By
Miss Double Shot
I went out with a guy (thankfully, only once) who was a year and a half
younger than I was. He kept asking me how much older I was, and when he
realized that I wasn't underage like he was, he started to drop hints
about how he really wanted a fake ID. Fine, whatever.
He kept asking if I knew of any places he could go to get a fake; I
said no. "If you go with me, you can probably get it for me!" he told
me.
I left. Hope he got his fake!
Although I've never experienced it myself, a friend was stuck dating a
girl whose only intention in dating was to spite her new ex so she
could say she was seeing other people before he was. That's classy.
I'm all for meeting other people, but wasting others' time for personal gain is inexcusable.
Have you ever been stuck on a date where you knew you were being used?
Recommend
Comments (23)
Sadly, that happens to me a lot. Girls hoodwink me into taking them out on dates just so they can get back at their exes.
I dated a girl in high school because she wanted to make her ex jealous...funny thing was...he never did and we ended up breaking up and getting back together about as many times as Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee...truly a passionate love/hate relationship.
Homecoming Freshman year of high school. I think she said a total of maybe seven words to me the entire night including hello and goodbye. She didn't want the shame of not having a date for homecoming.
I'm dating a girl right now who was trying to use me to make her ex jealous, and had no intentions of dating me at all. So I decided to break all the rules and take out my game. Now she's starting to fall for me. I'm just waiting for the right time to break her heart. Possibly right after meeting her parents, and getting her parents to accept me.
Why? Cos' I was pissed and playing head games with girls that did it to you is fun. ^.^"
Nope.... sorry to hear about this tard and he wasted your time.
my boyfriend's mom went on a date and my boyfriend asked, "did you kiss him?" and she said, "no its the first date!" he told her, "why not?! he went through all the trouble of taking you out and paying for your dinner and whatever and you didn't even give him a kiss?! when i take a girl out, i expect at least a kiss, if not more!" i constantly remind him he's a dog.
a guy that i dated only took me out to try and get me into bed. the only thing i gave him was blue balls.
Ugh. I went through a two and a half year relationship being used by said guy. I mean, yeah, we did do a lot for each other, but when I ended up getting out of the relationship, I realized that I was way deeper in a hole than he would ever be. He dated me because he knew I was financially stable and was compassionate enough to help him out and I dated him because I thought he actually cared.
Depressing when I found out that I was pretty much there just as his cash crop. Too bad it lasted as long as it did.
It's really dismal when anyone gets stuck in a relationship where another person ends up using them. I can only hope that people get out of those situations before getting as deeply stuck in one like I did.
Nope, never been there yet...
Yeah, how about to fulfill his sexual desires?
Bah.
Fortunately, no. I did, however, date a guy who somehow thought it was okay, during the first hour of our first (and only!!) date, how soon I planned to sleep with him. Needless to say, I never went out with him again.
I don't think I've been on a "date" where I was being used, but I can think of a particular friendship where I'm constantly being used and abused. We only speak when it is convenient for her or she needs something. I get absolutely nothing in return. I hear from her just often enough to keep her on my mind, such that I can't have her but I can't get rid of her either. I'd change my phone number if it wasn't so inconvenient to let everyone ELSE know the new one...
I once paid for a date's roomates dinner. She ordered food to go, in addition to our meal. I thought it was for her kid (yes, I was trying to be fair by dating a mom), I later found out it was for her roomate/babysitter. Good times.
I've been on the date where the guy ends up talking a lot about his ex. Come on, on the first date??? Sigh...
Yes. That happened with an ex-boyfriend of mine 2 years ago. When he found out my age (I'm 13 years younger than him), he tried finding ways to get me into bed with him. He didn't even have the opportunity to get to know me. :\ It took me a while to realize his intentions, but I'm glad I did.
Now, I have someone who appreciates me as a person and not as some tool. :\
Yes.
He gets close (e.g. choosing to sit beside me or whispering in my ear) only when his crush(es) is(are) around just to make her(them) jealous. Other than that, he frequently brushes me off with his unpredictable extreme mood swings / tries to stay as far apart as possible (e.g. knowing that if he didn't leave, he'd be alone in the same classroom with me. so he left with another guy friend to study in the sch lib)
but i have to admit perhaps his reason for doing this was because i unconsciously "used" him to make my crush jealous.
Honestly it wasn't done on purpose because he was a really close friend, someone whom i could talk to. But it was then when i got close to him that i realised my crush got jealous often.
it's a pretty sad now that our friendship seems superficial,
i never intended it to be this way ):
i think sometimes rather than see it in a negative way, you can see it as a way to probably chose people who appreciate you rather than just " shove" you down" the wrong way.
This is truly a mutually exclusive world, we can't really say people make use of each other, but, more of one is willing to be made us of and the other is going to make use of us.
We win some and we lose some.
Yes, but you eventually learn that you'll get the respect you demand, or you'll get nothing. And I'd rather get nothing than be treated like a recyclable.
i guess I happened to be at the right place at the right time when i asked this girl out who just move into town. we dated for a month and a half before she dumped me. when I asked her what happened? she said she was feeling lonely being in a new place and needed company and someone to help her. so I guess after she got all settle in she didn't need me anymore...I hate being used.
@iscaphia@xanga - geez, why not just fall for her, too?
no
I have dated 2 guys only because they sold my drug of choice. I did like them, but I think I had to convince myself of that. I would never sell myself short like that again, but looking back I don't really feel bad about it. Guys date girls just for sex all the time, and I'm sure they were dating me because they thought they might get it, so it is what it is. I was young at the time and have learned from it, but I don't feel bad for the guy.
xo
not yet. i can tell when an invite is intended for using me.
no, but if I found out I wouldn't stick around.