow yourself and your date to talk and really get to know each other. Alcohol, when taken too much, could actually impair your judgement. When you're at a bar, the atmosphere is just too distracting and when your in the movie theater, you can't talk because you have to watch the show. Lol. But anyway, whatever works best for the pair... But as for me, coffee is still the best. That's how I ended up with my honey bunch! LOL.
I'd prefer coffee 'cause my preference isn't available. [It's bubble tea. yum~] I don't think it's age 'cause I'm of the legal age to drink. I'd prefer meeting someone new & getting to know them over a cup of coffee.. maybe that reflects how traditional I am? Not that I don't drink.. I enjoy going dancing at clubs/bars with my girlfriends & I always have several drinks when I'm out. I just don't like how people would want alcohol to help them loosen up to meet someone new. That's pitiful.. & just sad that someone can't be himself when sober..
you're pretty when i'm drunk.
not a good way to gauge someone.
coffee, definitely.
although, i like to do lunch. you can observe table manners that way and i do like a boy with manners..
Coffee. It's more low key, better atmosphere, and you don't worry about music that is too loud (plus alcoholic drinks are expensive!).
One plus, guys, is take a girl to a lesser known coffee shop other than Starbucks. Kind of the hole-in-the-wall romantic nook idea. You'll get bonus points for effort.
I get asked for coffee dates by men my age (33) and older. I get asked for drinks by younger men. I prefer coffee for the first outing, the alcohol later, bc in my experience, if I can get a guy to be comfortable with me when he's sober, then there's less of a chance that he's going to do something stupid when he's drunk/been drinking.
@BranmacFeabhail@xanga - Good point. Lunch is a very good way to get a read on someone. Especially after breaking the ice over a cup of coffe or tea.
i think it's strictly preference. i don't understand why having an alcoholic beverage automatically means you're out getting drunk. if you meet someone for a drink, i doubt you're letting all guards down. casual & responsible drinking is very possible. so, i don't see anything wrong. and it doesn't have to be in a rowdy bar. there are lots of nice, sophisticated places to have a casual date to get to know someone. i guess it just shocks me that in this situation alcohol automatically gets a negative connotation. guess it depends on who you're asking out.
I'd prefer coffee myself. To me at least it seems easier to get to know someone in a quiet coffee shop then trying to hold a substantial conversation at a bar, or maybe that's just my personality. Plus nothing relaxes me more like a comforting cup of a steaming vanilla (or caramel) latte.
I don't drink coffee! Caffeine makes me all batty. And I don't like drinking either.
I'd rather have a hot chocolate, a delicious smoothie, or a nice big dessert.
Okay, can't drink (legally) yet, but I'd go for coffee over "a drink" any day. Even though I don't like coffee. *smiles* Asking me to go out "for a drink" is a good way to get rejected.
Unless you either know the person well, or want to appear as an alcoholic, Coffee is the better bet.
drink, taken in moderation of course. coffee at night? i'll be bouncing off the walls!
What about dinner? Who goes out to dinners as dates nowadays? Geez!
But between those two, I'd choose coffee/tea because you can get to know them more. Butterflies that both parties feel are part of pursuing and the initial dating stage anyway. You really do not want to make an ass of yourself when you go to a bar and drink too many alcoholic drinks.
@GaMeGurLsH@xanga - i actually asked a girl out to dinner, she said no, but would love to go out for drinks. So I don't know
@spothedog@xanga - coffee no longer has that effect on me at night. I tend to fall asleep more because of it now.Â
i could go either way here, coffee at a Starbuck's or a local coffee shop is nice if its not too loud for a coversation.
bars and lounges allow the people meeting up to have an understanding or a second impression on how the person holds himself in the real world. thats my take.... a casual coffee cup i like that. but you dont dress up to impress for that. sometimes you do but you're on your way somewhere.
at a bar you get to show interests share this and that over just what you're drinking. you could show up to a bar in tshirt/polo and jeans but if its dating i think jeans and a button up or slacks but ya know whatever floats your boat...
Haha, almost all responses are coffee but the culture is changing more to drinks (atleast outside of xanga). To be frank, is someone asked me out on a date to drink some coffee, the facial expression that they'll get from me will be classic, as if I have seen a true alien. It wouldn't feel like a date and even more like the guy is trying to pretend that he's interested but really is coughing up some bullshit. Besides, you better hope that that person likes coffee.
whenever me and a guy go out for coffee, the coffee makes us horny. happened twice. now if a guy is like, "lets get coffee" I'll be like, "noooo - can we get jamba juice instead?"
psch, coffee/drink, does it matter? it only matters if she's under 21.
coffee..chilled atmosphere and more personal which makes it more condusive for conversations and getting to know each other in general.