Let's say you were walking down the street and bumped into the absolute love of your life. He or she is exactly what you look for in a significant other both mentally, physically and emotionally.
What specific qualities would your lovahhhh possess?
(MDS' would be a tall, sarcastic dreamboat with an IQ of 150 who could appreciate - but not understand - her Britney Spears obsession and tolerate her tendencies to eat popcorn for dinner. He should be able to cook, be good with kids and willing to have at least two dogs in the house. Hairy chested gentlemen need not apply. She has a feeling this gentleman does not exist anywhere on Earth.)
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Taller than me - although not too much because then I end up looking like a toddler or something. Dark hair, preferably every so slightly curly and kept long enough on top to be able to curl. Kind of 'artistic' looking, sensitive eyes etc with expressive fingers if you get what I mean?
Smarter than me - ie: IQ higher than mine, and willing to debate things. Open, and a good conversationalist. Mature mostly, but able to still be silly everyso often. Has to care for his appearance sometimes, but not more than I care about mine.
In a good job, that he loves. No lost souls please. Not because of the money, but he should understand that money and responsibilities are important (although not the be all and end all). I don't mind if he can't cook, but he would have to understand that I may not want to took brilliantly every night.
Meticulously tidy (to make up for the fact that I'm not) and a pet lover... dog or cat, I haven't decided yet.
Ability to remember to shave would be great. Patchy facial hair brought on by laziness is never a good look.
Okay, I'm gonna go all gag-worthy, so feel free to wretch...
But if I tried to describe my perfect someone, I'd just be describing my fiance. (Yeah, yeah, here's a cup. If you're gonna spew, spew into this.) Seriously, though...he's a nice guy with enough of a cynical edge to appeal to the girl in me who likes a bad boy, but he's supersweet to me, super smart, and he loves me for me. Not to mention how frighteningly well he fits into my family. Seriously, it's a little bit scary*lol*.
-Katie
MDS? I know someone like that...
Mine is whomever will love me forever...
Alrighty.
I sort of go both ways, so here's my ideal MALE SO:
He should have long hair, at least down to his shoulder, and he should take care of his hair as well. He can have any colored eyes, but his eyes have to be gorgeous - you know those eyes you can't take your eyes off?
Yeah, those.
Piercings / tattoos are welcome, as long as they're not too crazy or if there's not too many of them.
Sarcasm! Must have. You can never have too much of that, you know. He should have amazing music taste which includes classic rock, and if he can play an instrument, that's a major turn on. If he's in a band, even better, as long as he leaves the drug part out of the whole Sex, Drugs & Rock 'n' Roll thing. xD
He shouldn't be a nancy boy, but he should be emotional. If I have a hard day, I don't want to come home to an inhuman, selfish jerk, I want to come home to someone who can comfort me.
He should be amazing with massages. If he's not good at it, then he shouldn't even bother coming after me.
I don't want a baby. I hate kids. And while I love a guy with a sense of humor, I do want him to be able to be serious as well. Also, I don't want a psycho, depressed OCD freak. Go to a mental hospital, I'm not your shrink.
What else? Must be intelligent. Must have a good vocabulary. Must love GOOD movies, not just 'bam! bam! the car explodes' kind of movies.
He has to be able to cook, because I still don't know how, so unless he wants to get food poisoning from my cooking, then he should cook for me. Italian food, preferably. ^_^
Good hygiene is a must. Nothing pisses me off more than dirt under your nails. I think this person doesn't exist, but this would be my perfect male SO.
Now onto the lovely ladies.
Emotionally and mentally, I ask for the same - intelligence, sense of humor and being able to be comforting and serious when needed.
Physically, all I really care about is long hair - preferably brown or red or maybe even black hair. Sorry, I hate blondes. I don't want a preppy, dramatic chick who makes a big deal out of everything, I want someone just like me - laidback, relaxed, with a NORMAL amount of everything.
She should have a nice chest, but it's not a must, after all, I'm not shooting for Ms. America.
So yeah, I'm asking for too much, but I bet if I thought about this longer, I could have even more things to add to the list.
Most importantly, all the other things don't matter as much as this:
He / she has to love me. ^_^
Unconditionally, eternally.
Mine would basically be my current boyfriend. I think I'm stuck in the "Unicorn" stage right now still. But no- he's so perfect.
He should be sarcastic and slightly cynical to understand/tolerate those parts of me... Taller than myself, which typically isn't too tough for most men, I am 5'6". Into health/fitness but still has days when he just eats wings and beer. Good teeth (not perfect, necessarily, just not really messed up) is an absolute must, as it is one of the first things I look at...
He needs to have a sex drive at least as strong as mine, as the last several guys I dated did not, which is exceptionally unfortunate.
And most importantly, I want him to love me as much as I love him...
Are you anywhere?
I have mine right now. Beautiful smile, sarcastic, impatient, eyes like the sea. Oh, and great in bed! =P
Beautiful, intelligent, has a love for fashion, great style, good conversationalist.
Clean, looks good, smells even better, has to be able to cook at least as well as I [and I can barely cook].
Tolerating of me, yet knows when to put her foot down. I like to have control in the relationship, but I don't want a pushover for a Mrs. Right. Must have a sense of confidence.
Very important thing is that they have to have an open mind. Would not mind trying new things, and definitely have to enjoy traveling.
Physical: He would be 6'1, with broad shoulders and narrow hips. He would be strong, with amazing abs. He would have dark or red hair, with bright green eyes and AMAZING LIPS.
Political: Anarchist/Libertarian/Minimalist/Capitalist
Religious: None/Apathetic/Agnostic/Atheist
Mental: at least as intelligent as I am
Emotional: an adult who can work through his problems, who believes in stable, long-term, monogamous relationships, and has never had a significant failure in relationships before (e.g., cheating).
Other: Strong academic interests, wealth, kindness (to me! Arrogance towards others), witty/sarcastic/political/dark/occasionally dry sense of humor, talent in an art he's willing to share with me (writing, music, theater, or vis arts), a good cook who doesn't mind doing dishes (I'll clean everything else if he'll just do that!) Someone who can understand where I'm going on a tirade, but will let me finish, then provide something I haven't thought of before to complete my thought or make me laugh. Someone I can be best friends with, but also have crazy passionate sex with, and who will make me feel safe and warm.
I'm pretty sure that's it. My current SO has most of the above. Physically, he's a bit off of this mark, but still hot (5'10, black, nice abs, slim but toned figure). I'm still completely satisfied with his physical appearance. He's unfortunately not as intelligent or witty as I'd like, but he is more than kind and patient enough to make up for it.
Already found him.
Not interested in having any pets
Someone who does not want have kids
Hair color - I got asked once what was wrong with the person who asked me to be their boyfriend by some of the people who went to the same training provider in 2002/2003 during their NVQs
I prefer dark hair, skin color does not bothered me much (but I dont go for looks first, I look at personality first)
Understanding, kind/honest, good humor.
@GainingMyIdentity@xanga - "He needs to have a sex drive at least
as strong as mine, as the last several guys I dated did not, which is
exceptionally unfortunate. "
I KNOW! I thought men were supposed to want sex all the time.
Upon reading all the responses, it seems that my bf fits the bill on most of them. His worst fault is that he can be boring, but only if you don't know him well or if he's tired. But, men like you describe do exist! ...somewhere.
@Cest_LaxVie@xanga - People like you describe really do exist, I promise! So don't get discouraged, just keep looking.
@Nikolais_apprentice@xanga - Hmm?
Looks are not really all that important, and age isn't really a factor either (so long as they fall within 10 years younger and up). Being employed (at whatever profession) is a good thing, and being self-sufficient is a must, but there are more important things, too.
My perfect man is HONEST, polite, has a great sense of humour (quirky, dark, whatever), is not a doormat (or a mama's boy), and isn't a narcissistic sociopath. Keeping up with me in the sack would be nice, but quality makes up for quantity (provided he's not a super-subbie who just wants his arse whupped!)
Not too long a list, and I'm not willing to settle, but finding a guy who fits this bill hasn't been easy, and I'm sure it's far from over.
Personally, I don't care how they look as long as they have good hygiene (i.e. shower daily, change and wash their clothes often.)
I prefer someone intelligent with a strong academic background. Someone with a great personality, humorous, laid back, and well rounded. And someone who can keep up a conversation with me. As much as I love talking I don’t want to be the only one talking.
Overall, I just prefer someone who has a stable lifestyle.
smart and funny
perfect SO--
short hair huge gauges tall lanky enjoys lil' wayne >_<
Ahaha. This will be fun. How long is my list gonna be???
I guess anyone who is able to cope with my slight cynicism, understands WHY I'm not into much PDA (you know those couples----the doing it standing up in public couples. EW). I also am not mushy and stuff, but I proably will sooner or later, but chances are, probably that will never happen. He has to deal with that and that my tounge is sharper than Simon Cowell. (Simon and I will probably be BFF's if we knew each other) Someone who will understand my obsession to work out, and do yoga and not question it. Ever.
I think about everything and everything, so keep that in mind.
Also I have a "you can look but not touch" thing. No explanation needed.
Probably someone a bit older than I am. No metrosexuals thank you. Someone who is a little bit on the rugged side. Likes to barbecue, and do outdoorsy stuff. Mr. Fixits are very very welcome. Being that I'm kind of slow when it comes to that stuff :)
I'm into millitary men and COPS. Keep that in mind. Yum Haha.
I was just thinking about this while watching tv. I just want someone who loves tennis almost as much as I do (among other sports, so he can teach me); he has to be taller than me (please, at least four inches taller, which means 6' minimum); and he has to be willing to cook, while I wash dishes (I am NOT cooking); he also has to let me handle the money and he has to be a Christian. Actually, that should be number 1 :) Once he's a Christian, everything else should fall into place.
I think that almost anyone's ideal SO is another version of themselves.
For me, just anyone I can get along with. That doesn't smoke.
A good man is like a good steak:
Hot, Beefy, Rich, Tender and Aged.
@thousandthdish@xanga - You would be talking about the dry-aged, 48oz bone-in Porterhouse, rare and scorched chicago-style I assume, good sir?
With a side of creamed spinach and yorkshire pudding like a proper steakhouse, no doubt.
Preferrably black/brown/blonde long/medium hair. I like Caucasian girls. I'd be captivated by her bright smile and adorable gestures [free from pretentions]. A slender/average curvaceous figure, of which my arms could safely protect. I wouldn't mind either way if she's slightly taller or shorter, just not too much of a difference. Age isn't a huge issue with me, 'long as there's not too much difference [five years above or below, idk].
She'd be devoted, self-sufficient, strong-willed, kind, witty, clever, and intelligent/educated. A person willing to try her best for us, our relationship, and our future [which leads to a nice job].
And I find all that and more, in my current girlfriend.