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Miss Double Shot I've been fascinated with Russian dating lately - the idea that a man
and a woman can form a viable relationship based on flirty emails and
the chance to obtain a visa via marriage.
The sites I've checked out mostly cite the same reasons for wanting to
pursue a mail order marriage - no women meet these guys' standards;
they're busy professionals who don't have the time or patience to woo a
woman; these girls have strong family values and want to settle down
with their husbands, maybe start a family of their own?
This site had some interesting (albeit definitely biased) points on why Russian ladies want to say
Do svidaniya to their homeland.
Interestingly enough, very few sites (if any) exist for Western women
who seek Russian husbands. If a service like that existed, I'm sure
there'd be a market for it - think of my roommate, who's given up on
the Send Us $1500 And We Will Find You A Husband! matchmaking service she
started a few months ago. In her own words, she's financially
independent, sick of meeting the same kinds of guys and loves traveling
and exotic accents . . . so why not?
For the guys, it means a ticket to America, a wealthy woman who won't play games and the chance to start a family . . . not a bad deal, right?
I can't say I'd look internationally for a husband if I was desperate
to find someone, but I wonder if this'll become more common in the
future . . .
What it would take for you to consider "ordering" a spouse?
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Comments (25)
I believe in love too much to settle.
Xo
This concept is not new at all. In a way, it's also like an arranged marriage. You give off a dowry for the person you want to marry. I know in Africa parents would do an arranged marriage to not a feed another mouth because they're too poor.
In order to get me to buy a mail ordered husband is to prove that love doesn't exist and you could be happy with any person.
That link made me crack up. =X
How about never? :)
I could never "order" a spouse, but I believe there is justice behind the idea.
For, like you said, men who need to start a family and just don't have the time and women who are happy to oblige.
I'm surprised it hasn't gained more popularity here in the West.
As a woman in a thirty year relationship, I have no need for another husband. (Shudder) I love my guy and I suppose I ordered him up in my dreams as I had dreamed him long before I met him. Thanks for the sub. We'll be talkin.
This concept is not surprising to me...
If I was desperate and hopeless and rich, I don't see why getting me a man candy would hurt.
First off, any woman successful enough to purchase a mail order husband would have no problem getting a guy here in the US, so why look abroad? Plus I think women have higher moral standards in the sense that they would never purchase a husband like a car or a toy. Plus we're taught to idealize romance, so we want to find true love. But I do know women who've married men for green cards. However, they tend to be men that the woman already knows and cares about, so they're basically doing it as a favor. The other problem is that rich women are fewer and far between than rich men. We still make a lot less and there's still a lot less female CEOs than male CEOs, etc. Plus I don't know of many men (especially in more old fashioned countries like Russia) who would come to marry a successful, busy woman so that they could be the one to stay at home and raise the family...
Not my type of thing, but I can understand the appeal.
LOL
this is like those times when Military men mail-ordered their brides from Vietnam and other 3rd World countries. Reminded me of this TV advertisement that featured a guy on a phone calling Russia and saying that he ordered a Tall Sexy Long-legged Russian female with big boobs LOL...
You haven't heard the horror tales of these brides went wrong.
Definitely, not my cup of tea.
I find this amusing, and while I won't be buying a guy any time soon, I can see why this could be a good idea... :)
There is an abundance of perfectly eligible bachelors here in America. Not saying they are all rich,charming, and good looking, but if you've got the money already, why waste it on someone you won't really know until you are married when there are plenty of guys that would take you out (and pay!) right here at home?
Russian guys are not that hawt. At all. Keep it domestic.
I would be really interested to know if they worked out..
Personally, I don't see how it would. [Seems a tad bit superficial] But never say never huh?
I work with a russian guy. I ask him to say stuff to me in Russian, which ends up being eloquent and gorgeous. Oh by the way, he's REALLY FREAKIN HOT.
I know mail order brides/grooms can sound terrible and whatever and I don't agree with them, but wow. They are an attractive bunch.
sorry, I don't do russian guys, hehe.
I could not buy a husband. I believe marriage should be for love, not for utility.
bc russia rocks haha
I wouldn't do it. I've heard/read too many horror stories about men bringing women over from other countries and get taken advantage of by a woman that just wanted to get to the US and get her green card. There's also dangers on the other side of the coin, but for me, I'd be worried about getting majorly taken advantage of.
ordering? that's like I'm buying a product.
I would never order a spouse
@principessadolce@xanga - You got to it before me. LOL
Those men exist in the russian dating services, theyre on the other side of the screen. ;P
I'm not despreate either, but I wouldn't mind loking internationally for a husband. I have no qualms about that.
A whiel ago I was obsessed with looking for the modest owman and what guys like about them. These mail order bride web sites come up frequently and speak of all the virtues that modest women have that modern women don't have. It was very intersting to read.
@Gerald_Washington@xanga - Oh! Hello! I ordered a Russian mail-order groom please do not send one with big boobs and long legs : P
Still not my cup of tea
One thing I learnt about Eastern European men... they have a strange mentality ...
It's not too bad most of the guys look creepy but I saw a decent looking fellow who happened to be 23 years old. Just one year older than me. Pitty I can't have him in real life
this aricle is not help me because i amnot trust in any dating site,but i have a dating site
http://www.russiamore.com