This a guest blog submitted by sleepyhead.This morning on the train ride to Datingish HQ, I offered my seat to an older woman (yeah, I'm nice like that
).
She was extremely surprised I had given her my seat and thanked me in her heavy foreign accent several times.
I usually give up my seat
to older people - men or women - because others do the same for my
parents, but this lady surprised me - she was so happy about getting
the seat! I couldn't help wonder why it was hard for her to believe
that people still do things like that.
I've always found girls who do random acts of kindness in public to be more attractive.
One of my exes always went out of her way to overtip at a restaurant.
She always said, "just because they serve us doesn’t mean we have the
right to treat them like servants, even if they mess up". She was a
waitress for three years, so she knew what it was like to be in their shoes. The first time went out to dinner together and she mentioned it, I couldn't help but find her more attractive. Not many people
possess that kind of a quality.
What acts of kindness does your SO do that makes him or her more attractive? Does it rub off on you?
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Random acts of kindness are usually a reflection of how big someone's heart is. I have quite a lot of respect for those who possess it and any man who does is up there on my list. Plus, it gives me hope--philantropy isn't dead.
she was probably surprised because, expecially younger people, just sit there and act as if they don't exist, or too bad. i remember i had to ask some kid to give up their seat for an elderly person, i was so pissed at how inconsiderate they were.
but yea, good deeds rub off on me. it's like that commercial, i forget for what company..i think state farm? anyway, that made me think about doing more acts of kindness.
random acts of kindness are always nice and it puts me in the best mood so I do the random act of kindness towards everyone. :)
so yeah it rubs off.
I was once on a full campus bus at school when a group of about 10 four year olds from the day care center boarded the bus with their chaperones. Including myself, a total of maybe three people gave up their seats for the children BEFORE the bus driver had to angrily demand that others do the same.
Sadly this is the kind of behavior I've come to expect from the masses. So when I took a trip to Orlando and a guy offered me his seat on a bus (he wasn't hitting on me - he was with his girlfriend)... it really renewed my faith in people. A small act of kindness can go a long way. It most definitely rubs off.
On a side note, I think it's a shame if your sig/oth ISN'T inspiring you to be a kinder, better person.
@beachblondie711@xanga - Agreed!
My boyfriend isn't afraid to talk to strangers! We were at a bus stop waiting for a bus to take us to the zoo and there was this pretty big family waiting with us and he initiated conversation through jokes. It was so sweet and charming!
A guy I was dating and I were driving around town for a grocery store at midnight on a Friday night. After stopping by five closed stores, we were at a Ralphs that looked open. We went to the entrance and there was an elderly couple standing outside looking worried. They told us that the store was closing and asked us if we had a cell phone they could use. Apparently, the cab they called half an hour ago hasn't arrived and they were stranded. My date handed them his phone but also offered to drive them home if they wanted. They were a little hesitant (us being strangers and all) but accepted the offer. They said, "We usually don't do this but you seem like good kids." They lived a few blocks away and they said they walked to the store but couldn't walk back carrying that many groceries. After unloading their groceries, the couple were so grateful that she kissed my cheek. Fortunately for us, they told us where we could find a grocery store that was open 24/7.
My date and I talked about our random act of kindness. I couldn't help but find him even more attractive. He told me that even if they lived more than 50 miles away, he still would've drove them home. I told him it was fate: We had a car with no idea where to go and they needed a car with our answer. I admired him so much but his modesty told me to never mention it again, which made me admire him more.
An ex-girlfriend I used to live with always did something random. Whether it was paying for the next person's order at a drive-thru or helping an old lady with her groceries, she always had to do something. Eventually, it rubbed off on me.
I so read that the wrong way...
Rubbing one off is something I usually do if my gf is not available...
:)
In all honesty though, I never get the random acts of kindness...I'm usually the one providing them...
The girls I've dated were nice about it at first, then they started to lose appreciation for it... I guess it's not so random when you're always considerate...
Then again, that's not what girls look for...
"Chivalry is dead...And women killed it..."
My boyfriend is not like a "tree-hugger" or "save Mother Earth" kind of person. But he refuses to kill anything willingly and knowingly; yes, even ants. He prefers to either leave it alone or simply pick it up and take it outside. I, on the other hand, am the epitome of a person who fears insects and anything that's creepy-crawly. Until it is dead, I will not sleep or rest. Despite our long-term relationship, his bug-friendly ways have yet to rub off on me. =P
i do give up my seat in the subway train quite often, whenever i'm in the subway. my SO also does it. when it comes to tipping, i will give according to the service provided. i won't treat the waiter/waitress like a servant. i'd be polite and say my Ps and Qs, but the amount of tip i give will be directly proportional to the service rendered.
Aww...these are such cute stories.
Never dated someone with these random acts of kindness...
~da;lkj tapioca miLk~
Oh ! You have done a good job in this world !
I support you ^^
One day, two African American men in their late teens to early twenties
showed up at my ex's apartment selling fundraiser magazines in order to
send them to college or something like that. My ex wanted to buy two
magazines to help them out, but didn't have any cash or checks, which
was the only method of payment that they took. So he ended up, believe
it or not, driving the two of them in his car to the bank so he could
give them money! You can imagine how this could all have gone so
wrong, but in a wonderful moment such as this, the two gentlemen were
so very grateful, my ex sponsored them, and they went on their way.
Days later, he received a card in the mail from those two men, thanking
him for his kindness. They said that so often they had been written
off by people or people hadn't even bothered to open their door to
them. They said that they had felt so blessed and touched to have
experienced such generosity.
Upon hearing this story, I was just so amazed at my boyfriend's
generosity (and, you might argue, stupidity). When so often random
acts of kindness go sour or unrewarded, this was just a great instance
when everything aligned perfectly. =)
My ex had always said that what he loved most about me was my kindness, but this was a time when I was just so blown away by his.
She's always doing something kind...simple but really kind. I like it that she doesn't care to take that lil second of her time to do something for someone who needs help.
Smiles. I melt at all of them. It's an old technique and it works everytime. (=
My boyfriend was in CO setting up his company Qwests new building down there, he is from AZ so he should want to enjoy the cold and snow, he would walk to and from work everday. One day, he ran into a mother and her two girls living in their car, they asked for change and he gave him all the money in his wallet, which was about 300.
He always does super sweet stuff like that for ladies abd childs. His mommy raised him right. :)
Xo
i always find these random acts of kindness to strangers more attractive than deliberate acts of romanticism/ thoughtfulness to me. Everyone can attempt to please somebody they like, but only the genuinely kind-hearted can do random favors to people they don't know.
@JessxMaxine@xanga - I really love that! I lived in CO for a while and despite my dislike for Qwest, I still wanna say that what your boyfriend did is great. I'm sure he knows it too... I wish more people would do that.
Good post, it's good to see people still doing things like this. Actually I saw two incidents of this today, a cute elderly couple got on a tram and two males, one middle age and one in their late teens gave up their seat for the couple to seat.
Sadly, I haven't yet observed my boyfriend doing any of these because we usually drive when we go out though...
I haven't spent enough time around my girlfriend lately because I've been traveling with work (the job will be complete soon), but one of her great qualities is that she wants to help/counsel children from broken/abusive homes. Her own family was very dysfunctional and I love her even more that she pulled through it and wants to help others see the light at the end of their respective tunnels.
wootz. kudos to you! i usually give up my seat whenever i see an elderly woman or man board the bus/train. every small random act of kindness counts!
@whatyourBFreallythinks@xanga - "Chilvary is dead... and women killed it."
Sadly I'd have to agree with that. I get mad so often when I see guys opening girls for women or giving them their seat and the women don't even barely acknowledge them. :-/ I don't care if I have to say "Thank You" till I'm saying it in my sleep. If the guys around me are polite enough to do that and stand out, they deserve at least a "thank you."
My boyfriend is so patient and kind, and he's taught me to be more accepting and less judgmental.
In sum, he's amazing.
But since I'm generally an arrogant bitch, I don't expect (and am not particularly attracted to) excessive kindness towards other people, particularly strangers. I think what turns me on is when he treats his friends - or better yet, his exes - really well.