This is a guest blog submitted by sahar.I was talking to a guy friend about his techniques of attracting women.
Now, he's definitely a ladies' man and doesn't need extra help getting a girl. Over the years of our friendship, though, I've noticed that whichever girl he sets his eye on, he gets. Nobody can be that lucky, no matter how attractive you are. He has to have some tricks up his sleeve.
When I asked him how he did it, he said that he always follows three basic rules:
- Makes sure he smells good
- Wears his hair slightly messy but groomed at the same time (so it doesn't look overworked)
- Brings flowers on the first date if he woos her enough
He had one last strategy thanks to Riley, his adorable yet masculine beagle, who tends to attract more ladies than he does. One of his favorite first dates is taking Riley out for a walk in the park with his special lady friend.
I'm pretty attracted to a hot guy walking an adorable dog.
Guys, do you have any techniques that draw the ladies in? What are they?
Girls, are you attracted to certain things a guy does? Do you have any techniques for the guys?
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the way i got the girl i'm with now is i just tried to be me. i made her sure that i wasn't faking. the first time we talked, i told her my computer cost more than my car did. this assured her that i was the nerdy guy. also, smelling good is definitely key. i always do that. i used to do up my hair but it became such a hassle that i cut it all off. oh, and make sure you suck up to the parents. BIG deal, especially when you're dealing with old fashioned parents.
That kind of thing is irresistable, unless you turn out to be allergic to his dog, or in some cases, scared of them.
ugh...i detest this kind of shallowness...i am me, they can take me or leave me....i hope that guy is happy with a girl who is impressed by his hairdo or his dog...(altho apparently not, since he goes thru them regularly, according to this report....)
My brother recently bought a beagle puppy. He had high hopes of taking it to the beach and walking it at the park to attract the ladies.
He attracts plenty of ladies alright... plenty of old, blue-haired, beagle-owning ladies. Needless to say his plan didn't work.
@beachblondie711@xanga - LOL. that is a hilarious outcome.
Frankly, this guy sounds like he is extremely shallow. Not one part of what he does involves actually getting to know the girl or letting her get to know him and that on top of the fact that he goes through lots of women just shows me that he considers women to be inferior beings existing solely for his pleasure. Frankly, I am surprised anyone would want to be friends with someone like that.
@tialoca_talks@xanga -
I agree!
And this plan would most definitely not work on me. While I love dogs, and think they are quite adorable, I'm not necessarily going to date a man simply because he has one.
That would fail miserably when the girl hates dogs.
1) Be a good man with a reputation for having a generous and genuine Heart and Soul.
2) Take care of your Body. Keep fit and groomed and clean.
3) Workouts are for the Mind also, not just for the Body. Maintain your mental acuity and be sharp but open-minded.
Be the man the women look for. Get to know her, and let her get to know you. Pay attention to what she says, and what she does. Learn about the things that interest her. Not to flatter her, but because you're a good man and genuinely give a sh*t about her. You'd be amazed how much a little genuine care can do. Don't worship her, don't treat her like she's beneath you. Treat her as your equal.
Any boy can spend his time learning pick-up techniques to pick up unsuspecting girls.
A quality man will spend his time making himself a man of value to attract a quality woman.
Well first impressions are always present, so smelling good is a definite plus. although i'm not really sure why it seems so important, smelling like oh...nothing is fine too. or just soap. bad is a definite no no though!
and dressing to fit yourself and your personality, always a plus.
as for luring the guys in, not really any techniques here. I'm just usually me, and let them come to me. If they dont like who I am then they won't bother lol
What you give them or how you fix yourself up doesn't matter (although it is nicer to be sitting next to a guy that smells like he just got out of the shower). Just don't be a jerk. Have a good (and clean, or semi-clean!) sense of humor. Try to get to know them. Actually seem interested. Don't date someone just to be able to say you have a boyfriend/girlfriend, or to get some. Don't be fake. Don't be disrespectful. You don't necessarily need to bring anything on the first date. It's the first date, for crap's sake! Pretty much, don't do anything you see on TV. And most of the time, don't go to a guy for advice on what to do girl-wise. It's best to go to a girl.
He's got it down pat, I have to say.
I got for dogs, guys who smell great, and who don't look overly hobo nor overly clean-cut.
He's got the technique down, I say! ^_^
I am a guy and I say smelling good is key. And confidence is good if you are not good looking. Or if they girl is shy... Sometimes being an asshole helps..
some people are saying that this guy seems shallow, but if you've just met him and he asks you on a date, isn't your only option to judge if you will go on his physical traits?
then from there, he should be honest and real, but isn't that an entierly different topic?
Look her in the eyes. It can seem intimidating. That's the thing though. It will intimidate her a little too. It'llmake her feel comfortable and uncomfortable at the same time. I can't explain it, but it works. Guys who really look me i the eyes seem to get my attention. A trick: Hold her gaze for just a second too long. Not too too long just a second.
Also be really open and confident. Guys who communicate really well right off the bat attract my attention too. I can't stand it when a guy doesn't even try to express his thoughts.
On a slightly shallower note:
smelling good, slightly mussed hair, dogs, clean but laid back style, a smile, and some muscles will work wonders as well.
Smelling good is a key point. Although some people can have TOO much on and smell way too strong. Use a mild smelling cologne and spray it on teh body and rub some on teh neck. If they smell something nice, they're going to have a get a lot closer to you to figure out what it is. Works for me :P
What is up with the dog thing? I'm a cat owner. Women hate me for it. Someone please explain to me why it makes or breaks things. ( By the way, my cat's really friendly and adorable...not the mean, ugly kind )
@beachblondie711@xanga - Hahas. x]
@tialoca_talks@xanga - Zing! ::hi five::
How can guys attract me? Well, the obvious answer is confidence and saying something NEW, hopefully something intellectual. If a guy comments (intelligently) on the book I'm reading, I'm hooked.
Other than that, simple gestures (like holding a door open), physical attractiveness, nice clothes (slacks and a button-down shirt, preferably), a nice smell, or a smile are pretty attractive in general.
I would highly recommend against overdoing it. I've seen and heard of guys who are SUPER SWEET (fakely so), offering to do EVERYTHING for you... until you mention your boyfriend or vow of chastity, then they've vanished. These men often have a chance to use vulnerable women for sex, but often, women use them to get what they want. This is NOT a good strategy - be who you really are.
Girls seem to like it when I dance (I don't even think I'm a great dancer). But then all they'd care about doing is dancing with me (and similar activities), and that's it! There's more to me than that... what I need to figure out is how to get a girl to like my other qualities, haha.
@sorjai@xanga - quit dancing
@tialoca_talks@xanga - actually, I did, haha.
I like men who are good with/to children.