This is a guest blog submitted by sahar.After 19 years of absolutely rejecting contact lenses, this weekend I finally sucked it up and paid the ophthalmologist for a fitting. And after almost two hours of struggling to get that miniature flexible concave lens into my right eye, an absurd amount of tearing and wiping away all my eyeliner, I finally got them both in.
Let's get something straight - I love my glasses. I've been wearing them for as long as I can remember. I've gone through the various trends - the no rim glasses, the thin-rimmed oval glasses, the tick multicolored rimmed glasses, the dark rectangle rimmed glasses, and so on. I think it's safe to say that over the past 10 years I've spent over $1000 on glasses themselves.
However, occasionally, when I'm going out to a party or a club, the last thing I want are glasses covering my eyes So, I usually end up being blind for the night, which I don't mind. As my sister says, "you gotta get used to the blur," and I have. But I thought it was time to grow up and get a pair of contacts so I can actually see the person I'm talking to.
When the doctor put the lenses in my eyes it was liberating. I could actually see without something balancing on my nose! I spent all day Sunday with my sunglasses on and I could actually see! It was a miracle.
This morning, though, I spent an hour in front of the mirror struggling - yet again - with those little lenses. I tried so hard to get them in. My eyes were turning red and tearing, yet those stupid little lenses just kept on coming out. So I gave up, put on my trusty glasses that I love so much and came to work.
As you can tell, I love glasses on both girls and guys. I think they add personality and individuality and they give that artsy look that I love so much (think Tina Fey! geeky chic).
Are you attracted to people who wear glasses or do you prefer contacts?
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Well I wear glasses so glasses have never bothered me on anyone! I actually need mine unlike some people who wear them because they make them look sophisticated. Contacts are pretty neat though and I thought about trying them, but it would take me entirely too much time trying to put something in my eye. Besides, I'm used to my glasses and they have sort of become a part of me.
It depends. Some people look better with glasses than others, and some just look better without them.
contacts take a little while to get used to -- in the beginning, it took me an hour to get them on and i would be tearing and my eyes would be all bloodshot red lol. after i got into them though, i rarely wear glasses now. i love being able to see 20/20 and not have chunky glasses on my face!
on the opposite sex, it depends. my bf wears glasses and i think they look good on him but sometimes contacts are more convenient :)
I got glasses when I first started needing vision-correction because I thought they were cool. :P I wore them for about 3 years and then decided to get contacts, so I only wear my glasses when I am playing a videogame that makes me stop blinking a lot (like Guitar Hero @_@). I got contacts because everyone tells me my eyes are my best feature and I felt like my glasses covered them up. I will go a day every once in a while with my glasses, but I'm a contacts person. Here's a tip: I can never get my contacts in with one finger, so I put the contacts in using my thumb and index finger pressed together with the contact resting on top. Press it onto your eye and lightly separate your fingers pressing gently until you hear the little bubbles pop because that usually means it is stuck on your eye well enough. At least that's what I do. XD
I recommend surgery. My vision is perfect, but my brother and friend did it and both would never go back - if you really like the look of glasses, you can always get fake ones.
I wear both contacts and glasses. For the most part, I wear my contacts (and it only takes me a minute to put them both in). But I've gotten a pair of glasses so cool ( to me at least) that I wouldn't mind wearing them. I like the flexibility of glasses being able to take them off without solution and time consuming frustration. But I like the feel and weightlessness of the contacts. So, either way, I can see at least.
But, glasses do kind of display your personality a little bit. I like more of the smaller, square frames. But whatever actually matches to a person's face is pretty cool too.
I think glasses can be sexy, personally. =)
I know exactly what you're talking about: when you first have them it's so frustrating taking them off, putting them on. I had problems with daily's..they would stick to my eye.
I find contacts dry out my eye so it is not comfortable, yet it is worth being able to see 20/20 without having something on the face. Plus, most of the time ppl look better and feel more confident w/o glasses!
i have worn glasses since i was about 4 or 5 and i tired to wear contacts when i was in high school but they just did not work out for lots of reasons and one being the same as yours, trying to get them in. so i stick with the being 4 eyes!!
whether you wear glasses or not does not matter to me. it is who you are as much as what you look like that matters.
if ya have the $$, you might consider the laser surg.
I used to wear glasses & tried contacts when I was in middle school but wasn't used to it 'cause it took too long to get them in [that & I got hard lenses.] Then halfway through high school, I switched to soft lenses because I realized I look better without glasses. [I've got the biggest eyes in my family but because of my glasses, no one could see that.] It took a while but now I prefer contacts over glasses. I can see better with contacts & I don't have to worry about smudging or blurriness or my glasses being bent out of shape.
As for my guy, he looks good with and without his glasses so it doesn't matter. I'm not all about looks & I like him just the way he is. Although he admits that it's easier without glasses for sports & other things.
Glasses indeed are hot when a person has the right frame for their face on. But sometimes I would prefer for them to wear contacts because to me, I feel that its not so easy to really stare into their eyes.
If someone is going to reject you because you wear glasses, what kind of a relationship would you have had with them anyway?
don't care, actually...
I love glasses on many other people, but you have to have the right look for it.
On myself, I love contacts. Glasses just get in the way, and I can't stand being unable to see!
For some reason, when I'm wearing contacts, I get hit on MUCH more often, than when I'm wearing glasses. No idea what that's about...
If you need help putting your contacts in, try this:
-ALWAYS wash your hands first. Hand junk can be painful and dangerous for your eyes
-Balance the center of the contact on your relatively dry right index finger (assuming you're right handed). Contacts tend to stick on the wettest surface, so you want your eye to be wetter than your finger
-fill the contact with artificial tears (or saline if your eyes aren't particular)
-tilt your head down until, looking straight ahead, you are staring at the ground.
-take both your ring fingers and spread your eyelids apart. The right ring finger should be on the lower lid (again assuming you're right handed.)
-Look all the way to one side - left, right, up, down, or any angle. Experiment around with which one is easier for you. I personally look inward towards my nose.
-Bring your index finger up and touch the contact to your eye. Push in VERY LITTLE if it doesn't instantly stick
-Once the contact is loosely in your eye, IMMEDIATELY (before blinking) turn your head straight up so you're looking at the ceiling. This will prevent the contact from falling out onto the floor.
-Move your eye around and blink to situate the contact.
This is a long process and it looks rather embarrassing, but once you get used to it, you can develop your own shortcuts. If I ever have trouble, I just revert back to this.
@moritheil@xanga - Often, it's less a matter of being accepted and more a matter of being approached, at least for me. Plus, as someone who needs vision correction myself, I'd automatically be loath to date someone with glasses just because that makes it so much harder to cuddle, kiss, etc. But I do think glasses are HOT as long as he can stand to wear contacts when/if we get to the cuddling stages.
I never had difficulty putting contacts in. I don't know why it came so naturally to me but it did. The only problem I had was tendency for my eyes to get really dry if I wore the contacts for more than 4-5 hours for about the first month I had them then that time slowly started increasing to the point that I almost never need eye drops to wet my eyes now, just a year after I got the contacts.
@la_faerie_joyeuse@xanga - I might be too much (or too impractical) of a feminist when I say this, but you can do the approaching yourself if you're really interested.
my girlfriend wears glasses. I think I'd be a little upset if she started wearing contacts.
love the glasses
I wear them myself and prefer men who do, too
for the contacts (like you, I never, ever wear them, but I did get fitted for them for things like formal dances), the thing that helped me the most was filling the lens up with solution. then when you put it on your eye, it kind of suctions, and then you just close your eye slowly, and voila! plus the solution takes away the itch/burn associated with multiple tries. good luck!
Tina Fey, Lisa Loeb, Jessica Alba when she has them on for a role. Yeah....glasses are hot.
@TiRocKiinPiinK@xanga - Me too. I've had glasses [apparently] since I was 6 months old, I'm 19 and a half now...and I'm too set in my ways to ditch them.
I think it totally depends on the person. I wouldn't like them on my boyfriend, but they can look good on some guys. Same goes with girls. Glasses look really good on me, but some girls just look like um.. well, geeks (and not in a sexy way) with them on.
@moritheil@xanga - Yes, and I agree. I actually asked my current boyfriend out, and it worked out marvelously. But there are tons of guys I wouldn't necessarily pursue because I find it really hard to be attracted to someone when I first see him. Of the men my age in the US population, I am initially attracted to less than 1%. It's only after I get to know them that I really find them desirable. So, just for me, it works out better if he does the approaching, then I get to know whether I'd be interested or not.
@la_faerie_joyeuse@xanga - I'm attracted to less than 1% of people myself, but it doesn't bother me, as that's still a huge number. In the end you only need one. Presently, I have one, and historically significantly more than 1% are attracted to me, which I admit probably colors my thinking . . . if it weren't so, I might be more concerned with the glasses/contacts issue.
Well, everyone has got to make their own peace with it.
I love my boyfriend's glasses. He looks strange without them on because I'm so used to them. I'd never want him to switch to contacts unless they were really necessary.