This is a guest blog submitted by sleepyhead.This weekend, I had lunch with a ex who's become a pretty good friend of mine over the years. On our way to lunch, we bumped into a couple of people who recognized us from high school. "Wow, you guys are still together after all these years?" one of them asked. Another replied that she knew we'd end up together.
We explained to them that we were just friends and that we were catching up over lunch - we got a good laugh out of it.
Do you ever have people recognize you and think you and your ex are still together? Does it bother you or can you just laugh it off?
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tee hee I already commented on this on your site :)
haha my ex came over one day and somehow my friends found out and were like OMG YOU GOT BACK TOGETHER?!!?! and I was like... no. him and I are able to joke about being it though.
Nope! Never has happened. There's been so much drama with my last two relationships, that everyone knows we aren't together!
Why would it bother you unless you weren't satisfied with the situation?
Yes...and I hate it. Even older people will come up and be like so what is such and such up too...and all I can be like is ewl...I don't know, your guess is as good as mines. Like I'm suppose to keep tabs on my ex or something...
never been with anyone long enough to have the people in my life even know he exists lol...so no.
Nope I stay far, far away from my exes.
hahah
my first boyfriend and i were always thought to be still together even after the break up because of how comfortable/"touchy-feely" we acted with one another
sadly not too many people believed me when i said it wouldn't work out with us a second time, we have too much in common, as in we both like boys =P
people can usually tell by the way we treat each other that we arent back together. Like using body language and such. I have spent some time with my ex's and actually one is a really good friend now, but people have never asked us if we are still an item.
My senior year of high school I had moved away with my ex to OH, but we came back to the area to attend our friends graduation (I had already graduated that Dec). At the graduation I told everyone how I was going to college in CA that summer. At the end of the summer me and my ex broke up because he decided move back to OH and I didn't want to. I though everyone knew we broke up because he made quite a big deal about it. So I didn't think anything of it. I went to college away from the area so I never brought any other guys to any school events because I hardly ever went to any. Well I substituted at the school this past spring and was pretty surprised when people kept asking about him. What was even more surprising was that I kept getting told I didn't look pregnant. Turns out they had found out that he was having a child with his gf and for some reason they all just assumed it had to be me. Those were some very long days as I had to keep telling everyone that no we weren't together and how we hadn't been in over three years, and how I had been with my current bf for 2 years. It felt like it took forever to get everything straightened out. Though I'm sure if we were to ever become friends (though it'll prob never happen), that people would jump back to the assumption that we had to be together. I do come from a town of less then a thousand people though, so gossip is like a religion to them.
nope, never really had anyone "associated" with me for so long :)
Never had that happened, but I think I would just laugh it off. Not a big deal to me.
A friend of mine once saw me hanging out with my ex at Target and thought we were getting back together; she was very concerned for me. It was pretty funny.
no, but i did go *back* out with one of my ex's after a short breakup and when he took me to a family thing his aunt said "oh, u're so much nicer than his last girlfriend"... i was his last girlfriend! apparently she didn't recognize me!
Yes, people think that. I'm pretty sure my own family thought and possibly still thinks that when I hang out with and still talk to my ex, even though he has a girlfriend now. I can just "laugh it off". It's not really a big deal.
Ah that totally happened to me at a coffee shop a while back. It was really awkward because my ex and I aren't really even friends. We were going to coffee to essentially "give it a try" being friends. It didn't really work all that well and we haven't talked since.
Just treat it normal way. I mean, nothing to be embarrassed of. Cheers.