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Miss Double ShotFor a day and change now, I've been waiting for a call about babysitting arrangements. I talked to the boy's dad on Monday night; he said he'd call last night to let me know where and when I needed to pick up his son...and now it's the day I'm supposed to babysit and I still haven't heard from him.
Annoying.
We've been talking in the office lately about some of the dating advice we've heard in the past, and one rule in particular was pretty interesting: never accept a date or invitation in general without at least three days' notice.
I laughed at it originally - it sounded stuck up and self-important, but now I'm wishing I would've followed that particular rule . . . now I'm stuck waiting by the phone for a call that will likely come at the last minute.
Will you put up with waiting by the phone or do you have more of a backbone than I do? What should I say when he finally calls?
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Depending on how close I am to the person, I will wait by the phone. If you're close to me, I'll wait. If not, I might not wait as long as I would. We all have our limits, though. I would eventually bring it up to the person about waiting and how it's not appreciated. If it's something I cannot immediately bring up as a serious topic, I might casually slip it in as a joke when he does finally call.
Haha - my general rules...
1. Always make him call / email you 1.5 - 2x more than you return the favor in the beginning.
2. Always make him wait longer for your reply than you had to wait for his.
Not super strict, but I'm pretty impatient so would not be able to stick to anything stricter. My problem though is to make excuses for guys I like a lot and contact them if they don't contact me...
i expect people to return my call or email in a timely fashion. if it's business related like baby sitting 24 hours is plenty of time.
the guy is rude...tell him since you didn't hear, you made other plans....
i always put up with it. if i'm not doing anything else, i give in. i can't help it.
If this is related to business then at least 24 hrs is nice. If he calls you last min then tell him your rate just went up because nothing was confirmed.
But if this is related to dating, as this is the datingishblog and not the babysittingishblog then I would have to say one day or two days. Nothing to seem like you overly eager to jump into something or have no life, but still to the point and showing you are interested. Of course this is from a guy's perspective. And I've had this happen before were a girl would do that for like a week or two weeks. And this is because of several reasons:
1) You don't know if she is dating or talking to other people and if she is then she isn't seriously interested or she is playing her options which guys don't like to be (even tho I admit some guys do that, we call them douches).
2) Guys (and girls) don't like to feel used, whether its with cash, material objects, or even attention like that. Unless its with sex, then in that case some guys like to feel used. Just not the relationship long term seeking ones.
3) Yah I get that there is a playing hard to get or making them work for it mentality, thats why I said a day or two. But when you are waiting too long to respond back then you are pushing your luck. Unless you are incredibly hot, don't do it. If you are, then im sure you know you are hot and push your luck all you want. But let me warn you, guys only stick around for so long. Don't get me wrong we are loyal, at least the good ones. And yah its sweet and cute the first times around but once things are started don't keep doing that or else we will be going.
On a more personal note, I always got annoyed when girls did that. And in all my experience girls have done it I found out later they weren't interested or were half interested and secretly seeing other people. Having been stood up 4 times, I've learned not to take crap from any girl. Thats the opposite of being fair and understanding, we an understanding person but don't let any potential date treat you like you aren't important or your time is less important. And its fine that you are late, but if you are either: 1) have a ridiculously sexy clothing on and 2) have a good excuse (tire blew out, family member went to the hospital, friend involved in an accident) something cuz guys will blow up about that stuff.
Waiting by the phone to me at least takes the same tone. Get a life. This is why we have cellphones so people can call us at our convenience. I miss calls quite a bit, but im usually good at returning them in a timely manner (a 1/2 hr window is good). And really the reason why I miss them is because I am at work where I usually have gloves on that have chemicals on them, thus why I prefer not to reach for my phone much less put that phone on my face.
But yah that concludes my book report, and I don't know why I wrote this much because Im sure most people gave up after the first paragraph.
oh yah and ruff ruff ruff
Alone and palely loitering.
Erm.. well I am a very scheduled person so I hate last-minute bullshit, people showing up at my door, anything that I can be hugely inconvenienced by. I like to know what's going on so I can plan for it.
Besides that, I ALSO hate waiting for emails/text messages/calls because I'm impatient, terribly terribly impatient and if I've planned for something to happen on a certain date and it doesn't happen or I don't get any communication within the hour I might just shit a brick.
I'm a really nice person other than that ^.^;;;;
usually if it seems like the plans arent gonna work out i make other plans
xo
Yea, I tell people to tell me in advance. There are lots of things I wanna do, and as much as I'd like to spend time with them too, I need to do other stuff so tell me in advance!
I can usually just wait and not become too frustrated or anything. But, when I really do have something to do or wanna go have fun, I make sure to tell 'em that I need to be kept updated early.
You should tell him that you made plans already since he never called. It's his fault for being too inconsiderate. People can't wait around for him all the time.
Why make time for someone who wasn't considerate enough to tell you ahead of time about their plans? I would just keep it simple and tell him I already made plans. If anyone should be blamed, it's him.
I used to wait by the phone like that...but not anymore. I actually knew this guy a couple years ago who literally would constantly call me and say, "I'm by your place RIGHT NOW(he lived pretty far away, so I think it was partly out of convenience), do you want to hang out?" Here's the thing. I was in college and extremely busy, what with being a full-time student, the president of two clubs, and a member of several more. I went to one of those schools where you really had to schedule time to see your roommates because we were all so busy going to meetings and practices and the library all the time. So the fact that he expected me to either have no plans or drop everything I was doing to get a smoothie or something with him was pretty disrespectful of my time. And I told him so.
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sadly
i ALWAYS wait by the phone.
It takes two minutes to pick up the phone and keep u in the loop. SO if he'd called saying what planning issues he was having I'd be more likely to wait than if I'd heard nothing in a day.
If it's a case of the latter - by that time I would have already made other plans. I'm too busy to put my life on hold for a non-event
No you should not have to wait by the phone. That is disrespectful and rude of him to expect you to. I have no problem with a girlfriend stopping by my dorm room and asking if I want to walk down to the store with her, we are not suppose to go alone for safety reasons and I am probably in need of a break. If the guy calls me then I would have a problem with it. I loose my interests if I am expected to wait by the phone or by my computer for him to communicate.
hello. It really depends...on who calls sometimes they just plan their days around their work and u hardly have time for urself.