I've been watching a lot of old movies lately and have noticed that the female characters in many of these films didn't mind dealing out a slap in the face when a guy behaved badly. Check out some of these classic slaps:
Ow.
Nowadays, I'm not so sure the slap is as common as a rebuttal - shouting is usually just as effective - but it still happens. A friend of mine says he's been slapped a couple of times, "but," as he put it, "I have a mouth on me".
I've had guys act out of line before, but I don't think I could ever smack anyone in the face - a series of choice words and insults is usually enough for me.
Would you ever slap someone for behaving rudely toward you? What would it take to merit being slapped?
I admit it. I have done it. Not hard, and you really have to tick me off, but I have slapped more than one guy in the face. I think the most recent time the guy was immensely rude to me, but yes, I have slapped.
A guy asked me once if I'd slap him if he tried to kiss me. I laughed.
Slapping wouldn't be the initial reaction in that circumstance. Moreso turning away.
That kind of makes me sound like a jerk. I'm not, really. Promise.
I have in fact slapped a guy for being outright piggish. It takes a lot for me to actually slap someone and generally I have to either know them decently well or if I don't know them well, it has to be an unwanted physical front. I've only slapped someone less times than I can count on one hand. I think bringing it up to a physical level can just get a girl in trouble nowadays unless she KNOWS the guy won't retaliate (like they're best friends, her SO).
No, I don't think that violence is an appropriate answer to being treated rudely. It puts you on their level, and you want to be above all that nonsense. Plus I was slapped in the face by a boy on my bus in high school, and after that I don't think I would do it to anybody. It was really degrading.
I find that to be disrespectful. If a guy slapped me in the face it would be demeaning, abusive, and uncalled for.. Not to mention socially inacceptable. So what makes it okay for me to slap a guy? Violence, unless it comes to the point of self defense, is not really necessary.
Haha, on a funny note, my best friend slapped my boyfriend in the face once. It was right before we started dating. I can't even remember why she did it. I watched it. It was one of those moments where your jaw drops and you want to grab a bag of popcorn... what will happen next!!?!? ... I don't think they've gotten along super well since that day.
I don't think I'd slap but rather punch them in the face or knee them where it hurts. It has to take a lot out from me to get that reaction though, and I haven't yet reacted that way, but I do feel it once in a while almost coming.
I've actually tried to get women to slap me before. It is a little game I play to try and see what it would take to get violence out of certain people. Strangely, I have never been slapped nor really rebuked.
I don't ever smack in the face, but I am horribly guilty or slapping my guy playfull almost to the point of being incredibly annoying. I've had to train myself not to do it, haha.
Funny thing, I've never been malevolently slapped by a girl before, but I've been kicked in the head by one.
But she was a Wu-shu teacher and we were screwing around on the mat so it was fine. Still nearly knocked me out though. I guess that's what I get for requesting her to go full-contact with me.
Anyway, as for committing acts of malevolent violence toward people, there's no excuse for it. I don't care if you're a guy or a girl. Malevolent violence should only be a last resort in self-defense or in the defense of others, even in which case you want to neutralize the transgressor as quickly as possible. I would never strike you out of malevolence -- your gender does not make it okay for you to. It's not the strike itself, it's the malevolent heart that's behind it. And I will not be with a woman with a malevolent heart against me. Strike me, and I'll leave.
BENEVOLENT violence though. That's fun. Slap me playfully. Smack me with a pillow. Heck, smack me with a baseball bat if you want. If it's in good fun and we're laughing and chasing each other around, it's all good.
the first and only time I ever slapped a guy is when I walked in to *our* apartment and caught my bf with a girl. I don't think there'd be any other circumstance where I'd slap a guy in the face.
He grabbed my ass, one huge handful, and when I asked him what the hell he was doing, he had the audacity to tell me that he was checking out what he'd be holding onto later. So I slapped him in the face. You don't get to manhandle me if you don't know me. Have some frickin' respect! (He walked away to his crowd of friends who were laughing their asses off)
@daeshii@xanga - That would be about where I'd have to be pushed to actually slap someone. You'd have to go pretty far for me to do it, and I consider this quite far. I've never slapped anyone before, so thankfully I've been lucky, knock wood. I'm also think that if I slap someone, I should probably get prepared for a violent reaction. That's another reason I haven't done it yet.
@daeshii@xanga - i'd probably deck him. i learned how to punch from my mother, who is from Queens.
I've never slapped anyone, not so much because I'm against it as it just isn't my first reaction. Mostly, in circumstances where it may be deserved, I end up sitting there in shock going "Did he really just do that?"
I kind of wish it were in my repertoire of reactions, though. I've definitely been with guys who deserved it...
-Katie
i wouldn't slap a person only because they're rude to me.. 'cause a slap has lots of meanings... so.. i would think twice before doing that... i would prob slap people who have really really break my heart and hurt me real bad emotioinally...
i've slapped an ex before ... but that was a long time ago. i don't think i would again. and if it was a stranger who acted rude towards me, i'd prolly just walk away.
I don't think it's appropriate. I liked the quote from one of Isaac Asimov's books, "violence is the last resort of the incompetent." Slapping conveys a deep sense of disrespect and it's never healthy for a relationship.
I've slapped guys jokingly. Not hard though. I slapped my cousin once really hard because he was being obnoxious and kept poking my face (we were young). I think that's the only time I've legitimately slapped someone.
I don't think any guy could ever warrant a slap from me. If anything warranted getting rudely physical it would probably involve more than a slap - but even that is just an imaginary response... 'cause guys are just stronger and I wouldn't want to be hit back. Words and/or walking away are best.
I personally have never slapped a guy in the face- a whack in the stomach or punch on the arm has happened, though lightly, although I have slapped a couple of my mates before though out of sheer revenge for them slapping me and it hurting like a bitch.
A friend of mine used to slap myself and our other friends quite frequently actually- she's gotten over it now but i never slapped her as hard as she did me coz i know that i'm a lot stronger than her and that she'd react to it worse than i did.
I did find it a little funny- though out of line- when she slapped other people though-coz i knew how they felt =P
I dont slap. I dont like the whole idea of getting agressive with people..I just argue, and get this really angry look on my face,my eyes bulge out, and i get loud. Yeah when I am mad I get feisty... but I keep it all verbal....It was different when I was young though...I didnt mind punching,slapping,pinching,hitting,pulling, wrestling, etc...anything that caused pain did it for me... but with brothers like mine I it was a survival mechanism...ahh the good old days.
Slapping and violence in general is NOT the way to solve a problem, even in the worst circumstances. why? cuz the legal consequences are a bitch. in addition, if u hit me, guy or girl, dont expect my reflexes not to hit u the hell back. and dont complain about it either. you had no right to put your hands on me and its not my fault my defense reflexes shot off. its a lose-lose situation, period.
i dont understand why girls (and efeminate males) think they possess some god gifted right to smack someone else. they're no better than anyone else.
revise that, guys too. "hey dont touch my girl *WHAM*".... who died and made you christ. get-the-fukc-over-it, your girl probably let him touch her. :)
::Rico::
I'm normally not a violent person, and it takes a lot to make me angry - but there's a story behind why I slapped the guy I did, and it goes as such.
We were dating for like two months - high school relationship, nothing extraordinarily serious. Against my wishes the director of the summer musical we both do cast us opposite each other - that's never a good idea in a new relationship, in my book. Well I went on vacation and came back to find out from his best friend that he had been taking out another girl while I was gone. Of course, our relationship ended immediately. But they way he blew me off about it really pissed me off - acting like he didn't deserve being dumped because he sucked face with another girl while I was 2000 miles away... So one night at rehearsal he made a snide comment about being over-possessive. I could only gape at him, fury exploding behind my eyes. He, being an arrogant prick, tilted his chin up and tapped his fingers to his cheek.
That was one invitation I could not possibly turn down.
when I was 10 I slapped a boy across the face 'cause he tried to kiss me...
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I admit it. I have done it. Not hard, and you really have to tick me off, but I have slapped more than one guy in the face. I think the most recent time the guy was immensely rude to me, but yes, I have slapped.
A guy asked me once if I'd slap him if he tried to kiss me. I laughed.
Slapping wouldn't be the initial reaction in that circumstance. Moreso turning away.
That kind of makes me sound like a jerk. I'm not, really. Promise.
I have in fact slapped a guy for being outright piggish. It takes a lot for me to actually slap someone and generally I have to either know them decently well or if I don't know them well, it has to be an unwanted physical front. I've only slapped someone less times than I can count on one hand. I think bringing it up to a physical level can just get a girl in trouble nowadays unless she KNOWS the guy won't retaliate (like they're best friends, her SO).
No, I don't think that violence is an appropriate answer to being treated rudely. It puts you on their level, and you want to be above all that nonsense. Plus I was slapped in the face by a boy on my bus in high school, and after that I don't think I would do it to anybody. It was really degrading.
I find that to be disrespectful. If a guy slapped me in the face it would be demeaning, abusive, and uncalled for.. Not to mention socially inacceptable. So what makes it okay for me to slap a guy? Violence, unless it comes to the point of self defense, is not really necessary.
Haha, on a funny note, my best friend slapped my boyfriend in the face once. It was right before we started dating. I can't even remember why she did it. I watched it. It was one of those moments where your jaw drops and you want to grab a bag of popcorn... what will happen next!!?!? ... I don't think they've gotten along super well since that day.
I don't think I'd slap but rather punch them in the face or knee them where it hurts. It has to take a lot out from me to get that reaction though, and I haven't yet reacted that way, but I do feel it once in a while almost coming.
I've actually tried to get women to slap me before. It is a little game I play to try and see what it would take to get violence out of certain people. Strangely, I have never been slapped nor really rebuked.
I don't ever smack in the face, but I am horribly guilty or slapping my guy playfull almost to the point of being incredibly annoying. I've had to train myself not to do it, haha.
Funny thing, I've never been malevolently slapped by a girl before, but I've been kicked in the head by one.
But she was a Wu-shu teacher and we were screwing around on the mat so it was fine. Still nearly knocked me out though. I guess that's what I get for requesting her to go full-contact with me.
Anyway, as for committing acts of malevolent violence toward people, there's no excuse for it. I don't care if you're a guy or a girl. Malevolent violence should only be a last resort in self-defense or in the defense of others, even in which case you want to neutralize the transgressor as quickly as possible.
I would never strike you out of malevolence -- your gender does not make it okay for you to. It's not the strike itself, it's the malevolent heart that's behind it. And I will not be with a woman with a malevolent heart against me. Strike me, and I'll leave.
BENEVOLENT violence though. That's fun. Slap me playfully. Smack me with a pillow. Heck, smack me with a baseball bat if you want. If it's in good fun and we're laughing and chasing each other around, it's all good.
the first and only time I ever slapped a guy is when I walked in to *our* apartment and caught my bf with a girl. I don't think there'd be any other circumstance where I'd slap a guy in the face.
He grabbed my ass, one huge handful, and when I asked him what the hell he was doing, he had the audacity to tell me that he was checking out what he'd be holding onto later. So I slapped him in the face. You don't get to manhandle me if you don't know me. Have some frickin' respect! (He walked away to his crowd of friends who were laughing their asses off)
@daeshii@xanga - That would be about where I'd have to be pushed to actually slap someone. You'd have to go pretty far for me to do it, and I consider this quite far. I've never slapped anyone before, so thankfully I've been lucky, knock wood. I'm also think that if I slap someone, I should probably get prepared for a violent reaction. That's another reason I haven't done it yet.
@daeshii@xanga - i'd probably deck him. i learned how to punch from my mother, who is from Queens.
I've never slapped anyone, not so much because I'm against it as it just isn't my first reaction. Mostly, in circumstances where it may be deserved, I end up sitting there in shock going "Did he really just do that?"
I kind of wish it were in my repertoire of reactions, though. I've definitely been with guys who deserved it...
-Katie
i wouldn't slap a person only because they're rude to me..
'cause a slap has lots of meanings...
so.. i would think twice before doing that...
i would prob slap people who have really really break my heart and hurt me real bad emotioinally...
i've slapped an ex before ... but that was a long time ago. i don't think i would again. and if it was a stranger who acted rude towards me, i'd prolly just walk away.
I don't think it's appropriate. I liked the quote from one of Isaac Asimov's books, "violence is the last resort of the incompetent." Slapping conveys a deep sense of disrespect and it's never healthy for a relationship.
I've slapped guys jokingly. Not hard though. I slapped my cousin once really hard because he was being obnoxious and kept poking my face (we were young). I think that's the only time I've legitimately slapped someone.
I don't think any guy could ever warrant a slap from me. If anything warranted getting rudely physical it would probably involve more than a slap - but even that is just an imaginary response... 'cause guys are just stronger and I wouldn't want to be hit back. Words and/or walking away are best.
I personally have never slapped a guy in the face- a whack in the stomach or punch on the arm has happened, though lightly, although I have slapped a couple of my mates before though out of sheer revenge for them slapping me and it hurting like a bitch.
A friend of mine used to slap myself and our other friends quite frequently actually- she's gotten over it now but i never slapped her as hard as she did me coz i know that i'm a lot stronger than her and that she'd react to it worse than i did.
I did find it a little funny- though out of line- when she slapped other people though-coz i knew how they felt =P
I dont slap. I dont like the whole idea of getting agressive with people..I just argue, and get this really angry look on my face,my eyes bulge out, and i get loud. Yeah when I am mad I get feisty... but I keep it all verbal....It was different when I was young though...I didnt mind punching,slapping,pinching,hitting,pulling, wrestling, etc...anything that caused pain did it for me... but with brothers like mine I it was a survival mechanism...ahh the good old days.
@BranmacFeabhail@xanga - heh. that makes it all the better. way to go mommadukes.
Slapping and violence in general is NOT the way to solve a problem, even in the worst circumstances. why? cuz the legal consequences are a bitch. in addition, if u hit me, guy or girl, dont expect my reflexes not to hit u the hell back. and dont complain about it either. you had no right to put your hands on me and its not my fault my defense reflexes shot off. its a lose-lose situation, period.
i dont understand why girls (and efeminate males) think they possess some god gifted right to smack someone else. they're no better than anyone else.
revise that, guys too. "hey dont touch my girl *WHAM*"....
who died and made you christ. get-the-fukc-over-it, your girl probably let him touch her. :)
::Rico::
I'm normally not a violent person, and it takes a lot to make me angry - but there's a story behind why I slapped the guy I did, and it goes as such.
We were dating for like two months - high school relationship, nothing extraordinarily serious. Against my wishes the director of the summer musical we both do cast us opposite each other - that's never a good idea in a new relationship, in my book. Well I went on vacation and came back to find out from his best friend that he had been taking out another girl while I was gone. Of course, our relationship ended immediately. But they way he blew me off about it really pissed me off - acting like he didn't deserve being dumped because he sucked face with another girl while I was 2000 miles away... So one night at rehearsal he made a snide comment about being over-possessive. I could only gape at him, fury exploding behind my eyes. He, being an arrogant prick, tilted his chin up and tapped his fingers to his cheek.
That was one invitation I could not possibly turn down.
when I was 10 I slapped a boy across the face 'cause he tried to kiss me...