Wednesday, 30 July 2008
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Rekindling Romance, Facebook Style
This is a guest blog submitted by a Datingish reader.
I usually only accept people on Facebook who I know or people who tell me that their Facebook account would be "mad cool" if I added them. I even friended a girl who had no intention of getting to know any of her Facebook friends. She told me she didn't have many friends in real life, but she wanted to show people her shoe collection, so she thought she would set up a Facebook account.A couple of days ago I got a friend request from a guy who claimed he knew me in high school. I remember a lot of people from my high school graduating class, but for some reason this guy's name didn't ring a bell, so I didn't add him. Yesterday I got a message from him saying I was the nicest person he ever knew in high school and the way I raised my hand in class rocked his world. He also said he loved this purple shirt I wore.
He went on to tell me about some of the classes we had been in together and explained how he wished he had asked me out back then . . . and he still wanted to ask me out now. Whoa, hold on, buddy!
I'm flattered that my special abracadabra hand raising technique in high school rocked someone's world, but if I was the nicest person he knew, why didn't he introduce himself to me in high school?
I don't know if I should even communicate with this guy to see if has all of his marbles or if he majored in Creepy Facebook Etiquette in college.
Have you started or rekindled a romance with anyone on Facebook? Is it possible to flirt on the site without being a creep?
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I personally think it's a little scary when you have a guy message you saying that they might like you or even give the hint of wanting to hang out... I've gotten comments on my wall asking if I wanted to go to the movies... That's something that you don't ask on facebook.
With my facebook saying that I'm in a relationship, I don't have as many guys asking along but when my boyfriend and I took a break for a couple weeks, I was going crazy.
Ehh, that's a little too creepy for my taste.
Have you got an old year book? Check him out in there to see if his picture helps you remember him. Not that it will make this any less creepy, but at least you'd know (kind of) who he is!!
hahaha...
"i like the way you raise your hand..."
never thought that'd be a pickup line.
No...that just isn't for me. I think it is possible to flirt on the site and not be creepy if you've at least met the person and they're doing it through messages. Other than that, unknown people are creepy.
@MustangSally04@xanga - I looked him up in the yearbook, but I couldn't find him. He told me some stuff that really was a part of my high school experience, so I'm thinking he might be using an alias because he's afraid I might not like him if he told me who he really was.
@Marlee_Jo_Z@xanga - Do more people hook up on Myspace? It's creepy that I couldn't find this guy in my high school yearbook, but some of the stuff he was telling me was a part of my high school experience. It's scary to think that some guy was keeping a close eye on me back then and I didn't even know it. I did have my facebook set to "In a relationship status" before my boyfriend and I broke up, but I still had a couple of guys want to go to the movies with me before the break-up. Some guys are just crrrrrazy.
That is wack!
@melsie - If you can't find him in the yearbook then I would assume that he is probably either a fake account set up by or a friend of someone you went to high school with and the whole purpose is to try and freak you out. Though your alias idea is possible. My recommendation would be to ask him what his name is and if he is hesitant to tell you then it is probably someone just trying to mess with your head.
Unfortunately, I never got a chance to ask him his real name because I offically put him on my "Don't come within 500 feet of me" list. I sent him a message and the only thing I said was "Hi, I don't think I remember you." He then somehow found me on myspace and wrote a 3 paragaph message to me on there, too. That was the last straw.
geez... isn't there enough stalking going on in real life?
creepy!!!
i'd reply, "you've mistaken me for someone else. i wouldn't be caught dead in a purple sweater... and i don't raise my hand to answer questions. i just don't answer."
or to be really mean... you could go with, "you were too chicken to ask me out then and it's too late to start being brave now. so stop messaging me on Facebook."
hooking up on Myspace is evil. Myspace is evil. i deleted my account because there are *way* too many freaks on that. yes... *hangs head in shame* voice of experience. and it was a bad experience.
I had a kid I knew from school do that to me over AIM once...and I was like "dude, what the hell???"
Actually, my boyfriend started talking to me over Facebook. I suppose it would have been creepy if he came onto me in the "You're hot" way and he was from some far-distant city, but upon investigation of his page, I found that he graduated from my high school the year I was a freshman and I actually kind of vaguely remembered him. He said something along the lines of "Hey, I saw you in [I forget what group it was pertaining to where I live]...wanna talk sometime?"...so then we talked for a few weeks over Facebook...and I figured out he wasn't a total creepy skeeze...so then I agreed to go to dinner with him. Turns out to be a pretty good idea so far =]
I think if approached in the right way, flirting on Facebook can work...but if you come on too strong, too soon, then there's no hope of anything.
my ex bf and i got together through facebook. we hadn't talked for a few months and i msged him randomly on fb. we started msging each other back and forth and ended up dating for awhile. if you already know the person, i don't think it's creepy. but, if you randomly add the person as a friend and then try to date, that's a little odd.
@RunningWithScalpels@xanga - I think AIM flirting can be kind of creepy. I once had a guy from work AIM me and tell me he wanted to catch a movie with me. I didn't know who this dude was, but he said I supposedly passed by his cubicle every day. That's cool u found your b/f on there. Have any of your other friends found love on Facebook?
@melsie - Well the whole AIM thing was this kid I knew from school deciding to basically profess his undying love for me, and I was like "What the hell, I never talked to you during school aside from saying "Hi."...how random" Then when I told him we'd be better off as friends he didn't get it..
My friend April found her ex-boyfriend on My Yearbook, which is kinda like Facebook. It went well for a year, but they broke up a couple of weeks ago. The rest of my friends either think it's slightly odd, or don't care how I met my boyfriend.
As for my super-traditional family--as far as they're concerned, I knew Justin from school [When I really only knew him in passing] and we reconnected on Facebook...I think it would be more than their hearts could bear to know that I kind of randomly decided to start talking to this kid...
haha Wow, what a loser.
Advice to people trying to start a Facebook relationship: Don't even bring up the topic of love/sex/relationships for at least 2 weeks, or the first 5 conversations, whichever takes longer. If you ignore my advice, you run a high risk of being labled "creepy".
That's kind of strange that he would contact you after all these years via facebook. I've definitely flirted via facebook, but with people I'd recently met. Not people I knew years ago.
I'm guessing he's not harmful... but just socially awkward... a lot.I would say give him a restraining order via super poke!
XD great pick up line
@melsie - you know honestly, i think more people hook up on myspace than facebook because on facebook, everyone knows of everyone... there are networks and to me, it feels safer... but i mean, myspace is open and free to anybody who can contact you. unless you put your myspace page on private, you can talk to anyone. i don't know... men are crazy. i guess it's just in their genes.
haha I'm not going to lie, this sounds pretty sketchy to me. If you have no idea who he is, I'd ignore this. I've had some pretty creepy people find me on facebook before.
it sounds like he's making it up. he's probably a stranger. most girls have purple shirts...he probably took a guess
sounds like fun to me!! haha...not that i think ur stupid to be scared or anything!! it just would have been fun if i were you!! after all he is on facebook talking instead of calling u or knocking on ur door, no dangers encountered...
i would keep chatting with this guy, cus maybe he is playing u, u at the same time r playing him as well..nothing to worry about i suppose.
but anyway, good luck with you and if you really are freaked, just ignore him and don't read his messages...if he finds out ur not interested or u know he was playing, he would stop.. :)
Don't add people you don't know. Keep it safe and clean. No need to have creeps talking about what they loved to do with you or anything.