Even though I may have had relationships that didn't work out (including some that I look back at and laugh), at least I learned something from all of them . . .
The guy who was sweet but who got nervous going out in public let me know that sometimes it's better to stay home on the weekend, just the two of you; the one who was routinely rude let me know that it was okay for me to stand up for myself; the one who wouldn't commit for what felt like way too long told me that it was hard - but worthwhile - to be patient.
Do you regret any of your past relationships? Why or why not?
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i do not...i regret some of my behavior while in some relationships, tho....
regret takes a lot of energy. there's a constant thought of "what if" and i refuse to live my life that way. i think everyone should try to take each encounter as a learning experience to help them succeed in later relationships. regret just causes more heartache. you can't change the past, so just use it for the betterment of what's to come. :)
There is a lot of possible regret when it comes to relationships past and love lost. I regret some of the things I've said and done, but in the end I am where I am because of what I've experienced and the guys gone by. And I can honestly say, I'm happy with that.
Oh yes...one word comes to mind: PSYCHO.
We only dated about three weeks, he got weird on me, I had to put a restraining order on him. He became affectionatly known as psycho ex-boyfriend.
Enough said.
no point in regretting things. just gotta learn from them so it will not be repeated ...
one thing though ... relationships ... good or bad ... they always somehow in some way leave an imprint!
No regrets. My experiences in the past have made me a stronger and wiser person.
Your past can either drag you down or build you up, and I choose to let my past build the foundation for who I am today.
no need to regret... I wholeheartedly agree with DrmChazed@Xanga.
No regrets. Each person came into my life to make me a better woman, and while some ended badly, I learned my lessons and made changes to my life to prevent the bad eggs from ending up in my basket again.
No regrets. You take with you the good times, leave behind the bad, and move on...stronger than you were before you started the relationship. I think all of my past relationships have helped me see what I do and don't want out of a partner. Each one has been a growing experience.
I think that every thing has a reason for happening. Every person that comes in and out of our lives ,regardless of the length of time they were in it, serves some kind of purpose. Whether it is a big or small message that they are sending to us... whether it is a stranger on the street, a coworker, a manager, a friend , or an acquaintance...their presence somehow made a difference in our lives. So everthing and ever relationship that we have gone through has a reason to it...and every kindhearted or illhearted soul that we cross has taught us something along the way. I dont regret anything I have done or anyone I have met in my life because I see it as serving a higher purpose than whats obvious to the naked eye. If we just stopped for a moment to take a look around us.. we would realize how many endless messages and life lessons there are intertwined with the people we meet.
I regret my "rebound" relationship after a near 2-year long relationship. I wasn't even interested in him, I just gave him a chance cause everyone said he had it for me bad and that he was a nice guy.
I will not go into detail naming the things I hate about him. I broke it off, broke his heart (not even after 2 months) and felt bad about it, but then realized I HATE him.
I don't regret it. Because there was some point in the relationship where they'd mean the most to me, and that was a part of me a while ago, like an enjoyable past life.
@SnowGlobe2954@xanga - hoorah to that!
no regrets here. that R word is just not something I can live with, takes too much energy and hurts way too much for me to give it the time of day.
They've all helped me become the person I am today, and considering I like that person, I don't regret.
I try to live life without any regrets, even in the romantical department. Every relationship happens for a reason. You can learn what you want in a relationship from every one that you have.
Some regrets, not too many. Plus, they've faded quite a bit with time.
Even so, there's a few flings/'relationships' that I had that taught me quite a bit (and made me more social/outgoing), but that I think might've made me a bit worse of a person. I'd have to say I could've done without 'em, but asides from those, pretty much everything has been...instructive. Often in the form of such knowledge as 'well, shouldn'tve dated her', but regardless, it's been instructive.
i regret dating a lot of ppl, but i guess it's ok bc i took a little away from each relationship. i either took away something that i admired, which i would like to become or look for in another guy, or a lesson ... like don't date a jerk.
Life's too short to regret things. Just learn from them and move on.
I regret that I didn't really love my first bf. I don't really count him as a "first." The reason I went out with him was because at the time all my female friends had boyfriends & I felt envious/lonely (dumb kid stuff). So I just wanted to say I had a bf, but it didn't last long.
No, I never regret anything I do....all of my past relationships have made me who I am today and I'm happy with myself. I take each experience, learn from it, and move on.
i dont regret my relationships, but i do regret alot of the things ive done in them
Yea I have one regret. But I guess I learned something from that whole experience. I read somewhere that experience comes from not getting what we want. I did not end up with this person, but I learned something...I think that is what counts.
i'm too young to be thinking about this... hahahaha... i guess i don't regret things that have happened because i never dwell on them... which maybe sometimes isn't the best way to go about living. but at least i never hold grudges against anyone.
i only regret not getting out of it sooner (18 months later)... but hell i was only 16 and what did i know... lol... saying i love you the day he asked me out should have been a sign. and i would always joke around saying you know this will end when i go off to college. yeah he didn't believe me until i dumped him... and i even told him not to buy me a certain gift and he did so i threw it at his car as he was leaving. lol.
but i don't regret being with him, he was a semi decent guy but has a ton of jealous and anger problems which he tried to say i was that one that was the angered one... i was like right whatever...
but you know with it being senior year, just had to have him around for prom and all that over rated stuff.
but now i am with an amazing guy who i don't see me throwing away or ending it anytime soon... i'd be a fool too.