Wednesday, 23 July 2008
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Poll: Would You Let Your Ex Hook You Up with Someone New?
A Datingish reader writes...
I just found out about this dating reality show on Bravo where this woman is being set up with the help of none other than her ex-fiance.
I don't watch much TV anymore, but I honestly don't know what to think about the whole premise.
Funny thing is, this TV show isn't the first I've ever heard of an ex hooking up an old partner - even my 'Dating For Dummies' book had a section about exes hooking up other exes.
Would you let your ex hook you up? Why or why not?
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Probably not. As a Psychologist Wannabe, I firmly believe it's too easy to get stuck in a cycle of falling for the same type of guy without realizing it. My ex wasn't a bad guy, but not the healthiest situation for me. If I'd allowed him to hook me up with someone based on what he knew I was attracted to or the type of guy I'm prone to date, that to me just perpetuates the cycle. I hope that makes sense. I tend to speak a lot of Nerd Jive. ~Andi
Haha. No.
NO
I would say... no.
Wow... thst is so wrong but I wouldn't help them find someone else, they can do that all on their own. :D
It would depend on the ex. If they knew me really well and it was an amicable split, then I can think of no one better to...ah...set me up.
Sure, as long as they don't plan on sticking the connector cord on my nads or up my bunghole...
Beam me up baby :P
LOL ACTUALLY...that depends...if she's the "friendly we had a hot loving-freaky-deaky kinda thing going on but now we're just good friends" ex, then sure why not?
But if she's the "calls you 500 times in a month and orders a "photo cake" commerating yearly anniversary of the first dump you took in her apartment, and has 1000's of photos of you taken from various angles of hidden brush and from up in trees like a monkey" kinda ex...then it MIGHT not be a good idea yaknow? :)
Hasta la weekend peoples,
Chet
i guess i would check out who he has in mind for me but ultimately i still make the choices
no
Lame question...
One... I don't control my ex's behavior, so it really doesn't matter...
Two...I don't control my friends, so it REALLY doesn't matter...
Three...If she's an ex, she's an ex for a reason...Have fun with my leftovers...
Four...It shouldn't be awkward if you're mature and civil about it...and if hanging out with them means you're losing friends, then they aren't friends you should even keep...
No, no, no. I could only IMAGINE the kind of guy he would want to hook me up with. Just the thought of that makes me cringe.
@the_last_kiss - Agreed. Assuming the ex knows you well and has your best interests in mind, he/she should be the best matchmaker.
I get along with most of my exes, and there are a few who I even consider very close friends (for the record, the tend to be the ones that I was with when we were both pretty young and not very serious), but we don't generally hook each other up. Still, if any of them (save one) were to come to me and say, "hey, give me a hand?" I totally would, and if they were to say "I think that you might like this person" I'd meet the person, definitely. I wouldn't let them set me up on a blind date, but my theory is that they have at least an idea of what I like, so there's no harm in letting them introduce me to people, right?
And if any of my friends were to ask for an introduction, I wouldn't hesitate unless I thought they wouldn't work. Hell, I know them both, and I obviously like them both, so why not let them have their fun, right?
For the most part, my exes and I are pretty good friends, so I would definitely let them set me up with someone, and I think they would let me do the same. At this point, it would be more like a friend setting me up than anything else.
if he's cute, why not? if he doesn't want me, i won't stop him from finding someone that does!
Okay firstly, I don't really believe in "hooking people up". It's never good to try to force a relationship upon two people. Introducing people to each other is fine, and you may let things "flow" from there. But blind dates, especially from your ex... You may not know his/her intentions. It's a different situation if you and your ex haven't dated for a long time and/or are close friends.
Depends on who the ex is..
if it's some one I deeply loved and dumped me then no, because then it feels like they're just taking pity on me.
if I dumped him, then that would also be a no, because it'd just be awkward.
if it was however a mutual break up then yes. It's not awkward, I haven't been hurt by him, and we've probably spent enough time together for him to know what I'm looking for.