This is a guest blog submitted by sahar. Womanizers. We all have encountered them, snarled at them...and maybe even fallen for them.
He's the
man who's constantly seducing women, has a horrible reputation, and yet
you just can't seem to get your eyes off of him. Despite your better
judgment and the advice of his past victims, you pursue some sort of
intimate relationship with him. Then you end up regretting it.
I
think womanizers are a slow death to the beauty of dating. They've
managed to control their emotions and not get the butterflies, sweaty
palms, excitement, and suck the fun of dating right out of it. They see
their women as conquests. Finally, like Frank Sinatra, they are the
e ternal bachelors.
Here's an
AskMen.com article about the top ten womanizers, and frankly, I'd love to be with each and every one of them. Especially George Clooney.
I've
fallen for my fair share of womanizers. Maybe it's because I always believe I could be the girl to change their horrible ways, or maybe it's
because they've been playing the game so long that they've mastered it.
Why do girls fall for womanizers? Do you know womanizers yourself?
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Comments (59)
*sob* *sob*
I think this is overdone. It could just as easily be argued that womanizers cause more dating to occur.
Now, is what they do meaningless? Perhaps. But it comes down to your purpose in dating. If you know your purpose, and it doesn't include flings, then don't walk that route.
On the other hand, there are plenty of women who do live by the occasional fling, and they hook up with womanizers. Who is using whom in that case?
I fell for a womanizer and I regret it. I should have known better but they are good at what they do...
As a woman, I wish I could do what the womanizer does. I would love to beat men at their own game, sort of like Samantha Jones. But that takes a level of confidence that I do not possess..
The point is...I fell victim to one of these men and damn did it hurt.Â
is George Clooney gorgeous? you betcha...would i date him? not without a court order and a gun to my head....i have no idea why women subject themselves to womanizers...this is one of the reasons i object to women basing their dating on sex....sex is fine, lovely in fact, but to base how you pick out a date by whether they are gorgeous or how they might do in the sack just makes me shake my head in wonder....
@desertrose2890@xanga - why ever would you aspire to be a hurtful, self centered user? and you are mistaken, it doesn't require confidence, only no moral compass whatsoever.....
@tialoca_talks@xanga - Indeed, I would argue that having an obsession with doing the same thing over and over, rather than moving on to subsequent stages of a relationship, paints womanizers as inherently afraid: either of women, or of commitment, or of kids, or some other thing associated with a normal relationship.
@moritheil@xanga - i would venture to say that womanizers actually lack confidence in themselves since they never risk letting a relationship develop into anything more than superficial sex....
@desertrose2890@xanga - I'm waiting for a classic "Don't hate the playa, hate the game" quote.
It's because they have the confidence to get what they want, unlike other guys who are shy and not upfront about their feelings.
I do know somebody like that.... I always wondered why all the girls kept going out with him. Although I've noticed that all the girls who fell for him were the ones who never had boyfriends before and believed his "I looooveee youu" attitude.
Girls fall for womanizers because, subconsciously, most are just afraid of commitment and a truly bonding relationship as most men are. That's my theory anyway. The idea that most women want a meaningful relationship based off truth and mutual understanding seems totally bogus and out of step with what I encounter in my day to day. The truth is, womanizers are simply men who like sex, and the women who fall for them are simply women who like sex. Maybe I sound like a bitter ass, but the truth is, I'm OK with the fact that that's the way things are. Quit trying to make it seem like it's their fault for providing a quick and easy lay and stop trying to pretend like you want anything more from them.
...you'd like to be with hugh hefner? ...seriously?
also, girls fall for womanizers because we like to abdicate control. a womanizer is a take-charge, confident guy... just the kind to have a passionate affair with. don't despair, though, nice guys, because most of us want to have a relationship with nice guys, not womanizers.
I've fallen for them and learned my lesson. I think these kind of guys are immature and a lot of times their bullshit will eventually catch up to them. I'm pretty good at interpreting them at this point, and I think most of them know to stay away from me unless they'd like to be verbally castrated. =)
Ugh, no way. I might have gone out with one way back when... No thanks. Infidelity is the biggest turn off for me. I don't care how rich he is. You know, the only way I could be with a rich womanizer is if all I was interested in was his money. Or if I was a masochist :) Gene Simmons? Hugh Hefner? Um yeah...I don't think so.
I really like a lot of these comments. I think womanizing sucks. It reminds me of the slaughtering of the buffalo when white folks (for lack of a better term) when around killing all the buffalo, even shooting from train windows leaving carcasses all over the place. The native Americans had a huge value for the animal and never killed them without valuing them. Granted women aren't animals to be shot, but it's an analogy. Anyway, a womanizer is someone who has almost no value for the woman and tramples her beautiful and delicate heart. Women bring so much to the table in healthy relationships that not only do womanizers not understand but will never experience. You have to treat a woman right to experience her full value. Womanizers get samples and scraps but never get the real deal because they never put in the time energy or risk required to experience the true beauty and life of a woman. Women go for womanizers in part because women desire love and attention is a form of love. Quality guys usually are more cautious in getting into relationships because they know what it requires and want to be with the right person. Womanizers are here and now and out for the kill. Quality men are watching and waiting, are taking the time to develop themselves as men. They'll take action when the time is right, but you have to wait, be content with who you are as a woman and not be desperate for someone right now. If it seems too good to be true right off the bat, there is a good chance it is. A good man doesn't mind if you require patience and take it slow to find out what he is really made of. A womanizer needs you to get sucked into the passion right now for his plans to work out. Make sure you're not super needy and have plenty of people who you know you can trust who provide love and support and always be open to their advice and it will help keep you safe from sexy jerks. Also, for me personally, I have seen a protection over my life that I cannot explain except to say that I belive it is God. Ask God to protect you and listen when you feel inner warnings and you might be surprised how safe and good your love life becomes. Oh, and if you can, don't sleep arouond. You open doors to people's powers of seduction and cloud your judgement. When you have sex with someone you become connected to them whether you realize it or not. There are just some people you don't want to do that with.
Dang, that's a long comment. :) Hopefully it is enjoyable.
I do know womanizers. They ARE easy to fall for. They are good at what they do and usually I don't realize they are womanizers until it's too late...unfortunately.
Luckily for me, womanizers are not my type to fall for. But I do feel terrible for those who get caught in that trap.
As long as girls protect their hearts and are safe about what they do with guys who have lots of partners, I don't think there is anything wrong with dating a womanizer. What irritates me is that because of all the casual relationships, I think norms of when a relationship becomes physical has changed and makes girls who are perhaps not ok with casual relationships uncomfortable and feel pressured.
On a separate point about the askmen.com article: #2, Howard Hughes, under famous women he has been with is "Ava Gardner (she got around, didn't she?)" offended me greatly - can't believe they made a snarky comment like that in an article celebrating playboys.
I know lots of man whores, which is probably why i know their tricks and games.
Xo
Why do girls fall for womanizers?
These type of women are easily deceived and horrible at discerning a guys true character. And they place a bigger priority on their emotions of how the guy makes them feel and jump quickly into a physical and emotional relationship instead of being strong and taking the time to get to really know the guy. If the guy won't wait, he's a womanizer.
I have no problem with womanizers who make it clear that they're only looking for one thing.
My problem is with the guys who knowingly lead girls on to think that there's a possibility for something more.... argh.
@moritheil@xanga -Â
hahahaha...I totally forgot about that quote and it definitely applies to these men. It's all just a game isnt it?@tialoca_talks@xanga -Â
hmmm you bring an interesting point. I think what I meant was that I would want to do to men what they have done to me and not be "punished" with the word slut. I was referring more to the double standard than anything else...
Either way, I could never be like some of these women who can play men...
@desertrose2890@xanga - glad to hear that...