Friday, 12 September 2008
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Friday Fun: Being A Better BF/GF
What could you do to be a better boyfriend or girlfriend? Is it a quick fix or a long-term issue that needs to be resolved?
(MDS: I need to be more willing to make decisions and give people the benefit of the doubt - I think I'm really dismissive!)
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I think I need to not be so quick to anger (as is my fiery personality, leo sun/leo moon) and to not be so opinionated, maybe keep my mouth shut a little longer before I start to wail off what I don't want to do.
And/or stop thinking the worst situations will inevitably occur, because when it doesn't and I've worried myself into a corner, my boyfriend gets annoyed >.>
Otherwise I'm perfect =P
I need to listen to my boyfriend play music more often. I love to listen to him play, but he seems to only pull his guitar out when I'm watching something I've never seen before. I think when he gets home today I'm going to ask him to play for me.
It's a long term change, because I'm going to need to find time to ask him to play when I'm free to listen and enjoy it, because he keeps telling me he just wanted to play for me.
i need to not be so jealous. or at least just handle it better.
i need to learn how to not "put all my eggs into one basket".
i'm too giving and loving and to dependent on a boyfriend that i forget how to hold myself up sometimes. i want him to love me cuz i'm strong not because I'm weak.
i need to be more understand and learn how to slow the fuck down.
We're both pretty indecisive, so I need to change that on my part... then i'll be the one who wears the pants in the relationship
i have trust issues, that have carried over from other relationships. i sometimes search for clues that he may be sneaking behind my back, when in fact im the one who's sneaking around trying to find stuff... i can laugh at myself, because i know i do it, which gives me hope that sooner or later, ill learn to just stop
I'm not in a relationship now but here are some things that would help make me a better gf for the next guy (I already feel sorry for him) that comes along:
1. Learn to trust him more (the last 3 guys cheated on me, so I have trust issues...)
2. Overcome MY insecurities
3. Okay, fine.... be LESS bitchy. No complaining, nagging, etc (maybe)
4. Stop acting like his MOM! (I care too much... it turns to nagging after a while)
5. STOP BEING A PUSHOVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I'm sure there's more but let's keep that to ourselves for now haha
I need to not worry about how devoted he is to the relationship, let myself relax and really love with my whole soul in stead of doubting if I'm the only one who feels that way.
I've always been the less involved one because I'm always being put on a pedestal, but this once we're on even ground. I owe it to myself (and him) to return the love he feels for me and not to be afraid of it.
NOT a quick fix. But it IS getting easier. :)
really depends on what kind of person your significant other is. there is no such thing as a quick fix.
I could really exercise some self control and not be so quick to anger
as for me,
short-term: less mood swings and nagging
long- term: learn to respect his own rhythm and pace and understand that I cannot impose my own pace and way of doing things
Communicate effectively. Control my temper. Be less of a control freak. Learn that we move at our own pace & we're still works in progress so not push him to fit my pace & plan. Enjoy the now [we tend to focus too much on the future.. we had a HUGE argument one night about who was going to raise our kids & we're not even engaged -- or close to!]
All of these are still in the works. I'm so thankful my boyfriend's so understanding & loving. :)
Oh, & show that I appreciate the little things he does for me. :)
I need to stop being jealous of some of the girls in his life. But I still think he has too many female friends, which may be associated with the problem he has with being social.
@Sk1z0fr3n1c_Fr3d@xanga - I am just the same. and i also need to not be so prideful when i'm wrong.
I need to learn how to actually communicate on a deeper level than 'Hiya, how's it going' and NOT on paper. I can't talk to most people on an emotional level. Oh and I need to learn to actually put some effort into it, instead of just dismissing it as a failure before it even starts.
i need to be less shy around older people so that i can hang out with his roommates without feeling uncomfortable. >_<;
Xo
i have to be less awkward. be truly open with my feelings, express my love to the max, and enjoy the moments i have with him then thinking about what's gonna happen later.Â
@tubbz87 - I have the exact same situation! It's nice to know we're not alone? Oh well, back to working on being decisive...
Just one thing... control my anger. I use to YELL and BITCH really loud but now its just the silent treatment. But luckily, I got a guy who’s understanding and gives me time alone when I need it.
I need to control my temper and not to overreact anymore. Also I should stop being so paranoid that he will leave me/cheat on me when I know he loves me and he wouldn't do that.
I seem to think of the worst as well, and when we have a fight I just dramatize it and I say it's "over" when what I really want is to be with him and for us to get on.
I think he's tired of my " I can't take it anymore ". Especially because I'm so young and there's lots more coming so it's bad that I can't take it anymore already haha.
I need to shut my mouth about certain things, and deal with some of the baggage I brought.
I should let my boyfriend know everyday how much I care for him, and not take him for granted. :D
I think a good start would be finding an answer to this question. Maybe my problem is that I don't know how to fix things without there being change on HIS part, not mine.
Maybe I need a reality check so I am ABLE to say what needs work.
i think i should be less suspicious that he might be cheating on me. Stop being so paranoid about things. And just love him and be selfless and I know everything will work out on it's on way. I agree to some other people that we have just to enjoy what's "now" and not think ahead of the future. Just let him know that you care for him a lot. So he may know that he won't do bad things cuz someone cares a lot about him.
I need to calm down and not be so quick to get angry at the little things.