I plan on moving next year to be closer to my boyfriend. We're currently in a long distance relationship & we both know that in order to make it work, we're going to have to make some sacrifices. Since he has a family business where he's at, I'll be the one to close the gap. We've talked about it & it stinks for me 'cause I'll be leaving all my family & friends in NYC for life down south. This is why we decided that I shouldn't move right after college 'cause it'd be asking too much. There will definitely be more bumps along the road but we're committed to making this work & we both plan on making the sacrifices needed. Like people say, relationships are about making sacrifices. :)

However, I won't be giving up my favorite baseball team.. EVER. That's not a problem either as our teams are in different leagues. :) [NY Yankess & ATL Braves] All other sports teams, I follow his home teams, probably because I watch sports with him & have picked up a fondness for his teams.. except for maybe football. I don't have a preference. But these are trivial things.. & not really a "big" dealbreaker in my mind/our relationship. Where you plan to spend the rest of your life is.. that might be why some of my friends worry about my decision. But when you know, you just know & no one can stop you from doing what you want to do.

Most couples make compromises. You may not notice the things that he's compromised for her. Takes two to tango.

that sounds like something she did for his comfort, did she say he made an issue of it? Does he cook or does she?

I think compromises are done alot, sometimes as small as biting your tounge when needed, other things are done out of courtesy

I was just in a relationship with a vegetarian, and that sort of compromise was never a problem.  He never would have judged me if I were to eat meat in his presence, and I didn't mind making going out to eat easier by being vegetarian when I was around him.  There were other compromises that I didn't mind, either, like sleeping at his place because his dog was there or spending most evenings staying in.  And had our relationship lasted, I anticipated myself making larger compromises for the sake of us building a future together-- like where I would be applying for work, where I would be living, etc. 

The problem wasn't that I was struggling with whether or not I wanted to compromise, but that he seemed less inclined to compromise for me.  It just seemed more difficult for him to step outside of his comfort zone to make me happy.  And, ultimately, I was feeling that our relationship was getting increasingly one-sided.  It could be because he didn't love me as much as I loved him.  Or it could be because he was just inherently selfish.  In either case, the relationship could not survive. 

Compromise is good.  It's a necessary part of any relationship.  But it needs to mutual and reciprocated. 

As for your sister, I wouldn't be surprised if she was in fact giving up more of her life for her boyfriend than he is for her.  (It's often the case that women give up their careers and such for their relationships moreso than men do.)  I would only hope that she feels that it's all worth it.  That he's making her feel loved, happy and respected.  I hope, too, that he would be willing to make sacrifices for her as well. 

I compramise on the least important issues and things bout myself. I don't compamise on the things that define who I am as a person (beliefs/morals/diet/political views/culture) to make my girlfriend happy. And she don't make those kinds of compramises neither.

I'm an ex-smoker.  It started out with me not smoking around my then-bf.  The smell bothered him, not to mention secondhand smoke really sucks.  Eventually, I decided it was healthier for ME to quit altogether, but he didn't make me quit.  I decided.  I guess, you can compare that to your sister's meat-eating habits.  As far as the moving to be closer to his family... well, as long as she's not giving up her M.D. career, especially after passing boards.

I don't see anything necessarily wrong with giving up something here and there in a relationship.  How do we know that your sister didn't voluntarily decide to eat like he does when she's around him?  I mean, I don't hear you saying he gave her the ultimatum "no meat or no me".  And it sounds like she still enjoys what she likes to enjoy.  I'm willing to bet that given enough time if being a full time carnivore is something that she can't live without, that will eventually come back into play more prominently and they will deal with it one way or another.  In the meantime, she is exploring herself as well by this experiement (if that's what it could be called).  We do things, and we learn more about ourselves.  She could learn that being vegetarian is not all that crazy as it might sound and take it up full time.  Then again she might decide that living w/out meat is something she just doesn't want to do.  In either case, or in the case that she carries on as is indefinitely, they will deal with it as a couple.  I see nothing wrong with it... unless she has sworn to be a vegetarian to him and is eating meat behind his back.  But even then good intentions may not be enough if being a carnivore is such a strong instinct (and she may have bitten off more than she can chew).  In that case, fess up and then... same thing, they deal with it as a couple.

I would become vegeterian just for my boyfriend, I don't mind it. But I wouldn't and I won't become a whole new person because of him. There are compromises and limits.

I have always defined love as someone who you would go to the end of the earth for, but that same someone would make sure you wouldn't have to go that far.

You have to be able to be yourself around your significant other. and Yes some compromise is nessary, but Compromise is meeting halfway not giving up everything you are. 

I think it is okay to have a certain amount of compromising in relationships, but I don't think it has to get too extreme. I would never renounce something I really loved for an SO, unless it was obviously harming my own life or it was illegal. If I really love something, and I know it isn't hurting myself or those around me, then I will continue to do it until I decide otherwise. If my SO doesn't like the things I do because of some weakness of his, then he can kiss my ass! Haha. (And vice versa, of course.)

2 things I've learned about relationships:

1) NEVER depend on them for anything

2) NEVER change your life for them

I understand that every relationship requires sacrifices and give-and-take, but doing something life-altering for someone who may not be around for long just doesn't make sense.

I am a vegetarian ( for environmental reasons) but I would never force anyone else to change, however, if my SO decided to become vegetarian for me it would show that he is committed to our bond and to me, also it would show that he respects my morals.  I, reciprocally, would have to show that I respect him just as much.