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Miss Double Shot No matter how close you get to someone, I feel like there are still things you should take care of yourself. Even though it's a sweet gesture, seeing guys buy tampons for their girlfriends at the grocery store still gives me the heebie-jeebies. I highly doubt it was voluntary on their part, too . . . would any guy willingly differentiate and purchase feminine hygiene products? Floyd, if you're reading this, you're off the hook, so don't worry.
The bottom line is that I respect him (and every guy, for that matter) and don't want to embarrass him by making him buy something I'm certainly capable of purchasing myself.
I'm wondering where you draw the line when it comes to helping your sweetie out. It's romantic to say you would do anything for the love of your life, but come on - surely there is something that you wouldn't dare subject your SO to or do yourself.
Is there anything you'd really rather not do for your SO? What are some things you wouldn't make your SO do for you?
(I also wondered aloud to
sahar if there was an equivalent for girls - what could we buy for guys that would be equally embarrassing?)
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Purchasing feminine hygiene products? What's so embarrassing about that?
I never found that to be embarrassing. If it's on the shopping list, I buy it. I don't think there's that much that I'd be embarrassed about buying -- within reason. Or doing, for that matter -- again, within reason. Like, I wouldn't murder someone, obviously. But short of committing felonies or betraying people I love -- which, I don't think anyone I would be with would have me do in the first place -- anything reasonable is fine with me.
It's about comfort. I feel comfortable doing just about anything, feminine as it may be, because I don't have that insecurity about masculinity.
I wouldn't ask my SO to do anything she was uncomfortable with either, unless it's to motivate her towards something she knows is good or her but is afraid to try for it.
I am pretty compulsive about popping zits, especially on my SO.
One guy I was dating got a butt pimple.
I drew the line.
My boyfriend has said he'd buy that stuff for me, even though I'd never ask him to. :)
I'm pretty sure there isn't anything I wouldn't do, within reason of course... You wouldn't find me murdering anyone for him or something illegal -- but I'd pick up an embarrassing product for him if he was too sick to do it himself.
my boyfriend grew up with a single mom. needing to buy his mom her fem products since he was old enough to drive, he gladly buys mine regardless of how much i tell him, "i'll do it."
i have a problem buying condoms because of that double standard. i feel like if he buys it, he'd be praised that he's getting some. and if i'm buying it, i'd be looked upon as a slut instead of being safe. i've bought it myself before and i could've sworn the cashier gave me some weird look.
If he's already going to the store and you need some always, tampax, whatever I don't see anything wrong or embarrassing in making him do it. A girl's period is something normal and natural, there is no embarrassment in that, and in speaking if I need it at that moment and ran out, I wouldn't want to run to the pharmacy to pick it up with no protection. I don't know of anything embarressing I would have to get for my SO, but if he needed it as something as important as that, I see no problem in doing it.
I think as time passes and the relationship progresses that stuff is not much of an issue. I mean buying something like that. Um I have bought a medicine that was embarrassing to buy for him The kind you feel like saying ''it's not for me'' XD But it's cool I don't mind. I'd move across the world for him :) We joke that when we are old we'll change each others nappies XD
@cuzimlexxi@xanga - I agree. I hate buying condoms! I'm more of a "bulk is better" type of gal because mistakes happen sometimes and one will rip or be kept in a place that's not the most conducive for its maximum effectiveness, or whatever so I figure it's better to have more than less. So I sometimes like to buy lots of packs. The look I get from the cashier is all but priceless! The last time I bought them in the morning, I can remember thinking "it's too early in the day to be judged!"
Hmm, I don't know what I wouldnt do for him. He isnt demanding. Idk. We are pretty willing to do anything for eachother. I guess, we are just one of those couples that aren't embarassed to do things for eachother.
Xo
@the_last_kiss - attaboy....
@lotta_valdez@xanga - you made me laugh out loud...loved this...
@cuzimlexxi@xanga - what do you care what a total stranger thinks? i'm just asking.....
i can truefully say there is really nothing that i would not do for my so. i have brought bras and panites (she gave me instructions as to which etc.). i have held her hair as she vomited in the parking lot. when she aborted in our bed, i wnet out and bought a new mattress before she got home so she would not see the blood stain. so there is nothing i can think of that i would be embarassed to do.
but i do feel funny buying condoms! go figure! lol
@LadyMaleka@xanga - haha i got that too! i bought it close to 3 am and i swear he was thinking, "late booty call?"
@tialoca_talks@xanga - its not that i care. for me its like urinating behind a bush at night. if its more convenient that i do it, i'll do it. but if i can avoid it, i'll avoid it.
Ehhh... occasional purchases of feminine hygiene products while I'm already out buying other stuff isn't a big deal. If it was a consistent request, I'd probably speak up and ask why she never bothered getting them on her own when she was out and about running her errands.
I would never ask a gal to purchase porn, dirty magazines, etc. Not that I have any, of course.
* ahem * But I'd imagine that it would be embarrassing.
My SO would buy anything I needed without a second thought...I stop at chewing his gum...ewww!
hahaha I wouldn't let her buy me underwear...lol it's just a funny thought. I really can't think of something I wouldn't do for her...I'll have to think on that some more..
I think I'd do many things for my SO..I can't think think of something I wouldn't do for her. I don't think I'd even mind buying her tampons, pads, and things of that nature. I think it would be weird when people look at me eyeing the items, but it's for her, so I don't care what people think. Besides, I've bought my girl cousins stuff like that before.
As far as things she would do for me, I really prefer for her to do nothing for me at all. I'd rather do things myself, but I guess a lil help once in a while isn't bad. I'd be embarrassed if she were to go get me underwear...lol I wouldn't want for her to constantly buy me stuff including food, clothes, and things like that. lol...
I'd really do anything for my SO. The whole thing about buying tampons wouldn't be a problem either. We share the mutual feeling, so I'm just happy we can get over the embarrasing moment part.
I wouldn't date someone that was dumb enough to run out...
I do my own shopping, she should do her own too...
Another thing...Not only did Women's Rights liberate women, it liberated men as well...
I'm fine with getting the period stuff myself, but if it's an emergency I don't see why it should be embarrassing it's not like the stuff is for him. The only thing I can think of that would be embarrassing would be getting Preparation H or something like that.
the only reason i'd make my SO do something like that is if i REALLY needed him too...
otherwise, the closest he's ever gotten to doing that is paying for them while i was standing relatively near him..x]
@cuzimlexxi@xanga -
I sooo agree about the condoms. When I was with my ex, he said we wouldn't do it until he knew I can walk and buy condoms, and at that time I wasn't ready for that so I jokingly told him that then he'll never get any.
Later on though, I've bought them too and the cashier gave me a weird look and a wink.
I'm assuming we're talking non-sexual here.
In which case... I can't think of anything. We're both really giving (him moreso than me) and really open with each other.
And if I was curled up in his bed in pain, he would definitely go get me feminine products if I needed them. i never HAVE. But he has gotten me ice cream to make me feel better.
Saying that guys shouldn't buy tampons / pads is kind of sexist, and I'm kind of against that. So far, every guy that I've dated before was gentlemanly enough to either buy them for me or come with me to the store or something - one of them even stole a pad from their mom for me.
And there's nothing I wouldn't buy for them. Sure I might hesitate or not be happy about it, but when you're with someone and it's serious, those embarassing things become a part of the relationship.
@whatyourBFreallythinks@xanga - "Not only did Women's Rights liberate women, it liberated men as well..."
You'd like to think so, wouldn't you? Yeah, me, too.
I view it as a way of showing courtesy or kindness to your SO, to be willing to buy something embarrassing if they need it and it's easier for you to get it at that moment. I probably wouldn't ask a boyfriend, but figure at some point my husband will end up doing that, as I would do for him.
it's not so much about what's done, but does my SO love me enough to do some menial task without being asked, even? I would feel really honored and cherished by someone who offered to get me something potentially embarassing, just because he wanted to do something for me. And after all, we women can then have our ways of showing appreciation. :)
Also, it doesn't make a woman "dumb" if she runs out. You don't always know how many you'll need for any given period, and maybe you forgot to stop at the store. People forget stuff, you know. I'm glad I'm not dating someone who would consider me dumb for that. Geez.
@la_faerie_joyeuse@xanga -
My ex didn't have those pillows that you can warm up in the mircowave - so he made one, out of his sock with little rice thinies or marbles in it...I don't know, and warmed it up for me. I know it's an odd thing to do, but right there, it seemed the most romantic thing. xD