This is a guest blog submitted by sahar.So remember my friend who had
hidden intentions? Well, you guys were right - he did. However, I didn't give into them and I had a great time showing him around New York City.
While
he was here we went to the usual touristy locations: Times Square,
Statue of Liberty, Ground Zero, and I showed him my favorite rock in
Central Park. We went to the
MoMA and... the
MoSex.
Yes, we went to the Museum of Sex. And yes, such a thing actually exists.
No,
I'm not one of those perverted girls who's absolutely infatuated by
everything involving sex (despite the fact that I did get dragged to a
sleazy strip club for my 18th birthday and my friends paid for me to
get a lap dance). I'm just not shy about sex.
We had a great time
going through the history of sex and the ins and outs of the Kama Sutra
(no pun intended). We got a good laugh out of most of it, but some
parts (the video clips to be exact) were a little awkward to see while
standing next to an old flame. Overall, a definitely good experience.
So, now he's just IMed me telling me he's coming back into the city for...get this... a
porn convention. He asked me to go with him and even told me
he would buy me a VIP ticket so we can go to the after parties together.
Usually, I'm all about trying new things, but with
this guy it seems like everything we do is based around sex - not us
actually having sex, because I am absolutely not interested, but us
looking at sex.
Is this weird? Should I go to the convention with him?
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Comments (40)
Same outlook as before - if the porn convention sounds fun and interesting, why miss it just because you're not infatuated with the guy taking you? If you think it will be awkward and you won't have a good time, don't go. But if you think it will be fun, go. Pretty simple guidelines, right? Just stay true to yourself.
I don't know if it is wierd, but it probably isn't a good idea to go to the convention with him.
I think he thinks that there is still a chance for "something". He's probably got it on his mind that you have some sort of interest. i.e. despite putting the moves on you, you still hung out with him touring NYC and even going to the MoS - and overall had a good time.
Perhaps you could tell him directly that you would not be comfortable to go to such an event and also for the reason that you have moved on from your past relations. Yes... us guys can be that dense........ we need it said plain and clearly to us.
i personally wouldn't go. especially since you mentioned he had hidden intentions before and the sex museum made you feel a little awkward. that was educational...this is porn. it's ALL hanging out!! ...and a little more and a little lower than you'd probably like plus more. hmmm and porn convention after parties? i don't know, this guy just sounds sleezy as hell.
I concurr with FirstMapleSong.
hmm...
tought one..but i think id go! dont pass up a chance to have a laugh just because you dont have a thing for the guy! it sounds like fun :)
I'd go, but that's because I'd actually want + it's free. Go if you want, as long as you don't want anything else to come of you two. If he makes you uncomfortable with it, then don't. If you don't want to go, then don't. period
hahaha wow that's a new one about museums.
If it's your thing and you feel comfortable with it, I think it's ok. However, perhaps too much viewing of this can give him the wrong idea. You might not be interested, but he might be thinking otherwise.
that's a tough one. I would not go if the dude is sleazy in any way. But you know him better than any of us do..so go with your gut instinct on this one.Â
Go if you're comfortable with it. Don't over think it. You said it was awkward, so think about it before you decide.
Just because you're not interested in him, doesn't mean you can't have fun. If you really want to go, just go and if he makes any advances, let him down easily.
Like someone said earlier, the other one was a museum...this is a porn convention. There's a difference there. If you're comfortable with it, go. If you're not, then don't.
@FireMapleSong@xanga - Well said.
I'd go - it sounds like fun!
I find most porn to be kind of demeaning to women so I would never go to a porn convention, especially with an old flame. And the fact that he's obsessed with sex would actually be kind of a turn off to me. Think about something else, damnit!
sometimes people have a specific friend to do a specific thing with. you'll have that friend who you always go to see concerts with or shows. or that friend who you'll go shopping with. or the friend who goes with you to try out different ethnic restaurants with you. so i guess this is the guy that you do your sexual activities with. (not have sex with him, obv. but u know what i mean) so just go, have fun, if this is something that interests you. don't pass on the opportunity just because you feel like all you ever do with this guy is go to sexually related events with.
@Dial_A_Prayer@xanga - I totally agree
i personally wouldn't because i hate that porn even exists.
I would say just do what you think is right, you cant go wrong there. You can either go and have fun and put aside all the stuff that you think he's trying to get you to do, or you could not go, tell him that you're not interested, and possibly wind up staying home doing nothing. But idk your choice.
I would go. I would just try to let him know that your cookies stay IN the jar and his hands stay OUT!!!
whoa! That is sooo awkward...
Be 110% honest with him about your intentions. It sounds like you enjoy his company... as a friend. If this is the case, just be honest.
It also sounds like you really want to go to the convention. Once again, be honest about your feelings and go if you want. If you really are not comfortable about going, then be honest and wish him a good time. Perhaps offer to meet him for lunch of something while his is in town instead.
Either way, I wish you the best!
NO.
That sounds like it would be way to awkward.
If you don't feel comfortable going with him then don't. It's totally possible that for him you are a friend who is willing to accompany him to these events - but at the same time only being invited to sex-related events has got to be unnerving. If you think it sounds interesting and don't mind his company then go for it but you're not obligated to him in any way.
To reiterate what most have posted in response, I'd go with your gut instinct on this one. If you feel awkward about it, forget it... however, if you really have no problem hanging out with the guy, go for it. Just don't be surprised if he tries to pull a move at some point in the night.