Wednesday, 23 July 2008
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Poll: Would You Let Your Ex Hook You Up with Someone New?
A Datingish reader writes...
I just found out about this dating reality show on Bravo where this woman is being set up with the help of none other than her ex-fiance.
I don't watch much TV anymore, but I honestly don't know what to think about the whole premise.
Funny thing is, this TV show isn't the first I've ever heard of an ex hooking up an old partner - even my 'Dating For Dummies' book had a section about exes hooking up other exes.
Would you let your ex hook you up? Why or why not?
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Nope. There was a reason we broke up, and I don't think it would be best to bring them back into my life for any reason.
No way!!!!! I wouldn't let my ex hook me up at all!!!! O_o
It would feel to uncomfortable and awkward. :\
no!!!
No. I think that could possibly open up a whole can of worms, including possible blackmail, jealousy, and what have you.
I guess it would sound promising for your ex to hook you up with someone else, since they'd know what you like or dislike..just what you're looking for. However, I don't really think I'd let my ex do that because she might be angry at me on the inside, and her help might just be her sending me to hell with a totally opposite person. If that's not the case, I still wouldn't let her do that because that new person could be my ex's friend...more than just an acquaintance, and I wouldn't necessarily want my ex to be telling her about our past. If she'd like to know, better that it comes from my mouth than my ex. Just simple.
well my ex did say he would highly recommend me to someone else...LOL
hmm...I guess I'm not opposed to the idea, but I don't have any exes.
And actually, I don't really plan on having any. For quite some time I've felt that the first man I dated would be the one I'd marry. Not that it has to be that way, of course. I'm not one to settle for much less than perfection.
@maybmaybnot@xanga - bitter ex's suck.
Ha, I see ads for this show all the time in the subway and in the corner there's this thing that says "recycle your ex." I think it's an auction or something where you can sign your ex up. I would kill any of my exes if they did that to me. I might let some of my exes hook me up though. I just don't want to be auctioned off like a used car.
My ex couldn't understand what I wanted or felt, hence why he is my ex. Because he lacks that understanding, I don't think I could trust him to find someone who could. Lol.
i'd say no. the last thing i want around an ex is to be around them, let alone people they know.
first of all my ex is not exactly the kind of person that hangs around faithful people I mean come on if they are hanging around him then something needs to be wrong with them.... nothing against him.. thats his own personal decision
but out of everyone to pick someone out for me... even on my death bed i would not allow my ex to pick out someone for me...
what am i crazy
i think we all want our exs to be happy...but of course ONLY after we've found happiness ourselves.
so i think it would be easy to do the show if i already had my own bf and want to help my ex be as happy as me. sound dumb? i think its a logical way to think about it...at least let me sleep knowing exs on the show arent trying to hook them up with horrible people trying to make their exs suffer. gah! I just ruined a logical positive post
no. i could find someone new myself.
and it would feel like adding insult to injury. it's like the ex is giving me away! and that he wants me out of his life FAST!
He'd probably set me up with freaks.
absolutely. I'm friends with most of my exes, and the ones I'm friendly with all know me well. Why not?
let him? why on earth would i do that? more importantly... why on earth would he want to do that?
my most recent ex is a deadbeat... so for sure, i wouldn't let him come near me, let alone hook me up with someone.
the ex before him... well... we're on really good terms and everything, but i just think it'd be weird. even if there are good intentions, i see emotional baggage getting in the way. too cluttered... and too much room for complication. i'd rather just keep all that business separate.
This question seems oxymoronic...
If its your "ex"...
how do you have any right to say who they hook up with?
There is no "letting" involved.
::Rico::
I would have said no two years ago, but my first ex DID set me up with my current, and very serious boyfriend, and it's been the best relationship I've ever had!
My ex and I didn't have the closest relationship. Most of the time, it was mostly like we were caving/rappeling/hiking buddies with kissing benefits. After the breakup, we were still amiable, though distant, friends.
But he knew me well enough to know, when one of his friends showed interest in me, that the two of us had real potential. Good for him! He's been a really good ex-boyfriend. If possible, I would totally set him up if his kind of girl came my way.
Depends on the ex. I have ex's from the past that are some of my closest most trusted friends.
One of my exes is now my best friend, so of course I'd let him hook me up.
Seeing as the reason that all of my ex's are under that title because I was not attatched to them enough to stay with them on a more than friendly basis . . . yes. I would and yes, I have.
For me, if the gentleman was my ex, then he already wouldn't know what I want, so why would I entrust him with my future relationships if he can't even understand what would work for me?
That or he was just a selfish ass who didn't want to do the normal things people do in relationships (help one another, sacrifices, togetherness, etc.)
Xo
...probably about as much as I would be willing to let my mother.