Remember our post about how school is the best place to meet people of the opposite sex? Here's a related question...I just started college this fall as a freshman and I'm not at the
main campus of my college, but at the branch I go to, there are about
3,700 students, which I think is still a fairly good amount of people.
Anyway, this is only the third week of school, but I have seen PLENTY of
good looking and attractive guys around campus
. I am very excited
about this, because in high school I didn't really like any of the guys
I knew.
How do I start talking to a guy that I
think is attractive or would like to talk to?
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ask for directions even if you know where you're going. In time you'll spot the ones from class and the ones from bars.
no one will chat people up randomly on the street. it would be wayyyy to awkward. i suggest that you join some clubs/societies and try to socialize more. when you met someone you think you like, start chatting with him more, then you should be able to get a better picture of his personality and whether you two are compatible
Easiest way to initiate conversations with people is when you have them in a class.
but, be careful of guys! no matter how cute they are! haha i blogged about it here.
Form a study group with the hot guy in your calculus class. Actually study. Being dumb is not hot.
Join some on-campus organizations - because you want to be there, not because you know So-and-So is in it.
Strike up conversations with everyone you meet - whether hot or not (and whether male or female). You'll be surprised at the diversity of people you've met in your life.
just smile at them, flirt, whatever. It's so easy to hook up in college. MUCH harder once you get out of college, so get hookin!
hey sometimes u have guys that like u and are to shy to admit my sugestion is to just ask him
Just start talking to people in your class and becoming friends with new people. New friends lead to new circles, which can lead to meeting those new good-looking guys!
@sorjai@xanga - It's definitely harder once you get out of college!! I wish I had known that about 6 years ago before I graduated!
@MustangSally04@xanga - haha I figured it'd be easier to hook up in college. I just didn't think there were so many complications once you start working, hehe. It's funny how we have to resort to additional ways of hooking up, e.g. online dating, speed dating, "it's just lunch!", etc. But we also have additional ways of networking that I've never had in college, so that's a plus.
MAKE FRIENDS WITH GIRLS!
seriously. i've been at my school for three weeks also, and it honestly helps to make friends with a lot of girls, because they know boys [: i'm from out of state, and so i didn't know anybody coming up here, but i became good friends with girls who are from the state with a lot of friends at our school, so i meet guys all the time. suggest hanging out with all of them together, so it's not awkward. just have fun.
i live on campus, so i have friends in dorms all over, and visiting them is also a really good place to meet boys. my friend had to go pick something up from another dorm tower last night, and i offered to go with her [: any opportunity you have, take it. you'd be surprised at the random conversations that start when you're in the hallway. last night i talked to two guys just because there were some idiots riding the elevators and being really loud. they had come out to investigate, so we started talking :D it's comfortable for them because it's where they live and hang out, so they'll be walking around talking to each other and therefore more willing to talk to visitors.
and also, they tend to walk around without shirts on in their hallway [; always a plus.
GO TO CLASS. freshmans are the friendliest people on earth. they'll talk to just about anyone about who they are and where they are in their life. everyone is basically in the same boat. mingle away!
This may be difficult, it may wrack your nerves to the Nth degree, and many people would say it is too controversial to try, but I'm going to let you in on how to start talking to this attractive guy:
Walk over to where he is located and......
....say, "Hello!"
Ask him a simple question. Anything from directions to complimenting something they're wearing...hahah though I'm not sure about that. Girls who seem to be interested on talking to me out of nowhere always comment something I'm wearing or the hair...things like that. See what they're studying..(perhaps they're reading a book) comment about that who knows. Anyway, if they're in your class, become their study partner or class partner
cafeteria or lunch area...
1. Start the conversation by asking if the seat next to him is taken
2. ask him where the library is... or what ever dumb question a freshmen might have (the point is to let him know that are you're new around here) Find out if he is freshmen too... freshmen might be easier since you'll see each other frequently because you both must take GE / Pre-Req
3. ask him what major he is and what classes he's taking
(At this point you wanna study the common ground between you and him that is school related) find out if you guys have classes together, or chance to have classes together in the future "oh I am taking Calc too, who is your professor? He seems like a nice guys, have you baught your books yet? Hey do you wanna study together sometime?"
4. engage in casual conversation... talk about anything (don't get nervous) talk about where you guys are from, talk about this city, talk about food, restaurants, internet
The ultimate move:
a lot guys fall for this one easily: express your incompetency with computer... or you internet is just not working... "it's been one week without internet... I don't know what to do :(" Most guys know computer & internet. If they're friendly enough, they'll offer you some assistance.
unless of course he is a total computer idiot...
Just remember
it is EASY for girls to pickup on guys...unless you don't give the person a good first impression... meaning normally guys tend to have higher resistance against ugly & annoying chicks - so be chill, be yourself
Avoid blasting questions after questions... have a good conversation
if you're average looking, it'll be a piece of cake
if you're hot... don't even worry about it. Let's hook up.
:p j/k hope this helps.
try sitting next to said cute guy and break the ice. like hey what did you think of the class so far or what's your major? something common that you can talk about for a few minutes. maybe it can build into how about we grab a cup of coffee after class? good luck with that.
The best bet is talking about school related stuff(asking notes, major questions, how they feel about school) Eat with them if both are in the cafeteria and you kinda know them from class. Different girls have approached me different ways, and they've mostly been questions about directions, compliments, class stuff, etc. You should make friends with the girls first. I'm guessing they'll know plenty of other guy friends, so you could go from there too.
Keep on swingin'
@oulck@xanga - haha yeah i wish more girls would make the first move. it's totally easy for the girl like you said.
I think finding a school club with something you are interested in is good. At least you would meet someone with the same interests as you. I am hoping you are not just looking for the fling thing and actually making friends with a possible future.
If you just want the fling thing, there are plenty of suggestions above to do. Joining a club and having a quick fling would make it awkward later on, if it is something you are really interested in.
So I would suggest a club or association to meet good people. Maybe even take a martial arts class, mostly they are guys, and some of them are actually normal (like me) and not at all into punching people for the fun of it (as is sterotyped).
Like many have suggested, join an activity or go to class. Sometimes you can chat up with random people during lunch/dinner hours in the cafeteria while waiting for or what not. I would say try the library but some people may be actually studying and don't want to be bothered, but you can try it.
try to see if they play sports or goes to the gym, a lot of times those guys end up in the gym. I remember when one girl in my school played ball with some of the guys and everyone noticed her. She was the only one. I think she went out with one of the guys that played ball with us. so that might work too.Â
same as a lot of the people above--join some clubs, those are a comfortable setting to find people with similar interests... and get to class early, so you can talk to guys before class is starting. :)
an easy way of doing that is to smile and look at them :] guys love it when a girl smiles. even if you don't know him, thats a good heads up. Good luck!
@un_deniable@xanga - :) jk hehe
if u chase him around the school ull be more of a pest unless he likes you so dont do that belive me wene someone does it to me its realey anoying but like most u may start by joining a class or somting extra and start by talking about the class or somting of that sort. o almost forgot dont get your freind to run up and tell him you like him thats a litel weird. or u can be truthfull and tell him that hes cute or somting like that most guys actuley are hoping that you will talk to them atlest its how i fell but if u do that dont press it on him and be sure to ask later if hes ok with the relacionship. hope it helps!
join a SORORITY