This is a guest blog submitted by sleepyhead.Picture this:
You're out with a group of people, drinking, hanging out and having a good time. Along comes your friend with a beautiful girl. She introduces herself; you find out she's not seeing anyone, but you know your friend is looking to date her.
After a few drinks, you're both enjoying each other's company and your friend is off getting drunk. You can tell she's obviously interested in you.
You want to make a move but you don't want to disrespect your friend - after all, he brought her and likes her.
So what do you do?
a) Not talk to her and possibly miss out on an opportunity
b) Talk to her, flirt and hope your friend understands
c) Talk to her and talk nicely about your friend to help him out
d) Try to get your friend to sober up so you can make a decision
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do exactly as you would want to be treated in the same scenario...in other words, don't try to charm her away...your friend is a drunk, she'll get tired of his sorry act soon and then you can make your move...
c!
theres many fishies in the sea for you! lol
I'm the girl in this situation, I just blogged about my experience in this XD. Well... if it were me I'd totally send him/her at his/her way. Unless I liked the person, then I'd be subtle about it, to see if they're sure about this.
I sound mean, but well, that's just me. Comment people XO
@tialoca_talks@xanga - DITTO. What kind of a jackass gets drunk while taking a girl out??!
C, let the lady choose for herself. if your friend isn't too interested in dating her well here's your chance!
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Probably D followed by B or C, depending on what my friend's answer is.
Hhmm... I'm going to be the first to disagree and say D. Talk to your friend about it first. And besides, why would you want to help your friend when he ditched the poor girl! Not C people!
act myself and let her make the choice. how can your friend get upset at you if you both had an equal shot, but she chose you?
i would hope that the "target" gets a say in who she wants to pursue, no?
Unless you plan on tossing her over your shoulder and dragging her back to your place to ravish her, I don't see any harm in talking to her. If she's got a brain, she's already pieced things together, and by flirting back with you, she's made her decision, however temporary.
Your friend, if he's truly interested, should be right there, chatting her up. His lack of balls/tact/etc. does not entitle him to a hands-off policy. Unless you're doing what I said in the first sentence. If he throws a fit later, then be a good friend and tell him what an ass he was to just leave her there, and that if he's actually interested in her beyond the trophy hottie he walks into the room with to get attention, then he should do something about it.
Otherwise, too frickin' bad.
(this policy, of course, does not apply to ex or current gfs)
easy choice, C.
I'd take the last two options:
D and E
E being: Nail that hard.
C.... gotta help the bro out!
Exactly what tialoca_talks said. XD I mean, if this was a girl that you truly liked and you (accidentally) left her with a friend.
I wouldn't want them to go a get together with the girl. I mean, it's a golden rule, the bible said so. I'd hate it if someone who KNEW I was interested on someone I brought suddenly did something with the person. XP
Afterall, I don't think you'd wanna...y'know, DO IT right there when you're drunk.
Unless I'm misunderstanding the situation. XP
I would have to go with C.
To me if she is worth dating then what she would see in that action is a loyal friend who is confident in himself and thus if she is actually interested in you instead of your friend then she would find that charming and if she is interested in your friend then you have helped him out and that can't possibly be a negative.
I would tell her that you don't want to overstep boundaries, but if she'd like to meet up with you sometime, you'd be agreeable. Then, if she calls you, go for it. If not, no biggie.
I'd say talk nice about your buddy, but remember that the conversation is between you and her, and you should inject yourself into the conversation, too. A conversation with one person about someone who isn't them is kind of annoying after awhile.
Try to make friends, maybe hangout later and see if anything happens with my friend. If not, ask friend if it's cool and go for it.
c) Talk to her and talk nicely about your friend to help him out
i wouldn't want any of my friends to do that to me, so i wouldn't do that to any of mine. of course, if my friend was piss drunk, it would be difficult for a guy to believe all the good things i would say.
If your friendship means anything, you should be able to talk about it - when he's sober.
C is the right thing to do
Clear it with your friend, and if he is ok with it act on it. If he isn't then tell him in the nicest way possible to get his act together or you will.
He must not like her that much.
I'd say just 1) hold things off for a bit and trade contact info with the girl whilst keeping things friendly and, 2) wait until the next day to talk to the firend while sober to find out exactly what his deal is and how sincere he is about dating her
After those two things, THEN I'd figure out what to do.
b. every man for himself.
I would probably do C. I would make it clear to him that I wouldn't do the same for him everyday. I can't be treating him like a kid. If he wants to get the girl, he needs to impress her not get drunk.