This is a guest blog submitted by sahar. My friend called me yesterday morning at 8 a.m. in a groggy, whispering voice. She asked if she could come over, saying that she couldn't go home just yet and needed a place to spend the morning. I was confused and sleepy but I let her come over.
We had been out the night before and I took a cab home at around 2 a.m. I'd asked if she wanted to spend the night because she doesn't live in the city, but she insisted on staying out. Who am I to tell her what to do?
So, at 8:30 when she was buzzing my apartment, I stumbled out of my warm blankets and opened the door for her. I took one look at her and knew exactly what had happened last night. The girl had just taken the walk (or subway ride) of shame from Manhattan to Brooklyn. She was still wearing the same yellow excuse for a dress as last night, and her make-up was still on.
I really wasn't interested in details. I walked back into my room, took out some pajamas for her and crawled back into bed. She came into bed with me, we woke up four hours later and went to lunch.
With lunch came the details. My first impression of her that morning was right.
I'm not proud to admit it, but I've taken the walk of shame a couple of times myself. Have you? Were you as embarrassed as I was?
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No, I can't say that I have.
I don't really do random partying or random sex or any of that. So, I've never been put in that situation, but I would hardly be ashamed regardless.
Maybe not walk of shame, but I've woken up in an alleyway with one shoe missing before.
It was a nice pair of Pradas too, damn.
I've also woken up on the beach and forgot how far down the road I parked my car the night before.
no I havnt taken a walk of shame. And whats up with the name "walk of Shame"? There is no law that says people who sleep with random people they meet at clubs should be ashamed; that is subjective to the person and their reasons for doing so. It does seem quite dangerous to sleep with a stranger (assuming that your friend slept with a stranger)-std's, saftey, and pregnancy. What's the point of a fling if you're gonna feel guilty about it? Trust me if I had one guilt wouldn't enter the picture, just fun!
If a person decides to do that, and they have Safe Safe Safe Sex, and they make it home safely, then they shouldn't be embarrased.
It depends on how you define the walk of shame which can be defined several ways. Anyways I've made the "walk of shame" but I wasn't ashamed. I lived in a co-ed dorm where the males and females were separated, but could stay in each other's rooms. I stayed in a friend's room (he became my bf) and the next morning I walked back across to the girls side to where my room was located. I knew people were talking, but nothing happened so I didn't feel like it was a walk of shame.
LOL @ the_last_kiss
pfft. The "walk of shame" is child's play. Try the "wake up in his apt, wearing his shorts, sitting around and talking to his roommate while they play video games and not really acknowledge you, all b/c you have to wait for him to get dressed a give you a ride. - of shame"
that takes the cake.
never done such a thing and never will. it's just not me.
@maybmaybnot@xanga - i agree, its a bit presumptuous to assume that its something to be ashamed about.
i mean, we're all adults here right? sure, its a bit reckless and maybe in certain situations it could be a source of shame but i think the concept of two consenting adults engaging in no strings attached sex is a choice and doesn't necessarily have to be a shameful one.
i live in the same apartment complex as my bf... i spend the night there sometimes and i have to go back to my place to go to work... its embarassing to me mostly cuz i look scrubby...
I'm glad to report my lack of experience in this area.
if you are getting so drunk that you can't remember what you did or are waking up not knowing where you are and are having meaningless, random sex...i think that is a shame...what a sad, pathetic life....
@MaximMan@xanga - been there, done it. goddamned age of empires.
Xo
Ahahahaha. Yes.
I haven't been embarrassed though because when I have hooked up, I'm usually in a shirt/jeans combo and not in any club gear.My choice in clothing made it a lot easier to go out for breakfast the next morning =p
hahaha...try the "drive of shame" where my friend had to come pick me up. It was the single most awkward car ride of my life...
umm.. possibly... walking from one dorm on one side of campus back to your's on the other side in ur not-so-covered-up pjs with a mess of a hair count?.. did i mention in broad daylight?
@maybmaybnot@xanga-
@Meunonomo@xanga -
The "walk of shame" doesn't really have to do with the fact that someone had a one night stand. It's a phrase that mainly applies to women (at least, that's how the community I live in interprets it). There's a similar saying that applies to men, only it's more positive. "The stride of pride." It goes along with the thought process that if a woman has as much sex as she wants, she's a whore; but if a man has as much sex as he wants, he's considered "the man."
But, no matter what way you choose to interpret the phrase (as gender-specific, as I talked about above, or as gender-neutral, as you two were discussing), I don't think there should be any shame in it. I think a lot of people (at least, in the environment/community I was raised in and live in) put a lot of negativity on sex - and, in my opinion, it shouldn't be that way. Someone tell me - what's wrong with enjoying something that feels good?
I love it when i'm leaving for class at school and I see girls taking the walk of shame...I mean come on its the weekday...presumably when your trying to be in school
haha I guess tuesday is the new friday
the the getups can be quite amusing though
Never done it and never will. Not my thing, and I'd rather not associate with people who have gone through it. No offesne, but it's just not my thing.
Walk of Shame is an absurd idea, and I don't know why people even get in those situations to begin with. Just not my thing.
Ashamed that I just got some booty?! HELL NO... I dance my way out of that house after making myself breakfast...
I'm actually glad to say that I learnt what the "walk of shame" was through a movie. And I found out more about it, through someone who is fond of making girls walk it and take a picture. Personally, I wouldn't get involved in something like that. It's really demoralizing from what I've seen, and if that's what other people are ok with it, then that's their thing. Not my thing at all.
Because I don't tend to dress up all that much, the few walks of shame I have taken haven't been so bad. It wasn't that blatantly obvious to everyone else in the world I don't think. But there have been one or two I'm not proud of.
I am not proud of all the things I have done in the past. I would be ashamed greatly if my life was put up on a screen for all to see. I can not judge or I would be hypocritical. But I would do things diferently.
LoL, that life style is not for me, even if its just a one time thing.