An arrogant person who makes an ostentatious effort to be an aesthetic symbol of sex. Most of them do stupid things to themselves as well. In our culture that involves going to tanning salons (and going excessively) to the point that their skin eerily resembles my mom's leather handbag, bleaching their hair (seriously, blonde is out of style for all non whores), wearing clothes that make a point to excessively highlight their feminine parts.

The attitude has a lot to do with it as well. Have some fucking dignity and modesty and respect and then I won't judge you, really no matter how you look.

Simple as dat.

In terms of guys being the equal of that- everyone is all "blablabla guys are judged unfairly." Well think about this. Do guys go out of their way, or are they known to, hurting themselves and their health to get laid? Do you see (straight) guys often going to tanning salons, or starving themselves, or spending hours putting eyeliner and other makeup atrocities all over their faces? No. The guys SHOW that they just want sex, so you respect them a little. Why? Because instead of taking up a hobby, or maybe even I'd consider it a career, of getting laid, it's simply on the side for them. The slut/whore/pseudo prostitute is one because she LOOKS like one all the time.

To add onto that, not all girls are into a guy like that. not at all. In fact, I'd say it's usually the SLUTS who are. Fuck, at the very basis of it I don't want a goddamn STD! But more than that, those guys are all a bunch of soul less douche packers whom I'd like to do nothing with than throw in a dumpster, along with their leather counterparts.

And that's my opinion. Have a nice day.

I do agree that the slut label is always being carelessly thrown around. Especially between girls, yet in a more positive tone. It's kind of like how the word "bitch" or the word "whore" is exchanged between girls who mean it to be something good as long as it's those girls who are real good friends.

Personally, I don't like the slut label either, and I don't want to bring it upon myself to be shunned or disrespected because of it. When are we going to stop with all of these negative labels? Men, especially need to stop with supporting the double standard of how they can sleep around but women can't. It makes an ass out of them, as well as the women who do the same.

I think a slut is a girl who engages in promiscuity regularly, but I ALSO think a slut is a girl who cheats - physically or not - on someone to whom she is committed.

@saraispiel19@xanga - Some people would call me a slut for having slept with my boyfriend of over two years before we were married.  Does that mean I'm not going to have sex, just to avoid that label?  OF COURSE NOT.

@wewong@xanga - Usually, but not always.  I, personally, am a great example of this.  I get lots of sex - in a loving, committed, long-term, monogamous relationship.  I just don't agree with girls- OR GUYS- who get lots of sex by sleeping around.  It cheapens your body and such.

I think you exaggerated just a tiny bit. If you get labeled a slut in high school, that label isn't going to follow you if you move away or go to college or whatever. That label doesn't stick for the rest of your life unless you let yourself become that. In which case it's all on you, sorry.

In any case.. yeah, it gets thrown around a lot. I hear girls calling each other "whore" like it's a compliment or something, and it's ridiculous... if one of my girl friends ever called me that I'd drop them quick. I had a friend who called my best friend a whore for sleeping with her boyfriend.. albeit she was flaunting their sexual relationship unnecessarily, talking about those things that generally should be private IMO... but that doesn't make her a whore, and I defended her. I've never been called a whore or a slut so I've never had this issue personally... but some people just don't use the word properly.

I lose respect for my friends who sleep around, the guys as well as the girls, although in my experience the guys have been more prone to doing it than the girls (this is in my group of friends, anyway). It does take two to have sex outside of a relationship, so that puts both parties in a bad light to me. Anyone who thinks it's OK for a guy to be promiscuous but it's not OK for a chick is dumb, to say the least..

Well, the word slut usually is associated with a woman who just sleeps around with a vast number of men in a pretty short amount of time. However, people throw it around so much that even if a woman sleeps with just one man once and not again for like 5-6 months, they are still labeled a slut. It's the notion of believing that they are better than the "slut".

But generally, if you look at it, especially with men, some men calls a girl a slut if she sleeps around. Yet, they also call them uptight bitches if they don't put out. So, like you said, have no fear if you live the life of free sex. As long as you're protected and such, right?

Enjoying sex is one thing (and it's a good thing). But honestly, frequent promiscuous sex can be dangerous. And I wouldn't want to be with a man who was having lots of promiscuous sex (um, hi, I don't want STDs thanks), so why would a man want to be with me if I was? I call men who do that whores, so at least in that sense I'm not widening the gender gap. Equal expectation. I do hate how men think women are slutty if they sleep around but then get upset if they don't sleep with them. That's such a double standard.

The other problem is that it seems to me some girls who have lots of promiscuous sex do it for the wrong reasons, not because they actually enjoy sex all that much - they do it because they don't have very high self esteem and the fact that lots of men want them makes them feel better about themselves. But it's a shallow distraction and these women need to first love themselves before anyone else can really love them. And these are the girls that I'm more likely to call slutty than the girls who purely enjoy sex. But like I said, promiscuous sex with lots of people can be dangerous and I don't advocate it whether you really enjoy sex or not. I think what really needs to happen is that it needs to not be ok for men to sleep around anymore either. Call them out for the whores they are.

@la_faerie_joyeuse@xanga - if you conduct yourself in such a manner, fine whatever-- but it won't stop other people from calling you such names, whether you accept it or are just in denial.

end of discussion.

I haven't called someone a slut in four years. Therefore, I no longer really spend time looking at other girls and calling them sluts. But if the label must be attached to a certain type of behavior, I guess it would be promiscuity. Just because you look and dress a certain way doesn't mean you're a slut. Sometimes you cannot even help the way you look! I feel it is the specific action of engaging in lots of faceless sex that earns a woman the badge of "slut". 

@awokenfatality@xanga - haha, wow. Do you ever see how much girls dress up and spend hours primping for each other, or frankly, how misinformed they are on what actually attracts guys?

See: it's kind of a catch 21. I doubt many guys go out and say " I'd like a leather handbag for skin, and black smeared all over her eyelids, along with unnaturally blonde hair and natural black roots." No, they don't.

However, do you know why they respond to that? It's simple- they know she's easy, because she looks like it. Most guys (like that, though frankly MOST GUYS, period, who are straight) will sleep with any girl they know is willing. It's just that these kind of girls show absolutely no self respect or need to be fully seduced. Thus the term "easy"- there's no effort needed. 

@saraispiel19@xanga - That wasn't my point at all. 

@saraispiel19@xanga - i could agree with that.