Poll: Would You Let Your Ex Hook You Up with Someone New?

Wednesday, 23 July 2008

Poll: Would You Let Your Ex Hook You Up with Someone New?
A Datingish reader writes...

I just found out about this dating reality show on Bravo where this woman is being set up with the help of none other than her ex-fiance.

I don't watch much TV anymore, but I honestly don't know what to think about the whole premise.

Funny thing is, this TV show isn't the first I've ever heard of an ex hooking up an old partner - even my 'Dating For Dummies' book had a section about exes hooking up other exes.

Would you let your ex hook you up? Why or why not?

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My answer will be no if I had an ex.
- 7/23/2008 3:44 PM
- my_final_username@xanga (message)
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i don't think i would talk to her again, but i might if she's the cool kind of ex and not the hating kind.
- 7/23/2008 3:46 PM
- wewong@xanga (message)
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No thanks.
let bygones be bygones.
- 7/23/2008 3:49 PM
- Keeko1@xanga (message)
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no
- 7/23/2008 4:00 PM
- tequila_sky@xanga (message)
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Definitely. Assuming that Ex really does know me well, and really does have my best interests in mind.
If so, then whoever she would set me up with would probably be a better match than some other random meet.
Chieko had actually set me up with June, and that turned out to be an excellent thing.
- 7/23/2008 4:05 PM
- the_last_kiss (message)
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No. He never really got to know me that well, and it would just be awkward.
- 7/23/2008 4:34 PM
- EccentricSiren@xanga (message)
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None of my exes know me well enough to be able to choose someone for me. They all fixated on a mere fraction of my personality and thought that's who I was. They never looked beyond what they wanted to see. I wouldn't trust them to know enough about me to choose someone with whom I'd be in the least bit compatible.
-Katie
- 7/23/2008 4:35 PM
- akatiegirl (message)
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sure, I doubt any of them would though
- 7/23/2008 4:39 PM
- Konrado@xanga (message)
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at least not with anyone more attractive... women are conniving like that
- 7/23/2008 4:40 PM
- Konrado@xanga (message)
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This would depend on a number of things.
Among the more important would be the reasons for breaking up and what our relationship was like currently.
- 7/23/2008 4:46 PM
- mrcolorful@xanga (message)
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it's a sad state of affairs when the most watched shows on tv are reality shows. I hate reality tv.
- 7/23/2008 4:48 PM
- shadow720@xanga (message)
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I think I would let them hook me up if they wanted to, but I probably wouldn't be willing to hook up any of my exes. That would probably be too hard for me to do.
- 7/23/2008 5:01 PM
- SnowGlobe2954@xanga (message)
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I'd let him if he legitimately found someone he thought would fit, which is somewhat unlikely. But overall, he does know me, and he knows what I want in a relationship and in a romantic partner. I just don't think he knows anyone.
- 7/23/2008 5:15 PM
- MosaicdeVertigo@xanga (message)
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Yes, absolutely.
I've never ended a relationship on bad terms, and I hope that I never have to do so.
- 7/23/2008 5:27 PM
- la_faerie_joyeuse@xanga (message)
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@Konrado@xanga - no no no...not all women. it really just depends if she had your best interest. if I was your ex and I really cared about you I would set you up with someone suitable to your personality and of course, sexy as hell. I would want to see you happy.

now those bitter ex's...never let them anywhere near your life. lol
- 7/23/2008 5:31 PM
- maybmaybnot@xanga (message)
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never say never.
- 7/23/2008 5:33 PM
- maybmaybnot@xanga (message)
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prolly not ... mine would prolly all try to sabotage me. i did watch the real housewives when jo was in the show so i was excited to see this show. it's so boring!
- 7/23/2008 5:42 PM
- n3ssaac@xanga (message)
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HELL NO! While it's nice to remain friendly with an ex after a break-up... beneath it all, it's a game of "who is happier than who", or the game "who is going to die alone!" While it's great that my ex is happy, I would still want him to know that I'm happier (and im happy without him!) I guess it's kinda harsh, but it's reality.
- 7/23/2008 5:42 PM
- key19@xanga (message)
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It really depends on the ex. Not all break-ups are amicable or clean and thus limits such an option. In the end, if you and your ex have a really good relationship and the relationship occurred a sufficiently long time ago, I think it's possible that it could work. Honestly though, I highly doubt it would really work out.
- 7/23/2008 6:06 PM
- yakko1@xanga (message)
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honestly...if i had an ex...i wouldn't care....it's his choice...it would hurt...but if we're not meant to be together then that's that.
- 7/23/2008 6:22 PM
- midge4ever@xanga (message)
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I would prefer not to. When it comes to exes I don't really talk to them much after the relationship as ended. There have been a few of my exes that have become good friends of mine, so are they still exes? Techincally, yes, but if they would be hooking me up with someone it would be a "friend" helping a "friend".

Secondly, they would have no clue what I'm looking for. Well, even I don't know half the time. I would have to examine their motives if some random ex decided to do that. They're either setting me up for an innocent blind date, or setting me up for revenge.
- 7/23/2008 6:24 PM
- deepcreekkid@xanga (message)
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No, I would be suspicious if it happened. What's the intention of hooking you up with someone else when it didn't work out between the both of us?
- 7/23/2008 6:31 PM
- scmay@xanga (message)
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No, there'd probably be some serious sabotage..
- 7/23/2008 6:51 PM
- Queens___Boulevard@xanga (message)
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No way.
- 7/23/2008 7:26 PM
- loreleicolton@xanga (message)
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i broke up with my ex because i cant trust him...i surely wouldnt trust him to pick out a boyfriend for me! lol, might be a killer or somebody....
- 7/23/2008 7:46 PM
- College_Ruled11X85@xanga (message)
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