This is a guest blog submitted by sahar.Valentine's Day, though a Hallmark holiday, is a day filled with roses, kisses, and dark chocolate (yum).
Some
people these days don't support Valentine's Day. They say it's a
"corporate holiday" created to make more money. Yes, it might be that,
but it's also a day to express your affection to someone special in
your life. Some people also say that you should express your devotion
to your SO everyday, not just one day of the year. I agree with that, but
Valentine's Day is a day that just makes you feel special.
I've had some great Valentine's, but I've had a couple of horrible ones, too.
One
of my best was about three years ago. My boyfriend of the time and I
didn't do anything spectacular, just rented a movie and went to watch
the sunset at our spot in a local park on the Hudson River. However,
that night the sunset wasn't just your average orange sunset. It was a
fiery reddish-pink painted onto the sky. It was so romantic!
My
worst Valentine's Day was this past year. My boyfriend had a "DJ gig" that
he failed to mention to me. He also, apparently, "lost his phone" so he
couldn't call me. I spent all day waiting for him to surprise me, show up at my
door, or even send flowers. I had convinced myself that it was a joke
that he had completely neglected Valentine's Day. Well, that day I got
no flowers, no chocolate, no surprises, nor did I receive one phone
call. He, on the other hand, got a huge gift basket mailed to him
filled with his favorite munchies . Sigh.
What were your worst and best Valentine's Days? Is it a corporate creation or a lovable holiday?
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Comments (45)
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It's a commercial "holiday" all the way. There are much better "special" days such as anniversaries, birthdays, so do the "special" things on those days if you feel inclined. At least restaurants/flower shops, etc. won't try to rape you on those days... well except if it's on valentine's day =P.
I don't see how Valentine's Day can be more special, especially if the girls usually "expect" something on that day (some may say they don't, but I'm sure they'll be disappointed if they don't get some special treatment).
I personally prefer to make someone feel special on a random day. Surprises are usually better, and if you do it "just because", it's certainly more special than some "special" day like Valentine's Day.
Last year for valentines day my boyfriend suprised me with a bag of flour. I know sounds SO wierd, but it gets better. He told me that a necklace was hidding in the flour, so I emptied the entire bag of flour onto the pavement outside (we were at college that day). I didn't find the necklace, then he went to his car and pulled out a single rose, and said "oh yea... ha, wrong flower!" There was a white gold diamond heart necklace on it!
Then he also had a dozen roses, 11 real and 1 fake. He and I both love the saying, "and He gave her a dozen roses, 11 real and 1 fake, and said I'll love you till the last rose dies" Some find that very cheezy but it was the most romantic thing I had ever heard!
you just gotta lower your expectations. if you expect something romantic/sweet and you don't get it, you're gonna be so disappointed. keep your expectations low and anything that happens will be a bonus.
i can't really remember any outstanding valentine's days. last vday, a girlfriend and i went out for dinner at a restaurant that had a special v-day price fixe menu for couples, so we pretended to be lesbian lovers. it was fun. we bitched about our bfs during the meal, cuz they were really pissing us off then.
I don't really have a best V-day story, but the worst was my boyfriend at the time not only broke up with me, but shared that he had been cheating on me. Yeah pretty lame haha
I don't think I've had a good V-day...ever. I don't even really like the day that much, I try to ignore it.
My worst, and probably the reason I dislike it...when I was 17 I was dating a guy that was a complete loser (hindsight's 20/20!). I had to beg him to even get me a single rose. Which he did. I think he picked it up at the grocery store on the way to my house...3+ hours late. He was so late that my mom made him leave 30 minutes after he got there because it was so late!
@photogeek07@xanga - that is adorable. 11 roses and 1 fake, i'll love your until the last rose dies.
im swooning
At first I thought about something else..in my country have the V-Day but means Fuck You Day...
anyway,
Being my relationship ended on 12th February I don't have a good thought about it. Actually wasn't that bad. Just an ordinary day. Not angry enough to be jealous on others.
my ex surprised me by bringing a big white teddy bear & chocolates to my work.. i also got a love note, 1 red rose then he took me to tiffany's in beverly hills because he wanted us to get matching couple rings..
Valentine's Day is also my birthday so it doesn't matter if I'm dating anyone or not--I always get something on February 14th.
It's a shitty day to have a birthday on, though. People just give you candy. And none of your taken friends will come to your party or will celebrate with you because they're all out with their significant others.
But at least it's a distraction if you're single so you don't mope around, dress in all black, and do the whole Single's Awareness Day (gag...talk about emo!).
I think my fav. was the first v day i ever celebrated with my boyfriend. We actualyl went out with our friends and had dinner at cheesecake. :]
The worst has to be the last v day. Nothing happened. at least the year before that, he had forgotten,but had gotten us necklaces with our names and birthstone and he has mine and i have his. But this last year, no call, no nothing... and we were doing long distance! so sad.. what'd I get him? ROCKBAND. AND i had sent it in early... to make matter worse... my birthday was 5 days after... and I still got nothing for the birthday as well.
Valentine's Day is a corporate holiday. I agree that you should show your significant other that they’re loved and cared for any day and everyday. Not just one day of the year. I think it’s sweeter if a boyfriend shows up randomly on any given day and takes me out on a date; it just shows that he was thinking about me, where I do not need to remind him of my existence.
One of my favourite moments of Valentine’s Day is when my previous boyfriend took me out on a stroll in the park. It’s my favourite simply because I love nature and he remembered that. You can’t buy me over with money.
valentines day is a day for lovers to express themselves when they might feel awkward doing so 'just because'
and it's a day for singles to celebrate their status in being unattatched and fancyfree!
yes it's over media-ized but so are a lot of awesome days and that doesn't stop them from being awesome!
I have yet to have a really special valentines day, but I can say without a doubt that this year's valentines day was the worst. I go to NIU, and valentines day happened to be the day of the shooting. It was a pretty scary, depressing day, to put it simply. =\
Never had a good Valentine's. Asides from the fact that it's an unabashedly corporate holiday, the only time I haven't been single for it, I went to Monterey. And then the next day, I got dumped. Talk about a dick move.
Then again, I enjoy Valentine's. It's a perfect excuse for me to wear all black (which, I have to say, is just plain fun). I'm not even bitter - it's pretty much just a tradition at this point.
Besides, I like black.
corporate creation. for sure. but not harm in celebrating it. I'm not big on V-Day. If my boyfriend doesn't get me anything, it's very "whatever" to me. We buy each other random gifts all the time. No biggie.
I've had a few. One where I freaked out because I had a mini stalker and I received a really weird card saying that they loved me and would kill himself if I didn't date him...luckily it was just my house mates playing a joke.
Another was when my ex completely neglected valentines day and i had organised some really nice things because that's what i'm like...when he realised i was upset he went down to the fish and chip shop, bought me a bottle of wine and some chocolate and i just wanted to punch him in the face.
My best was this year with my current boyfriend. We'd only been going out for a few weeks but we were really close friends before hand so we were really comfortable with each other. Valentines day was a Thursday this year and we both had a cold so we stayed at his and I cooked an extravagant meal and we spent the night holding each other and talking. He surprised me by making me oragami roses and buying me a hat and stuffed animal we saw on previous shopping trips. The following weekend we went for a walk around london and then for a meal and then because we were both still sick we went home and to bed.
What made it special was that we were just happy being us without anything major happening and that we were exactly where we wanted to be.
My best Vday was last year.. my bf came over and hid 13 gifts (13 was for the number of months we were together at the time) around my house with clues on each one so I could find the next gift. The last one was the cutest though.. it was a teddy bear holding a red rose
I don't really have a bad Vday story, but it's partially because I have bad memory hahah
this last valentines was my best! I was seeing my now fiancee and he sent me a dozen roses. I was so surprised because I didn't expect anything from him so soon into our relationship. Then, a few hours after the roses, I got a HUGE box full of assorted candies. How can you not love someone who tries to hard to surprise you and treat you?
This past one was the only one I've celebrated. There was ice and snow everywhere, no electricity because of it all, and I had 103 temp. I originally had a suprise dinner planned for my boyfriend, but with eervything else I thought better of it, so we celebrated a week later. That night ended with a slow dance in my drive and our first kiss.... : )
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We stay home on V-day. We don't want to fight the crowds or sit among stupid "lovers" whose relationships, quite frankly, are much more superficial than ours. We cherish each other EVERY day, and feeling coerced to celebrate on the same entirely arbitrary date every year is absurd.
I've had good V-days before where a boyfriend has made me dinner and given me a dozen roses unexpectedly with a love poem, but last year's beats all. My current boyfriend (who at the time was only my best friend) and I decided to be each other's Valentine because I had recently gotten out of a 2-year relationship. So I was really down on love and he wanted me to at least be able to say to people I had a Valentine. Therefore, it was mostly a joke that we were; I didn't expect anything out of it. But he called me that night and said "Your house number is 41, right?" And I was like, "Yeah, why?" and he said, "Just didn't want to get it wrong." I then asked why he needed to make sure he had the right address and then he said "Gotta go!" and hung up on me. I'm completely confused at this point and then I hear the doorbell, so I went to answer it. He stood there with a rose and a cheesy romantic card (but I like cheesy romantic things), with a note from him about how I deserve so much more than my last boyfriend gave me. Exactly two weeks later he got up the nerve to ask me out, and since then he's constantly brought me roses and other gifts at random =]
My worst was the year before that when I was still dating that jerk of a boyfriend. I bought him tickets to see the musical Wicked with me. For those of you who don't know, it's not cheap to go see that show. Plus, I bought his and my train ticket to get up to Chicago to see it, and then told him I'd pay for his dinner too. He didn't even say thank you. He said "I had a feeling you'd get this for me." What did I get in return? A jar of Hershey's kisses. Ok, so the jar was decorated with fake daisies (my favorite flower) but the decorations were all done by his STEP-MOM. That should have been a sign to me right there that his family loved me more than he ever would.
And I do agree that the holiday is only around to create money, but along the same lines as what IvyMySweet said, if you celebrate Easter with an easter egg hunt, everybody is out buying candy and stuffed rabbits. Peeps wouldn't be around if it weren't for that holiday. So there's really no harm done in V-Day.
I've always hated valentines day. It has always been depressing and lonely for me, and when I DID have someone I was always freaked out because I didn't know what was expected of me.
This last year was perfect. I sat at home, and my boyfriend came home he brought me Italian (he ...hated.. pasta!)
It was a sweet gesture, considering our cold and distant relationship at the time.
After hours of silence..
"i burnt you a movie."
It was Sweeney Todd. He somehow managed to know I was an avid fan of Tim Burton.
It's the little things that make me happy.
My girlfriend and I haven't had out first Valentine's Day yet, but all of my past ones were great, simply because I always get candy from whoever my valentine is. 12 grade was the best, I had five different valentines, which meant five separate doses of sugary sweetness. I haven't really had a bad one that I can remember.
My best Valentine's day was last year. My friends and I went to this Valentine's day dance, and my friend flirted with me using candy hearts, then asked me out at midnight after the dance. My birthday's the 15th, so I got a boyfriend for my birthday!