This is a guest blog submitted by sleepyhead.I remember my first time.
It was quite a while ago - I had no clue what
was going on; all I knew was I had someone special with me. It was a
Thursday afternoon in March. My basketball season had just come to an
end, so I had extra time to spend with her. We decided to head to the
park after school that day, and it was cold...spring was supposed to be
around the corner, but there was no sign of it yet. The trees were slowly showing
signs of leaves. We bought a few drinks and were in the middle of the
park, not sure of what was about to happen.
She wanted to start things
off by playing a game. I didn't want to play but she was getting upset
and made
that face. I had to give in. We were enjoying our warm
drinks and playing the game, sitting on this worn out brown bench.
Eventually the game led to us reintroducing ourselves. I don't know how
it worked to begin with, but I went along with it. Then it just happened.
In
the middle of the game, the words just started to spill out. I told her, "I love you". It was like a scene out of a movie; I could hear music
playing all around me. This was it. It was about to happen.
Except
it didn’t.
We just sat there for a few minutes. That music I was
hearing was just the car horns blaring, people trying to get home to
their families. I didn’t know what happened.
Why didn’t she say it back?
I
still remember it like it was yesterday, the first time I uttered three of
the most important words in a relationship. It was scary, yet
satisfying. It hurt she didn’t say it back at that "perfect" moment - in fact, she took her time before she said it back -
but things worked out just fine.
When and where was the first time you said "I love you"? How did it make you feel?
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I have yet to officially say it.
four months ago. Nothing happened, but I wasn't expecting anything to happen. It's just.. something... that is. But the whole thing is sort of weird so don't use me as a benchmark of any sort.
I was laying with my boyfriend, in his bed, over two years ago. We were both still virgins - we were just cuddling there, enjoying the smooth warmth of each other's skin against our own.
My head was tucked under his arm, my hand wrapped around his bare torso. I just said, "Hey, George?"
"Yes?"
"I love you."
He told me that he loved me, too, and he kissed me.
It was perfect. We're still together. <3
My first time was minuscule and unimportant -- via IM.
My first REAL time was perfect. Even thinking about it now makes me smile. :)
We were lying in bed just looking at each other for awhile. Then he smiled and said, "I love you." I paused and smiled back until I realized I hadn't said it back yet. After leaving him hanging for a few seconds, I said it back.
That was over a year ago, and we're still together and happy.
I have not said it to anyone yet. Perhaps this is because I have not dated anyone yet.
My boyfriend had come to visit me at college one weekend in October of 06. We were lying in bed and we had been talking for hours! The next thing I know he was getting super emotional and tearing up and pouring his heart out to me. I wiped his tear away and he said he loved me. At first, I just laid there in complete silence, I was taking it all in & couldn't believe he felt the same way, then I said it back. It made me feel great and now I feel like crying because it is such a precious moment. THANKS!
To go all the way back to my first "I love you" would take forever! The person I first said those three words is no longer in my life and does not apply.
My first "I love you" was my freshman year in highschool. We had been dating a little over 7 or 8 months and we had walked backed to my house after a basketball game. We were giving that long goodbye hug and he whispered it, I of course said it back. It was cute.
The relationship of course ended a year or so after that.
I said it in an online message.. except I realize now I didn't really mean it.
Oh - and at first, I thought this post was about your first time having sex.. lol.
we were walking around outside, during the springtime, and i just looked at my boyfriend at the time and say,
"hey um. so i love you. is that okay?"
"totally. i love you too."
it was an awesome feeling.
the end. =)
He said it to me first... during the Dark Knight of all times. XD It was sweet though... :P
the first time i said it was when we were waiting for the bus.. i was really scared of saying it but i just decided to blurt it out. his reply? "thank you!"
i've never heard him say it to me though, except when he's just singing along and those words happened to be in the lyrics or something. i'll probably never hear him say it but i do believe that actions speak louder than words.
I'm still waiting for that moment... never been in love, unfortunately :(
My first time meaning it?
Wow. That was this past Christmas. My now ex-boyfriend (only because he moved to New York) called me to wish me a merry christmas and see what I got, and this is how it was after a long conersation and a small section of silence...
Him: "Babe."
Me: "Let me guess, you have to go now?"
Him: "No. I love you, I just wanted you to know that."
Me: "You remember how you asked me what was the best Christmas present I got?"
Him: "Yeah."
Me: "I just changed my mind."
Him: "Oh word?"
Me: "Ha ha word baby, I love you too."
I'm almost in tears just thinking about it. I can't wait until he comes back! :D
Best christmas everr!
I believe the first girl I said it to was a young lady by the name of Karen. I treated her horribly in High School, but later, after I grew up and matured some, I realized what a dork and a total jerk I'd been to her. We went out for dinner, and talked, talked, talked, talked, and talked some more, and I let her know how I felt. I told her that I loved her, and she responded the same way. I apologized for being a big jerk to her for so long and for so many times. I must have cried in sorrow to her for thirty minutes. At any rate, she forgave me. We ended up going our separate ways, but that was one moment I'll remember a long time.
The first time I told my wife I loved her was in October of 2005, when she and my then-future-mother-in-law came to my place for a visit. Life has been awesome ever since!!!!!
I was a freshman in high school. My boyfriend at the time and I were in my bed just holding each other [he was still a virgin at the time.. me, not so much, but we had yet to have sex] and he just kind of looked at me and said, "Kate... I'm in love with you. I love you." I was in shock for a few seconds, then smiled, and said it back. We broke up three years later.
The first "I love you" with my boyfriend now was out of a fucking movie it was so romantic. We were on the beach at night standing where the water was only an inch or so deep... just kind of standing there, holding/kissing each other, looking out at the water and at the stars. I looked up at him and the two of us just kind of stared at each other for a good thirty seconds, and then he said it. I really think my heart stopped I was so damn happy.
The funny part: after about three seconds of trying to figure out if I was imagining the whole situation, I said "I love you too"..... and was completely SOAKED waist down a second later by a wave that came out of no where. We both laughed, and needless to say I'll never forget that night.
Argh. Now I miss him. Damn you!
@pikapril25@xanga - i thought it was about virginity too!! lmao!
Never said those words...N I've dated alot n had my share of boyfriends N Failed relationships.
Some have said it to me But i have never uttered those 3 little Words!!
My day will come..right?!??!!
I've never said "I love you" and meant it outside of my family.
@pikapril25@xanga - I thought it was about sex too.
Mine was over the phone. For the past few days, whenever I was with him in my head those three little words were shouting at me. Then on that night, he said, "Evelyn, what do you think about love?" I can't remember my response to him unfortunately.. Then he said, "Do you think you love me?" I said then, afraid of being rejected, "I THINK I may be falling in love with you." "Oh, because I love you." I was so happy he felt the same way that I said back to him with more secure.
@pikapril25@xanga - Lol. Same here, I thought it was about sex.
I say it to friends endlessly, but romantically? Never.
it was about a week after us spending every waking moment together, two weeks after our first "date", and three weeks after the day we met. we were sitting and cuddling on my couch and having one of those sort of animated, really serious, and emotional talks. We were facing each other and he pulled me in a really close embrace and was telling me about how he viewed me, how he wanted his future with me, the things he was willing to do for me, and telling me how he loved me after such a short amount of time. I was in awe. And through the whole thing a whirlwind of emotions welled up inside of me and I think I began to cry a little (I don't do well with emotional moments). I thought about how fucking ridiculous it was that we were having this conversation so soon after meeting, and then I realized....dude...i love him too. And I think it might have went something like "yanno what? It's crazy, but I love you, too"
I'm glad he was the first person I told that, too. I was in love before but didn't realize it really and never said it...and I'm glad I didn't because the first person I said it too is going to be the only. We've been together a little over a year and we are together, happy, and making plans for our future together (i was almost engaged...that's another story tho)
Mine is a bit complicated I guess. Kind of the same scene you were in, yet I was the girl that didn't say it back for a while. I've just always been the girl that everyone thought was easy and innocent and would do anything just to make someone happy instead of making herself happy. [which I kinda was that girl...just not innocent or easy...psh.]
So when my current boyfriend said he loved me [in the cutest way! ha!], well, I was scared shitless thinking that all that was gonna happen is that i'd end up having sex with him and then he'd get bored of me.
Turns out I was just being a little paranoid freak. Been dating since June 27 last 2007.
I ended up saying I love you back after a five hour conversation about him trying to convince me that his feelings were real and that he wouldn't do that to me.
Best thing I have done in my life yet.
this blog makes me smile. he said it first, i hesitated, i said it back. i meant it more than i've ever meant anything in my life. it wasn't in a perfect place or at a perfect time, it was just the perfect feeling.