This is a guest blog submitted by sahar.My sister's newest
romance is seven years younger than she is. I haven't officially met him
yet, but this Sunday we're all going to the beach together.
In
the past, though some of her boyfriends have been younger, they've been
significantly older than me so they've treated me like a little sister,
which they should. This time it's a little more peculiar because the
new boyfriend is only three years older than I am. He's the same age as
my ex-boyfriend and most of my friends.
My sisters and I are extremely close so my opinion of him is really going to affect her.
I don't really know how to act around him. Should I treat him as a friend or as an older brother?
Is it weird that my sister who is ten years my senior is dating someone who is closer in age to me than to her?
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That certainly would be weird... but not all that uncommon. Actually, this November, I'm in one of my friend's weddings... she is 26 and she's marrying a guy I went to high school with (I'm 18). But if it was my sister, I think it would be a little strange.
I think you shouldn't think about the age thing so much. You haven't met him yet, so when you do you should just treat him as any other person you're meeting for the first time. The age thing should not matter. At least not for the first meeting. It's about maturity. My mom is 20 years older than me and my boyfriend is closer to her age than to mine. My mom has never let that bother her. All that matters to her is that i'm happy and that he treats me right.
haha. sorry if that was a little preachy. lol
Treat him like a friend. You don't have to accept him as a brother unless you're comfortable with it. As long as your sister's happy, right? :)
it does seem weird, but its not. my limit is 10 years older/younger. my parents are 7 years apart. as long as they love each other it's all good.
I got married to a guy that was 4 years older than my oldest brother [and my brother is four years OLDER than me] so i can imagine the creepiness that have effect on my family.
however, they never met. so i guess im fortunate enough for that! lol...
oh but that is not any weirder than my best friend who is 27 years old, falling in love with a 41 year old man, who is OLDER than both her parents!
You should still treat him as an older brother as a show of respect to your older sister.
It isn't always good to attach so much meaning to age. While age is significant in some senses, it isn't always the most important thing. I say just meet the guy and see how he is. I don't see how age really matters in this situation. The age of someone isn't the best aspect to judge a person against.
I think you should treat this guy like you would any other bf that your sis has brought home. It doesn't always have to be a friend relationship or a brotherly relationship, just a mutual respect and understanding. If a friendship forms or you naturally feel like he's brotherly, then go with it, but you don't have to force those types of relationships.
yes! treat him like just he is some other Bf of your sister. Not necessarily the brotherly or friendly type is needed to be defined.
I am sure once u meet up everything is gonna be clear!
@momma2babies34@revelife -
oh but that is not any weirder than my best friend who is 27 years old, falling in love with a 41 year old man, who is OLDER than both her parents
Were her parents like 14 when they had her?!
@momma2babies34@revelife - So did her parents have her at 13 or younger?
I agree with the others, treat him like you would to any other of your sister's boyfriends. He may have a higher maturity level and act after all like an older brother, who knows.
as unconfotable as it might seem
don't panic...
main thing is that he loves and respects your sister
if it seems right then let it be
btu if he acts sketchy or you thing he might not treasure your sister then tell her why you dont approve
Thats a little weird, but you should just treat him kindly and polite, not too formal or too comfortable, just enough to make your sister happy and enough so that its not weird.
Kinda confusing, but it depends on how you see it.
I mistyped that wrong. I meant that they are SLIGHTLY younger than her boyfriend by a couple years. They were young having my friend.
just treat him like you'd treat any of her other boyfriends. it does seem like it'd be a little bit weird, but don't do or say anything that might upset one of them. right now i have a boyfriend who's 7 years older than me (same age as my sister) and that's why i'm scared for him to meet any of my family because of how they'll react that their 21 year old "baby" is with this big tattooed & pierced 28 year old...
I don't think it's necessarily weird. Things happen like that. I think you shouldn't make a huge deal about it. Just act like he's just another guy(don't worry about his age) Maybe that means you'll get along with him better, but just don't overthink it.
Just act like you would with any other bf. But being almost his age, I think you should treat him like any other boyfriend but less comfortable. Don't get things confused. Not saying you would do something with him, but you might get too comfortable because of his age. So, treat him like any other boyfriend but don't get too comfortable due to his age.
@ZippyBoon@xanga -
@awokenfatality@xanga -
@momma2babies34@revelife - ugh i did it again. Her parents are few years older than her boyfriend... man, why do i keep making same mistakes?? lol
Treat him as you would any other guy that age - your friend, if that makes you more comfortable.
Treat him as if he was some one you were just meeting - don't try and treat him special or treat him poorly or anything in between. Just look at is as "this is some guy I'm going to be seeing around a bit, lets see if he's cool"
If you trust your sister to have good taste in men, then you have nothing to worry about anyway.
You can only make it uncomfortable by overthinking it. Just treat him like any other boyfriend. Maybe you'll get along with him better because of his age or maybe not. Still, keep things polite and simple. Don't overthink it.
Just act normally
i wouldn't accept him as a brother-figure unless my sister married the guy. friends works better. :D
I would suggest just treating him like any other boyfriend your sister would be introducing you to for the first time. From there you can establish any type of relationship the both of you feel most comfortable with.
Is it weird that your sister is dating someone that's closer to your age then hers? No. I don't believe age really matters as long as the couple has an understanding with each other and the relationship works. An age is just a number and only the maturity level is important.