Mr. Lion I never know what to wear on a first date. Do I wear my comfortable clothes or something new and nice?
You
want to make a good impression on a person on the first date, so normally
you think about wearing or buying something nice. Women like a man
that's clean and collected. I have yet to meet a woman that likes her
men any other way on a first date, so dressing nicely becomes a necessity
for me. But what if the clothes you buy to look nice are uncomfortable?
My last few first dates have been significantly different than
my first few. For the first few dates I went on in high school and in
college, I wore jeans, a t-shirt and sneakers. It worked fine but I
knew once college was over, I
would have to dress up a little more or I might not see
a second date.
Women in college are not as picky when it comes to a guy
wearing a t-shirt and sneakers on a date, but in the real world, it's a
different story. So now I wear button down shirts, shoes and if it's
cool enough, a blazer. I like to keep that GQ look (haha, I try!). It was
uncomfortable at first but I've learned to like it and now that I'm used to it, I don't mind it anymore.
What have you worn on a first date: comfy everyday clothes or something
nicer? When you go out, does your date comment on your outfit?
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depends on what/where the date is. i would not be too dressed up if going to the county fair or just out for ice cream or off to the go kart track. but dinner and a movie/play/concert etc. yes a little more dressy that jeans and tennis shoes.
My last first date was when I was still a sophomore-rising-junior in college. [I graduated this past May.] I didn't go out & buy a new outfit for the occasion. Instead, I wore a skirt, which I usually don't wear except on special occasions. He noticed & commented on how nice I looked.. probably also because I was wearing his favorite color! :)
I think for dates, you should wear something nice yet it should be comfortable for you. Then again, I'm not the kind of girl that goes over the top for dates except on very special dates like anniversary celebrations or the ballet. I think it also depends on the places you go & such. My general rule for what I wear on dates is that I like to look cute in my outfits & still feel comfortable in it.
By the way, I've been with the guy for about two years now, give or take a few months.. :)
I would wear something comfortable but looks nice for my first date
My rule: better to be overdressed than under dressed :)
Fitting jeans and a short sleeved button down with clean sneakers does the trick.
I would say wear something that makes you look nice but also makes you feel comfortable. What is the point in looking nice if you're not going to feel nice wearing it.
Besides, people tend to be able to tell when the other person feels uncomfortable. You don't want them to take you feeling uncomfortable because of your clothes as you feel uncomfortable being out with them.
Also, if you are comfortable in your clothes, you also show confidence that you feel and look great. People are attracted to confidence, so if you look the part, at least feel the part.
good question. i'd like to wear my comfy jeans and t-shirt. i THINK a person can slightly class that up or at least make it trendy and not look old.
still, it depends on where we meet and what we're doing. you don't need to wear a button down and blazer if you're just goin' to the movies.
I always make a deal with my date that we can both wear jeans. Doesn't mean that either of us looks sloppy, just that we're comfortable. This way, neither one of us is more dress up than the other!
Women like their men to look nice on dates, even after they are in a relationship. I think button ups and/or a blazer and shoes are a must! It shows you took time to get ready like she did.
@jonchin_19@xanga - what about dinner and a movie? many first dates include dinner right before the movie.
I somehow would make a point to wear something eye-catching plus comfy... imagine wearing something too little & feeling so uncomfortable i'm pulling it around just go cover some parts of myself.. not exactly v sexy right?
& tink Asian men are alittle more conservative & do not pay compliments tat easily. White guys i go out with do comment that they like the outfits & which part blah blah which is definitely good as it boost confidence :D so yesh, DO pay alittle attention to ur date's outfit & compliment it accordingly to score some brownie points!!
As for what men shld wear.. My gfs & i always look at men shoes.. sharp pointy leather ones are gd if its a nice dinner date. Of coz a nicely ironed well tailored shirt works wonders with just plain jeans!
I would wear whatever I wear on a normal day! Unless we're going to some black and white event, I don't feel entitled to dress up.
I don't mind if a guy wears jeans and a T-shirt, but then I tend to go for musicians. Metalheads look a bit funny in business clothes. hehe As long as he looks like he has showered that day and the clothes look clean, appropriate for the venue, and not too ratty, I'm cool with it.
I like to look nice on my dates, but I don't like to out-dress the guy too much. I remember I went on a blind date in college and I wore dark jeans, a fitted T-shirt, a coat, and boots. Casual, but not sloppy.
Or so I thought. The guy thought I was over-dressed and said so. That was awkward. And this was 2001, so big, chunky heels were still in style. Mine happened to be about 2 1/2 inches high. I'm a little under 5'8". He was about 5'5". Oops! Should have saved those for the guy who I found out likes his girlfriends to be at least 5'9" so he doesn't have to look down at them...
It'll all depends on the date. I'm not someone who likes to dress up too much, so I expect someone like that as well. But being clean and collected is a must. If you're going to wear sneakers please make sure they're clean. A turn off is old sneakers that were once white are now brown.
I try to find the difficult balance between dressy and casual. If I wear a button down dress shirt and tie, it's dressed DOWN with rolled up sleeves, loosened knot, dark jeans and a pair of canvas shoes. Gives me that laid-back but is still aware of his own presence kind of look. The last thing you want is for your date to think you're trying too hard or worse, not trying hard enough.
It really depends on where we're going. But I'm not going to lie - a guy gets a few bonus points if he dresses nice.
But don't complain to us girls about having to dress up
even if we don't "dress up" we still have to put a lot of effort into what we wear, and our make up and hair, etc. So you really have it pretty easy.
I always dress according to how I feel about the date. In general though, people always tell me I'm overdressed (for seemingly everything, lol) for various things so I've never had a problem dressing for something. I mean, it's not like I'm going to don an evening gown for a first date!!
If it is good enough for work or church, it should be good enough. This being said, I usually wear slacks or black jeans (non-distressed) and a button up shirt with a collar (short sleeves in the summer, long sleeve in the winter).
I will add dress shoes though.
It also depends on the date, if it is a casual outdoorsy hiking/picnic date, then shorts, t-shirt and hiking shoes should be fine.
I would say dress nicer than you would hanging out with your buddies, but not to the point of discomfort. Because physical discomfort will just lead to awkwardness during the whole date, in general.
The last date I went on (and I'm not telling how long ago that was) ended up happening a bit sooner than I expected, so I wore what I had worn to work. Black slacks, black cami under a white button down shirt and a funky necklace. It worked. My dating prowess apparently didn't though.
I don't like be more dressed up than the guy I'm going on a date with. It really bugged me when I took the time to put together a cute (but not over-the-top) outfit, and the guy showed up in a sleeveless jersey and matching shorts. Then again, I have an aversion to athletic types. The best style on a date for me is one in which both people dress similarly.Â
@ron_andante@xanga - thats so true, i mean with the fashion now you could wear loose tops but just as long as its like one of those nice thin loose materials kinda see through a bit it would work. even empire cuts are comfy yet good looking. girls have more choices now so thank god for that.
i think guys have it easier, for me anyway jeans would be ideal, button down shirts would look smart and i mean as long as you have clean sneakers on i wouldnt care. please dont be sloppy and use sandals. i hate when guys use sandals even if theyre not on a date. guys sandals are so ugly! and if you want to wear tshirts, keep it clean and at least fancy-ish or a statement-making one like some cool graphics or something. all in all i really wouldnt mind that much about what a guy wears as long as hes clean and doesnt smell. its what you bring to the table (conversation, personality&attitude) that will get me sold on you :)
@killthoseclowns@xanga - what about flip flops, are they considered sandals? cuz i flip flops and a girl has to love my flip flops or else... just kidding
I wear something nice, but comfortable that represents who I am, rather than who they may be expecting.Â
My current boyfriend and I mediate between dressing up nice and just wearing what we love. It's important that you change what your wearing depending on where your first date is, though.
So it can really vary.
@SleepyHead - hahahahaha. well, if you love them flip flops that much, that would be cool just as long as you take care of your feet. No cookies where there shouldnt be...hahaha :p
@killthoseclowns@xanga - yeah i try my best. I had a blog about it: http://weblog.datingish.com/datingish/669270849/guys-wanna-groom-too---.html
@SleepyHead - hm good point.
i dont know. i like jeans and t-shirt and if i went on a date with a girl, hopefully it be the kind who didn't mind.
plus, taht way when you do dress up, it's something special and WOW-ing. ha i dunno.