This is a guest blog submitted by sahar.Being comfortable with a significant other is definitely an important part of a relationship, but can being comfortable mean letting yourself go?
My
cousin Anna got married to the love of her life 5 years ago. She was
never one to care much about her appearance unless she had someone to
impress - she never wore makeup, her hair was always in a frizzy pony
tail, and her clothes usually had stains on them.
About a year into
her marriage I noticed that she stopped shaving her legs - and her armpits, too, she admitted - unless she had
to wear a skirt or a dress. I asked her about her husband and wondered
if he cared that her legs were hairy. She said it didn't bother him
one bit and that they were extremely comfortable together, proclaiming that it was the equivalent of him letting his beard grow in.
That
grossed me out. I'm not someone who always looks put together, and
I'll admit to skipping a couple days of routine shaving, but having
your hair grow in so long that you can comb it? I don't think I'd ever
let that happen and I don't think my SO would appreciate it much either.
Guys, would you ever tolerate hairy legs? And girls, would you ever allow this to happen?
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That's just gross. I shave every time I take a shower, which is daily. I cannot stand to have body hair. It just disgusts me to the point where I'm almost compulsive about shaving.
ew. no way. i mean i slack off sometimes esp. during the winter like everyone else...but I dont like touching my legs when they get hairy so i dont think i could deal with a guy touching them when they're hairy.
Shaving is just a personal choice, which I have chosen to do for myself. I'm not doing it for my SO. But, I do have to say, my guy would be REALLY grossed out if I just stopped shaving my legs/pits/"down there". Some guys just can't stand that sort of thing. It's a personal preference. Just the same as a girl may or may not like a guy with facial hair.
Honestly, after so many years of shaving, I wouldn't be able to stand letting the hair grow in more than (possibly) a week's worth. It'd just make me feel undesirable.
Granted, it's mostly a subjective thing, but yeah, body hair on women turns me off big-time.
I even wrote a whole entry on the topic. http://weblog.xanga.com/esch99/182625831/item.html
But hey, as long as they're both happy with it, that's fine with me. If two people want to balloon up to 400 pounds each, that's ok with me, too.
I'm not that big a fan of body hair either. I hate the way my legs feel when I slack off on shaving and they rub against each other. Razors are good, if not great.
I made a vow to myself when I got engaged that I would never EVER let myself go like that. Gain a few pounds, maybe. No makeup, maybe. But not practicing daily hygiene? NEVER!
NOPE!
Personal hygiene is not about impressing anyone. It should be done for yourself. Having body hair so long that you can comb it?! Ew!
In my opinion the analogy to men growing beards is apt. I really don't think I would care. Hell if it is true love then the appearance of your SO shouldn't really matter much.
Actually the truth is that I don't think I could relate very well with anyone who cared so much about their appearance that they are unable to fathom something so trivial as letting some hair grow on their legs. I am not saying that I would force any SO to quit shaving but if they didn't feel like it I certainly wouldn't try to force them to shave.
i'm asian so my hair is pretty fine. i go months without shaving and no guy has ever complained. i don't think it's a big deal, but maybe it's bc i'm the girl and i'm too lazy. now, if a guy didn't shave, i'm be disgusted.
I think that women shaving their legs has become such a common thing that yes, it grosses some people out.
When us girls turn oh 13 or so, we get our first razor. It's pretty much the material symbol that says, "Woo hoo! I'm a women now!" (Aside from maybe pads or tampons). We're so used to shaving our legs and pits that anyone who doesn't is "weird". Some girls shave their pubic hair, but it's not common enough for people to be grossed out if a women doesn't.
Really, I don't see a problem with it. After all, our hair on our legs and pits is natural, right? What's wrong with being natural?
So, no. I don't have a problem with it. Then again, I'm not interested in women. Only time will tell if my future boyfriend (completely single right now) will care or not about my au naturale hairy-ness. And really, I want a guy who wouldn't care either way.
Peace&love,
Brooke
@mrcolorful@xanga - Amen to that.
The razor is your friend. Shave wisely.
i havent naired in over a year or more... ?? can't even remember the last time I did. It's not that i let myself go... i just tell the person when I'm hooking up that's just how it is b/c my hair is soft and faint.
they always accept it. its fur for the winter.
sometimes i really think people should dress up for themselves too.
I think that in this case, the guy seems to not care, so what's the big deal? If the guy cared, it would be a nice gesture for her to shave more frequently, but it's still her choice.
Any time we see women's legs on TV, they're shaved, so it seems to be the "norm." But I just don't get how hair is so gross... Shaving is personal preference.
@jigsawpuzzle@xanga - I agree! I do it every now and then b/c it makes me feel amazing! People always ask why I'm dressed up and I say "just felt like it" and then they give me this weird look, lol.
I believe it's something natural but at the same time is something that doesn't belong anymore to our current human condition.
Furs in animals are something used to protect from cold temperatures and insects or so. We developed textile culture and fur become useless. I believe that leg hair is natural as jumping on trees. Someone likes doing it, someone else don't.
Anyway I wouldn't really like armpit and legs unshaved in my girlfriend. It would really cool down my excitation and sexual attraction.
Thank gawd, I don't have to shave my legs.
okay i must say that i hate leg hair on my legs. but even still, i don't like shaving everyday. shaving is a big pain in the ass. waxing costs money and sometimes is messy and inconvenient. those creams give me headaches because they smell so "chemically". if i'm not going out to shop or to party or where ever else, i don't like to shave and i won't. no matter how comfortable i would still feel self conscious. i'm pretty sure my bf would mind, so i'd probably shave everyday just for his sake.
but...hey....laser hair removal it is when i can afford the sessions. in a center my friend went to, it's 60$ per session for your underarms and you need 6 sessions....but by the time i get a full time job doing what i want, 360 should be easy enough to save up for.
Ehhh... My boyfriend wouldn't mind, but I know he finds smooth legs sexier... and so do I.
So, my answer is no. I wouldn't let myself go like that.
um ... I just find it amusing that something like leg hair is called gross ... anyways, i agree with mrcolorful ...
to me if it isn't her preference and his then it is just laziness. For me I dress better and look better so my mans eye doesn't wander. I want to look and be a better person for him....but that is just me
My mother lets her leg hair grow pretty long and what's funny is that in Baltimore if she's wearing a skirt or something she gets lots of compliments from both men and women saying how sexy it is. I personally find it disgusting because she'll sometime let it get long enough she could probably braid it if she tried.
@mrcolorful@xanga & @SnowGlobe2954@xanga - Good perspective.
Me, I would much prefer my guy to be as hairless as I am, but they're not my legs, you know? He's responsible for his skin, and me for mine.