hahaha i've only had one boyfriend, but i'm only 15, so there's still time lol

i did pretty much exactly what you did, but it lasted about a month for me. i really did love him... i would cry on impact basically. like, the instant my parents said his name when they were trying to comfort me, i would break down in tears. almost cried during my history class at one point, because that's the one class where i always end up daydreaming =[

i honestly don't think i shaved my legs for 2 weeks. it was disgusting. i didn't delete his number from my phone though. wouldn't make a difference, though, considering it's permanently etched into my brain. but him and i are "friends" now. friends in quotes because we're kind of in that stage where things are just getting back to normal, but there's still a slight hint of hostility from both of us.

Ahhh. Sometimes, a little over a year after we broke up and everything, I still fall into pretty much the same break-up routine as listed. Except my movie of choice is normally The Notebook, because it gives false hopes that maybe there is a chance someday. Granted, our relationship lasted over 2 years and he was the first person I really cared about like that, so I think that makes me less weird for doing it at least once a month. I've been making progress, though :) I gave his sweatshirts to charity and pawned off the jewelry he gave me.

Wouldn't it be a lot easier on you and people you know to just accept it and move on with your life?

hmm haven't broken up with a guy since high school. i was sad and probably cried but in retrospect, really wasn't worth it. i definitely agree there's a positive correlation between length of relationship and post-breakup "healing" time. if you get over the person within a day, s/he must not have meant much to you.

I don't think each girl, or guy for that matter, has any kind of breakup schedule. My last break up I was upset, but I didn't cry or anything. Then again, it wasn't that much of a serious relationship and he was a loser anyway =]

Mine has been much like yours.  Except mine goes like:
Day of breakup:
Throw out/put into storage anything he got me
Produce a novel-length blog entry about everything he did wrong and all of the reasons we were never meant to be together
Call all of my friends
Cry
Take him off of speed dial
Listen to angry music
Think of ways to explain the breakup to everyone who asks without being a horrible ex

Day after:
Watch non-sappy movie with girlfriends
eat chocolate
Go panty shopping with girlfriends (Always do this after guy trouble! Awesome tradition!)
Listen to empowering music
Draw something violent (or at least start out with that intent)

After that:
Dress really nice (although, personally, I find myself needing to look much sexier than usual every single day of the process, if possible, to console myself that he is seriously missing out and that I am hot stuff without him, but I wasn't very close to either of my exes and I understand why girls often do the whole let-yourself-go-for-awhile thing. I most likely would, too, in their shoes.)
Smile more than usual once I'm able to
Add onto my list of what I want in a guy based on things I learned
And on with life...

I drink whiskey and break my own possessions in a fit of self loathing.  Generally that's cathartic enough, but there have been exceptions.

@mrcolorful@xanga - It wouldn't be easier... I used to hate the way that I would feel after a break up but now I see it as quite healthy. Sometimes you just have to let those emotions out and wallowing and crying followed by anger is all part of the grieving process. As for it being easier on the people around me, I know that when a friend got out of a serious relationship and seemed ccompletely unfazed by it we were all worried because it didn't seem natural.

My schedule is pretty much like that although it includes chocolate as well as icecream and a lot more shopping. And then also exercise once I've decided to rejoin the human race to deal with the copious amounts of shoddy food eaten.

Also I tend to return possessions rather than contemplate burning. Especially if he broke up with me because then it's a show of strength: haha you broke up with me but look! I'm fine!

how does the ice-cream cliche helps?:)

i can't remember when was the last time i cried for a guy,seriously! i think it was long ago...

my last break-up was a process of  about 2 years,so i think at the end it was more like a release than pain...but i still remember my first break-up..i was about 16-17 and i was crazy about this cute boy...i've spent the whole summer with him and i didn't even anticipate that he thinks about parting...so it was kind of a shock...one night as we were kissing on one bench in the school-yard,suddenly he just said "Let's be just friends"...i ran home,started tearing my hair,and crying of course (loudly!)...then i ran back to him begging him to reconsider all of that...honestly when i remember now all of this i am laughing at myself:)

i think we lose many people along the road...not only boyfriends....so if that's how he will be more happy...let it be!

@HeartOfPandora@xanga - me too! i just cry a LOT by myself, sleep for what seems like ages, and then move on.  a chick-flick or two is ok, and a bit of ice cream, but nothing feels better than letting it all out with tears. and some wailing. :P

@Jet_Cabusao@xanga - People always say that about it being a natural and healthy part of the grieving process.  Personally I don't believe it and I'll tell you why.  I have never gone through the traditional "grieving process" even when people I was close to have died and I have never had any problems, yet I know a number of people whose "grieving process" leads them to shut down and do nothing to help themselves for weeks and sometimes even months at a time.

The fact that most people do something does not mean that it is healthy.  You have to let those emotions out because you are choosing to have those emotions.  At least that is my opinion.