This is a guest blog submitted by sahar. Today, as I was
walking through the Fashion District to get to work, I passed
Parsons
and noticed an extremely well-dressed, attractive man walking behind
me. I immediately wanted to grab his attention so I started thinking,
what can I do?
My cardigan was hanging over my bag. Then it
"accidentally" fell... oops. The extremely attractive man picked it up
and we made brief conversation for probably less than a minute. I
complimented him on his Sonic Youth teeshirt because it was amazing
and I happen to have the same one.
Then, just as I was indulging in his blue eyes as he lifted up his white Ray-Bans, I heard a name calling from behind him.
"Paul! You're still here! Great!" He ran up to my eye candy and gave him a kiss on the lips.
I was disappointed, to say the least. My
Gaydar is usually right on point, since I've been trained by my gay best friend; however, this time I was completely off!
The perfectly groomed hair at 9:30 a.m. should have thrown me off, but I'm not one to follow stereotypes and he was just so cute!
How's your Gaydar? Have you ever been attracted to someone whose orientation wasn't what you expected?
Comments (88)
Unless it's in your face gay, I don't trust my gaydar at all I've been wrong so many times. I wonder if it's even there.
I always fall for Llesbians. I should be good at picking them out - my sister is one and hangs out with them! But I just find girls who don't give a shit about how they dress, don't wear make up, and aren't afraid to play with boys really awesome. Also, I have effeminate tendencies, so masculine girls match with me pretty well.
I'm not very good with gaydar, but I rarely fall for people until I know them well enough to know their sexual orientation!
@FireMapleSong@xanga - Not all masculine women are lesbian or bisexual. I'm fairly masculine - in personality if not in natural appearance - but quite straight.
wait.. so didn't your straightdar fail you? lol
@UnVolume@xanga - haha, im with you. they have to completely flamboyant and obvious, otherwise, i'd never get it. i just don't assume; if it comes up, it comes up. sometimes i just ask hahaha
my gaydar is either stalled or out of order... i cant tell his gay until i see it wit my own eyes, him kissing or touchin his partner!! Shocks wit every time... cuz i b so off.
This guy i was dating that i kinda sensed it but kept brushin it off.. broke it all off outta no where... im thinking its cuz hes gay
N why is all the gay onez so SEXXY?!?!!
My gaydar is terrible. Oh well. Not the worst thing in the world. I guess I just have to strike up a conversation with a guy to find out more about him!
It is so disappointing to find a hot guy who's gay. D:!!!
Darren Hayes of Savage Garden and Roch Voisine are my two biggest, saddest, hot gay men with gorgeous voices downfall.
I think it depends, like someone said some people are very ''flamboyant''? But other men are just like anyone else, so I don't think I can tell. Never in the real life, but some celebs have surprised me. With women, probably a whole different story. I am clueless. ^^
I'm sorry to laugh at your failing gaydar, but this story is so funny. "He ran up to my eye candy and gave him a kiss on the lips." I love that line. I have never seen publicly displayed affection like that, so it would probably take me by surprise. But then I'd probably grumble and say "why are they always gay?" I've had my fair share of voicing my opinions, namely, "That guy is sooo cute. He's so good-looking." and then being told, "Ooh him? He's gay." My gaydar never works unless the guy is completely acting the part, lol.
Hmm....My gaydar? It's more like a stereotypcial one, but it's usually right, and besides I don't think their ghey unless i'm positive they are, and no, I've never been attracted to someone who's preference wasn't what I expected, maybe it's because I usually ask first...
My gaydar's pretty good when there's a guy getting awfully close to me and trying to kiss me.
I think all men are gay hahhaha. So I never even check out or talk to men unless they approach me. Sad. I hang out with my gay crew too much... and this is what happens.
During a summer writing workshop I started developing feelings for one of my peers in the workshop. Then we got paired up with some other girl to read our stories aloud to each other. His turned out to be something that happened to him in life about some guy that he met and how they would sneak out together to have sex. I was shocked because I thought he was straight.
I had a crush on this kid a long time ago, then he came out of the closet to me, and I had to be supportive even though I was kindof taken aback
@haloed@xanga - Yep. I was devastated when I found out Jonathan Taylor Thomas was gay...I was in love with him back in the day.Â
Eh, I don't think I really believe in gaydar. I don't like putting people in boxes.
@TheCheshireGrins@xanga - AMEN!
Xo
@UnVolume@xanga - @la_faerie_joyeuse@xanga - I agree with la_faerie_joyeuse. I sometimes joke that I'm kind of a man, but I'm really quite straight. I can be very feminine too, and other than being tall I don't look masculine, but I have a lot of the same characteristics my father has, which might be more stereotypically masculine.
I have definitely been attracted to gay guys before. I have a lot of gay friends, and I seem to make friends with gay guys before I know they're gay or before they're even out. My gaydar is getting better, but I've definitely been disappointed at a guy's orientation before.
OH NOs! :( That is the ultimate disappointment.
To be honest, I haven't had a few run-ins! So, I just sort of don't assume stuff about people. I'll get to know them and naturally, I will know. But, for the most part, even if he is good looking and gay, there can't be any reason we can't be friends...even if I am still so interested if he turned straight any moment :D
A lot of my female friends think gay guys are hot... and at the same time think "what a waste."
@la_faerie_joyeuse@xanga - Fairly masculine...and yet you name yourself "la faerie joyeuse"...hmmmm
most of the guys i dated are secretly attracted to guys but still have a thing for girls. In other words bi.
my gaydar is great though. lol