This is a guest blog submitted by sahar. Today, as I was
walking through the Fashion District to get to work, I passed
Parsons
and noticed an extremely well-dressed, attractive man walking behind
me. I immediately wanted to grab his attention so I started thinking,
what can I do?
My cardigan was hanging over my bag. Then it
"accidentally" fell... oops. The extremely attractive man picked it up
and we made brief conversation for probably less than a minute. I
complimented him on his Sonic Youth teeshirt because it was amazing
and I happen to have the same one.
Then, just as I was indulging in his blue eyes as he lifted up his white Ray-Bans, I heard a name calling from behind him.
"Paul! You're still here! Great!" He ran up to my eye candy and gave him a kiss on the lips.
I was disappointed, to say the least. My
Gaydar is usually right on point, since I've been trained by my gay best friend; however, this time I was completely off!
The perfectly groomed hair at 9:30 a.m. should have thrown me off, but I'm not one to follow stereotypes and he was just so cute!
How's your Gaydar? Have you ever been attracted to someone whose orientation wasn't what you expected?
Comments (88)
why are the good looking ones always gay?
@FireMapleSong@xanga - Oh, bah!
- I don't take crap from anyone. If something is going on and it needs to be fixed, I speak up.
- I don't make decisions based on emotional reactions; instead, I reason out which pathway makes the most sense for me.
- I dress comfortably and based on what I like. I don't care what others think of how I look.
- The most makeup I ever wear for any occasion? Light eyeliner, mascara, and maybe lip gloss. I don't even own powder, foundation, concealer, lipliner, lipstick, etc.
- I'm aggressive
- I love math and science stuff, even when it's considered "geeky"
Though, I do have my girly points, too:
- I will wear a dress around my dorm room, for no other reason than I like the way it swirls around my legs
- I will only date men who are taller than me, because I want to be able to look up into their eyes
- I'm physically a wimp - people hurt me all the time without intending to because I'm very sensitive to pain
- I can get wound up pretty tightly about some things, whereas the typical male response is more laid back.
Hmm... not really sure, but time will tell!
@la_faerie_joyeuse@xanga - Doesn't sound masculine to me. It just sounds to me like you're a very reasonable, intelligent person, and 90% of men and women aren't that, so people like to say when they're not your average man/woman that they have tendencies of the opposite sex. I don't see any reason why not taking crap, making reasonable decisions, dressing comfortably, avoiding painting one's face, and liking geeky stuff is not considered "well evolved human traits". The only masculine sounding trait you listed there was aggression.
@FireMapleSong@xanga - I was speaking from a traditionally understood viewpoint.
Just out of curiousity, what do you consider to be masculine features or traits?
@la_faerie_joyeuse@xanga - Actually, when I really think about it, it's hard. My dad is extremely metrosexual. Most the men I look up to are. So what I consider to be masculine is often in line with what I consider to be feminine.
But I do know that I have some very uniquely feminine traits. I stand the way women stand. I'm very into girly drinks. I like small, fluffy animals. I'm not saying I'm femme, but I do know things that aren't masculine versus things that are lol
My gaydar is nonexistent. Unless it's blatantly obvious, like he starts out saying stuff like "girlfriend! you would not believe" or something else stereotypical. Otherwise I am clueless.
TERRIBLE. i never recognize them unless he's a real flamer or mentions a boyfriend, haha.
boo! sorry to hear that. my gaydar is pretty bad, and i have alot of gay friends.
my gaydar is nearly flawless, but well, i´m gay. so i have an excuse. lol. most women have some sort of SENSE though. or at least it seems so. as do guys. and sometimes its obvious. lol
::Rico::
My gaydar sucks. Which is a pain in the ass for me, because somehow I always end up crushing on girls who look queer, but are actually straight.
I just thought it was funny you mentioned the word Gaydar because my sociology professor said it in his lecture and honestly I thought I would never hear it anywhere else.
And to get to your topic, I did have a slight crush with a guy who was bisexual.
My Gaydar is most excellent. But then again...I'm gay, and don't hit on random strangers.
My gaydar fails constantly, and I'm gay. I guess it's just a sense that some people have and some people don't. Unfortunately, having terrible gaydar as a gay guy makes things pretty durn difficult.
My gaydar's fairly accurate, except when they guy's hot, then it's in denial. :) I was totally crushing on an adorable co-worker, but then again, the man purse should have been my first hint.
/FAIL!
i guess when that happens, you just enjoy the view.
my gaydar is awful, so to speak.
I fell for a guy I knew was gay once. : /
I'm not like those girls that go gaga for manfection (fangirls kind of creep me out), but I have a close friend who's quite gay, and as a result, he's always playflirting with me. And, y'know, regular kind, too. He's super enthusiastic, fun, and because he knows there aren't any lines to blur because he wouldn't ever really be interested in me, he's super easily affectionate. He treats me like a princess and when I see him after a day or two he uses my full name and acts like he hasn't seen me in forever.
Obviously, I am nhot at fault here. :)
I fell for this guy in school once. What atracted me in him was his politeness creativeness and originality.People around him made fun of him saying he was gay and I thought they were just false rumors. I asked him myself and he denied being gay.However right after he moved schools, I found out from close friends that he indeed is gay but that he didn't want to tell me afraid to hurt my feelings.This news really made me sad and shocked. But I am over it now =) So that's my story.
i have a great gaydar seeing as my twin sister is gay and most of my friends are, so i have no problem spotting out which guys to go after and which guys aren't mine for the taking
Sorry Hunny
My "gaydar" is pretty good, I guess.
My gaydar sucks more than it used to; not totally sure why that is. Slightly better with men than with women. I just try not to assume one way or the other.
ONE thing's for sure: if I ever take to hitting on girls I will be colossally screwed. I just have no idea at all with women unless they're stereotypically butch. Oh the humanity.
Anyway. Good story!
I think everyone else's gaydar needs to be adjusted. People always get the impression that I am gay.
My gaydar is pretty fuzzy. You never know, especially with the kids I know. But I like that. Stereotypes really kill me. And super flaming gay guys are really something like preppy girls to me. And preppy girls I find very very annoying. Nothing against gay guys, I just hate the stereotype. Oh the headaches.
A lot of gay guys are really attractive I think because they care more about their appearance, like most girls do at least on some level.